My brother is not well he was diagnosd with depression and schisoprania. He's been in and out of hospitals. But they keep letting him out because his medicaid wont cover long stays. We try to get him in a home that they can take care of him and make sure he's taking his meds but they keep saying they cant find a place that medicaid will cover. So they just let him out with more medicine. I felt he looked ten times worst and more parinoid of the world. I felt they should'nt have let him out. Anyway he just recently got up and left he felt everybody was after him and that the cops were going to come for him. He left with no money and just siad he did'nt want to deal with anything anymore and that he will be back in a few years. He thinks where he's going they won't find him. He called a few times and siad he's ok. But I'm very worried and I need advice desperately. It seems nobody want's to help him. And I don't want him just wandering on the street with no medication.
2006-10-25 12:18:05 · 12 answers · asked by Angel555 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
There may be agencies like ARC and Unity House that he can qualify for. Did his doctor state that his diagnosis is a disability? If so, he may qualify for SSI. Apply for subsidized housing if he needs it.
Once his diagnosis is determined to be a disability then social services can head you in the right direction.
I commend you for trying to find the path for your brother. There are places for people like him, who live in community houses, have good medical and dental care, and are safe and well fed. Have a chat with his doctor. Ask what he thinks the best path is. Ask family for their support in bringing this brother into a more normal, healthy life.
2006-10-25 14:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is like a flash back... I had a younger brother just like you say is going on with your brother.
I am sure you are going to say I am weird but the best thing is what you are doing... Let him call you when ever he can. That is what we did with my brother. It took a long time and we realized that he always came back to check in... always... it is a horrible thing to live with when you are always feeling so different from the rest of the world... It is hard to admit to yourself that it is only with the meds that you can fit in with this world. It is hard to ask why you and not the rest of your family. Well there are too many reasons why it is hard... but then again they are the ones living with it. Like I said keep lines open and be prepared for anything. There is not a home that is great for this on a permanent basis as no one wants to live in a home the rest of their life to be reminded they are not normal. One thing we did find out is most people like this are very creative and bore easily... if that helps ... then you can just be there and encourage him to change things from one to another every so often as the case needs. Wishing you well .... and your brother and family too.
2006-10-25 13:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by copper_rose_cinders 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is the hard part about love. You can't MAKE somebody love you the way you love them. You can try everything short of standing on your head if it'll make you feel better, but I think you should focus all this energy into moving on. I know you want advice on "winning him back", but honey, people in relationships are not prizes. They are either in it because that is where their heart lies, or they aren't in it at all. He's made it clear, and it's been a year. I'm sorry hon, I know it's not what yo want to hear, but it's time to let go sweetie and move on. You are just wasting time that you are never going to get back. I know you envision this perfect little family.....but how perfect would it be if you constantly had to dance circles around someone just to keep them? It would get old after awhile and you'd get the same results you have now.....let him go, but keep the peace for the sake of your child.
2016-05-22 13:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are mental health agencies that should be able to help - have you tried contacting them; support groups (someone there may have some advice and knowledge to share with you) there are help lines ; they probably would be better at helping you to help him re: what to say to him when he calls in order to get him back. A good many of the homeless are castoffs exactly for this reason. The calling you could also be the only outreach that he may be able to make but is making; keep knocking on every door until you find one that will open for you and help you. Don't give up. Good luck.
2006-10-25 12:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by sml 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from. My father-in-law was like that. But they told my husband that family can't have them locked up anymore. I am so sorry but when my father-in-law left they found him on the street and put him back in the hospital only to return home after 30 days. There is absolutely nothing that you can do anymore. So much has changed and peoples right are brought up. I wish I could tell you that there is help but I can't. Sorry. The only thing we could do was keep calling the police and eventually they took him away but the ;longest was for 60 days then he was back and he stopped taking meds. AND RIGHT BACK TO HOSP. VICIOUS CYCLE.
2006-10-25 12:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there's nothing you really can do...if he's an adult then you can report him as missing especially if he's calling you...he seems like he still cares enough to call and let you know he's ok...you're brother seems pretty smart...he might be at a friends house or a state away working in a restuarant...he's not like a drug addict roaming the streets...he could be at a shelter...where ever he is i'm sure he's fine and he still wants to be a part of the family or else he wouldn't call...if he didn't care he'd make you worry about it..so trust him when he says that he'll be back in a few years..and if he needs something i think that he will call and let yiou guys know....
2006-10-25 12:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by lylitalianbeauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be other places that would take care of him that are around where you live. Sometimes they are not in the phone books and to get hold of them you have to ask around.
People who work at hospitals might no of some.
Have you told anyone such as emergency services that he is wondering around the streets with no medication? and maybe tell them his condition and they might be able to help find him.
Hope this helps and best of luck.
2006-10-25 13:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Black Rainbow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he ever calls and says he is suicide you can get the police to come out and arrest him and they can put him in a state hospital.
2006-10-25 13:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what state do you live in, depending on this, there may be appropriate programs for him.....
take him to probate court in your state, they will have to do something, since he is a danger to himself and others. file a petition and he can be involuntarily com,mitted for psychiatric help, by state law.
2006-10-25 12:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by kiddo89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very sad he cannot get any help. Where I am he would be looked after. Good Luck.
2006-10-25 12:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋