Ok I was in a relationship for over 3 years and we got along great but we broke up recently (a month ago) because he cheated on me. I am still madly in love with this man and has nothing to do with me being nieve or having low self esteem because I am none of those things, I am in love because of the way he made and makes me feel, and that is good about myself, he has been here for me consistantly and our connection is miracle to me, the reason why I say that because sure there are alot of people are in a relationship were they can co-exist with one another, meaning they can go out and have a decent time, ect. but I really loved being around this man, we meshed together so well and were so intune with one another it was scary. He is my best friend and I know he loves me, (I don't think) I am aware of what he has done and I know as soon as people here the word CHEAT b4 they read anything else they arleady have the advice ready and that is get rid of him or her. But should I end everythi
2006-10-25 12:39:50 · 12 answers · asked by Thandie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
should I end everything or keep a freindship? It is very hard in this lifetime to find people who will be there for you no matter what. Serious answers please, I am supposed to meet with him tomarrow. and i want to lay everything on the table, and move forward or move on.
2006-10-25 12:41:52 · update #1
S. Blue, You know what? You maybe surprised but, my answer to your question is Yes, Some relationships are worth saving, and from the sounds of it, yours may be one of them. Know why I say that?
Well let me tell you why, Human Nature is something else, we are very loving, & emotional beings, and Love is one of the most strongest emotions that we have and when you find someone who makes you feel all of those things then, hey why not try to save it?
See, I am a married woman, and when I decided to marry my husband that meant the good times and bads times, so If he had cheated on me I would not be running off to sign devorice papers because I know my husband, and I know he is not a bad disrepectful man and he loves me as well. See when we are young we do things, that are silly that is what being young is about, I am not going to tell you to leave him alone and never speak to this "dog ever again" Because I can not say that about him, I do not know him he may be the best thing that has ever happen to you in your life and why would I take that from you because of what I may have been through? Listen to your heart & soul okay, If you can see yourself growing old at the side of this young man then hey stay and give it all you have because he maybe your one,and he may be worth it, I hope this helps okay..............................
2006-10-25 12:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 19:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the problem was waiting until it was "too late". You mentioned the neglect has been happening for some time now. THAT is when communication and counseling should have been happening, in the beginning. When you are married, two become one. That means when he is going through something, it is your "problem" too in the sense that there is a responsibility to get help. I understand not tolerating drug use and maybe you need a separation but the neglect and drug use is something that you can move past if you are willing to give it a chance and get help. Sometimes a person has to hit rock bottom before they can get back up to the top again. I say def give it a try and work together. If you can get through, and past, this - you could come out stronger and WITH your family intact!
2016-05-22 14:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some relationships worth saving...but it depends on certain circumstances.
It is NOT worth saving if he cheated on you more than once, was more than a kiss, or snuck around to do it. How could you ever trust someone who has lied to you and betrayed you.
If he cheated on you once and it was just a kiss..AND he admitted it...then I could see how that is forgivable. People make stupid mistakes, especially when they are young.
You have to remember that if you do choose to forgive him that you really have to accept what has happened. If you keep bringing it up and fighting, there is no point of getting back together with him. You will both be miserable. He also has to understand that you will have trust issues and to be patient. He will need to earn his trust back, will he be willing to go through that to save the relationship? Think about all the work that it will take to save the relationship if you decide to stay in it. Is it worth all the effort? Will he think it is worth the effort?
I know you are thinking how wonderful the relationship was before he cheated but remember it will not be like that again for awhile. Before you trusted him..and he never hurt you this way...things have changed.
Think about how your relationship will be if you get back together with him...not how it was.
2006-10-25 13:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone makes mistakes. and everyone can learn from them. i cheated before, but i realize i cheated because i didn't respect the one i was with. make sure he respects you. You CAN find the right person and the wrong time. it is rare to find a soulmate. If you find him, hold onto him either as a boyfriend or friend.
you may not believe this...but everyone has a spirit guide. THey help us along the pathway of life. They nudge you at crosspoints in your life. Try to listen to your heart(as cliche as that sounds) and see where your guide is nudging u.
2006-10-25 12:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by dso116 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were there for you no matter what he would never have cheated on you.
You mention how he makes you feel....how do you feel with him cheating on you?
Read your question as though you best girlfriend or your sister is telling you this stuff...I hope you would tell her to leave him.
2006-10-25 12:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my experience, I would say end it, and have a friendship...you have shared so many things with this person, and he obviously means so much. Keep him into your life...just as long as he is ok with it...and share the things that mean most to you with him...
2006-10-25 12:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by shootdadeputy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-06 09:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the important thing to find out is why did he feel he had to go to another person??
talk talk and more talk ---- resolve your fears and problems and keep doing it
2006-10-25 12:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
too long to read that. But hey two cool points
2006-10-25 12:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋