how do i tell my man i don't trust him..........?

Question

without starting a argument or big problem

Answer 1

I don't know maybe you should sit him down and juist say it nicly

Answer 2

you can't. if you find any way around that, please tell me because when i tried... it did not work and turned into permanently hurting his feelings and breaking his heart. He cheated on me a long time ago but blah blah we got back together and we love each other more than anything, he's my best friend and i would honestly never be able to live one day without him, and i still after two years cannot fully 100% trust him. everytime i talk to him on the phone and i ever hear the slightest sound of another girls voice, even if it's one of my friends, i get super jealous and nervous what might be happening behind my back. It's hard to tell your man you don't trust him.. maybe instead, work on things to help reassure yourself that you CAN trust him. When you see him with other women, or think about him cheating on you or lieing to you, think about all the good things he's ever done for you, think of all the times he's told you the honest truth, and think about how he'd feel if you DID tell him you didn't trust him. If you can't and just have to talk it over.. you're man is either going to understand and feel hurt, or immediately apologize and try to work things out. If you cant trust him no matter what.. then maybe you guys should think twice about how good your relationship is together.. and in that case and argument shouldnt really matter.

Hope that helped. =)

Answer 3

There's no way you can say it without it causing some kind of argument. Mostly because he's going to get defensive. But when you set him down to talk about it, watch your town. You won't want to throw around any attitude of the defense-o-meter will skyrocket and nothing will get handled. If it's just an aching suspision and deep down you don't think it's anything, just a feeling, let him know and let him know that you're just going to need some reassurances for a while until you get over it. If you have any situations you thought were shady, let him know in a way where you're not saying you know something happened, but just that it came off like something was up.

Do you have any specific evidence that lead you to this? Or is it just a feeling?

Answer 4

when you have your man in a sweet compromising position (kissing or whatever) say in your sweetest sexiest voice: "Honey do you think I'm irrational for being scared that this is not gonna last forever? I love you soo much and it scares me that you may one day leave me for another girl and I get so nervous when I see other women around you". Now you gotta make it real and look right into his eyes as you say it. If he starts looking mad and stuff, you lean in quickly and kiss him sweetly but you already made your point. He dosen't have to answer but if he wants to let him. If he says you are just jealous. Don't deny it say yes sometimes you are because you don't want anybody else fooling around with your wonderful man and you don't intend to share him with anybody. So what you do is build him up and let him know you don't trust him at the same time. :) Good Luck

Answer 5

Tell him plain Honey I don't trust you. He KNOW WHY AND YOU (so what) and that should not start a argument But if it does you tell that him to stop because that's his way of getting the attention off him in the relationship and putting off on you. Now truthfully when the trust is gone its gone you still may be holding on because afaird of being alone. Don't compromise who you are ever!

Answer 6

well there really is no easy way but coming from someone who is the queen of insecurity think about it this way...has he given you any reasons not to trust him.....if not trust him until he gives you a reason not to trust him it really sucks when someone accuses you and you dont do anything..and it can drive a wedge between you an irreversable wedge....so if something feels wrong try to bring it up as that but try not just to come out and be like oh hell no...lol....oh yeah and worrying about whether he is or isnt gonna cheat wont make him not so dont stress yourself cause you will need all your energy if he ever does and if he dosent you have wasted energy

Answer 7

there really isn't a sure fire way of telling him you don't trust him as this may cause big problems as trust is a key component of any relationship its probably best to get it out in the open and deal with no matter what happens!

Answer 8

Well..that's a tough one. Just try talking to him and let him know how you feel. Remember, it's not what you say but how you say it.
If you don't trust him..There must be a reason. Has he given you any real reason not to trust him, etc.? Sometimes, we are correct and sometimes we are incorrect about these things.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Don't tell him that wait until you have hard proof before you say anything because with out trust there really is nothing. Before you stop fully trusting him you should get proof.

Answer 10

you say it. ok lets see what's the best approach.
ok so one day when you two are alone and he's not being distracted by anything calmly explain to him what you are feeling. try to calmly tell him where these suspicions came from and if he really cares about you he wont' get angry with you. hopefully he'll understand why you're suspicious and he won't weasel his way out of the situation. if he does you dirty, drop him like a hot potato and go find yourself a better man!

Answer 11

well if you are goingto open that can of worms, you better be prepared.....cuz it is going to go there and start an arguement.

Do you really expect to walk in the kitchen, say "hi babe how are you, rough day at work? By the way, I don't trust you" and things are going to be peachy keen?