i was 6 months pregnant. a few days ago i had an accident and my baby was killed. i am having a hard time dealing with it. what i would like to know is would it be alright to have a little service or just a stone made for the baby even though she didnt get to be born?
2006-10-25 12:30:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My baby died when I was almost 40 weeks, I had a funeral for him. It helped me say goodbye. I would have regretted it had I not had one. It was a very hard thing to do but an important part of grieving... at six months i would say for you to have a service. I had my baby cremated and have his ashes here at home with me. I am so sorry for the loss of your baby and will be thinking of you. It's going to be very hard for you but just take one day at a time and cry a lot.. take care
2006-10-25 12:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by cino_bean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and am so sorry. May God be with you and yours. Sweetie, do whatever makes you feel comfortable. From the time of conception, you were your childs mother. It does not matter that you did not give birth. You have that mother love and bonding from before the day you got the official 'your pregnant' confirmation. This is your daughter, if it helps you, then yes, have a service, she is after all an individual, even from inside of you. If others want a service, but you would rather not; You are her mother. Do what is right for you. God Bless, please know that you are in my Prayers. Take care of yourself.
2006-10-25 13:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by Nina70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off im so sorry for your loss i cant imagine or even begin to understand the pain your feeling.even though the baby didnt get to be born she was still alive at one point and you bonded with this baby while you were carring her it is more then okay to have a service for her you should honor her memory and be able to say goodbye you should do what you feel is right in your heart and what is the best closure for you.
2006-10-25 13:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for your loss. you should do what you think will help you with the closure of loosing your child. If you think that a service will help then do it. If you can go without and use just the burial process, then take time to do that. You need to give yourself the time to make you better, and get through the grieving process. Closure is part of that. so that you can heal. Do what you want, not what is publicly acceptable. many blessings.
2006-10-25 12:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! It is still a baby. Some early births are only that far and the baby lives and grows up. You definately should have a service otherwise you will regret it later. I feel sorry for what you are going through. I had a tubal preg. and it hurt to lose the baby.
2006-10-25 12:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a great idea. You need to grieve because you bonded with the child in the womb. You were just as attached to them as a child that had been born. I think you should have a service or what ever is personal to you and the way you want to remember your child.
2006-10-25 12:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by aajstephen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. You have to mourn your child and if it means having a little service then you go ahead and do that. Even though she didn't get to be born... you had a bond with her and she had a beating heart inside of you. Please do what you feel is right... don't let anyone tell you any different. You will be in my thoughts and prayers!!
2006-10-25 12:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by BaileysMommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A service is perfectly appropriate. You may want to make it only family and friends and keep it low key due to cost, but do it. You need closure.
It's ok to do the stone, too. My brother and his wife had their first child (died at five months gestation) buried in the same plot as one of his wife's relatives who is "looking after" Jacob.
By the way, you can name the child, too. Perfectly ok.
2006-10-25 12:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course by all means It is ok for you to do so. Six months is a living child inside of you. You feel her moving. I know it's hard. So yes especially if it helps your grieving process(and I think it will) Make the arrangements.
2006-10-25 13:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by blue bag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes even though u lost the baby during your pregnancy it is very vsry normal to mourn. Do what makes you feel a bit better
2006-10-25 12:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋