Here's my story:
Last weekend my girlfriend, her friend (whom I’ll refer to as the “other girl”), and I were involved in a threesome. I suggested it to my girl because I have always been attracted to the “other girl” and I really wanted to have sex with her. My g/f complied and the three of us ended up having sex at the other girl's apartment.
During sex, I did some foreplay with my girlfriend and then ignored her for the rest of the night while I gave the other girl my full attention. It fulfilled a fantasy of mine: my body on top of the other girl’s with her legs wrapped around me while my g/f watched us go at it. I could tell that the other girl was really enjoying the attention I was giving her I and was really into it too. It was the best sex I’ve had since I started seeing my present girlfriend, who was the only girl that I have never cheated on; I respected her more than the other girls I’ve been with because she kept her virginity until meeting me. And she is also very sweet.
2006-10-25 12:19:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Last night I slept with the other girl behind my girlfriend’s back. The other girl has always liked me as a friend (I have her # and we’ve talked several times), but I never knew that she had *these* kind of feelings for me. And now that I do, it makes it even hotter. I’m currently having the best sex of my life with her.
My girlfriend and I have been going out for about six months and I know that she would be devastated if she found out about me and the other girl. She only agreed to have the threesome to make me happy. She is a very nice girl and I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I can’t resist the temptation of having sex with the other girl who is better in bed and has bigger breasts than my girlfriend (sorry if that sounds superficial and shallow - that’s just how I feel).
2006-10-25 12:19:40 · update #1
It seems as though I am screwed no matter what I do. If I end the relationship with my girlfriend, she may become suspicious that I’m ending it because of what happened over the weekend. If I try to make things work out between the three of us (with me having a loving relationship with my girlfriend while seeing the other girl on the side), I’m running the risk of getting caught and then all hell would break loose. And if I stop having affairs with the other girl, then I’ll be missing out on some really great sex. What would you do if you were in my position?
2006-10-25 12:19:54 · update #2
First of all, in your future, do you see yourself wanting to someday be in a steady committed "forever" relationship with anyone? If the answer is yes, then can you see yourself truly having that with your girlfriend...can you see yourself having that with the "other girl"? If you feel that deep committment is what you want, then in order for you to have it, you will have to be with a woman who fullfills you enough that you won't feel the need to cheat.
It doesn't sound like you have that feeling with your current girl...not sure if you have it for the other girl. If you do respect your girlfriend & you care about her feelings, then you have to try to minimize the amount of hurt you cause her, as much as possible. It will hurt her more to be left hanging on in a hopeless situation, than to be set free to look for new love with another man. A break-up will still hurt, but if you do it carefully by talking to her in a caring manner & helping her to see that you two aren't as right for one another as you originally thought & both would be better off pursuing relationships with other people, it will still hurt her less. It may be that the two of you were only meant to be friends, or maybe just meant to teach eachother needed lessons in life. It's never easy to face that reality, but sometimes it must be done.
A final thing you might have to consider is the possibility that you might not want to ever settle down with just one person. If that turns out to be the case, be very honest and up front about that with all your future partners & make sure they feel the same, so that you don't wind up in this situation all over again with different women. And a final note...please practice safe sex...you don't want to wind up diseased, and/or spreading disease; and that's a very real issue.
Be safe...hope you find a way to work everything out...bottom line is that it's best to avoid things that will hurt yourself or others. Try to pursue situations that are best for everyone involved.
2006-10-25 12:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by greengirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are quite possibly one of the most selfish people i have ever come across on here. you think you're the one who is screwed in this whole situation!? what about your poor girlfriend who gave her virginity to some ****** who doesn't have the decency enough to sleep with only her. i can't believe that you have more respect for her because she was a virgin! you weren't, so what does that make you? and what about her friend? she isn't innocent in this whole thing, but she could potentially lose a good friend over you. you don't even really like her, you just like what she can do for you. do them both a favor and quit talking to both of them.
2006-10-25 12:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just to let you cheating is really bad especially when you dont want to hurt your girlfriends feelings. but if you like the "other girl" more then your reall gf you should tell your girlfriend whats been goin on and how you feel and stop goin behind her freakin back cuz girls dont like that especially from their boyfriends if your just doin this for yhe sex your just bein a f***** jerk and if thats the case you can just 4-get goin out with ne of ur gf's friends cuz after this their ALL gonna hate you sorry thats just the way it is and your just gonna have to deal with it :(
2006-10-25 12:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Bra!u r puttin urself on a spot,u myt loose ur sweet g-frend & continue having sex with da ada gal but I can assure u dat da fun u r havin now wit da ada gal wil *** 2 an end.u will miss ur galfrends company & she myt not be able 2 4give u and dat sounds vey bad coz u broke her virginity-took away her sort of dignity.But since da choice is yours, I hope u wil myk da ryt and loyal choice.
2006-10-25 12:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Maleb's 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it's okay. The first real step is friendship. Ask one to coffee and the other to ice cream. If they are looking for undying love and commitment at this point -- good luck to them.
2016-05-22 13:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the wisest choice that your gf made to say ok, now you want her friend more. That is so sad. If yu love her, how could you be with someone else in front of her, let alone her friend! You need to break it off with both of them and find someone else.
2006-10-25 12:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by sea shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your girlfriend, give your girlfriend tips on what kind of sex that you want to have.
If she wants to make you happy she will comply and then you and her can have the greatest sex of your life.
2006-10-25 12:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a sticky situation, especially when u have a 3way with a friend of the groups. You should let your gf know what happened. If you have feelings for this new girl then you should let the gf know :-)
2006-10-25 12:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the moral values of ball of wax, but you will have a great deal of fun until the day that your d??k falls off from some strange disease! Good luck!
2006-10-25 12:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by tspbrady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh no ! You have got to let one of them go. That is if they don't no about each other. When and if they do find out, all hell is gonna break loose. I'll be praying for you.
2006-10-25 12:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by cutiestorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋