My daughter is 10 and is doing very poor in school this year her attitude is alot worse too. Please help?

Question

She has always lived with my parents it's never been an issue. I see her daily, and take part in her life alot. She just seems very distant. And is not doing well in school at all, as she has always done well before. She also seems to have a bad attitude. I just don't know what to do. Please help, Thank You, Niki

Answer 1

Wow! I almost posted this ? yesterday. My daughter is 10 also. She is going through the school phase also. Maybe your daughter is having trouble with the move from your parents house. Maybe there is something going on at school. You need to talk to her and maybe she will open up. I'm not sure. I still need to deal with mine a little better. My daughter has the bad attitude, lieing, and forgetting on purpose. But see I just Quit drinking 2 wks ago. Good luck...L

Answer 2

It sounds like she isn't too happy with her situation. For starters she is 10 and probably has a lot of hormones going all over the place but that isn't really an escuse that you can use to explain her behavior. If she is used to being with your parents she is more than likely having a very hard time adjusting to her new life with you, which would contribute to her bad attitude and poor performance in school. There maybe other issues too, she may be having trouble with friends in school or any number of things that can stress a child. The key is to be as supportive as possible of your daughter, let her know that she can talk to you about any problems that she is having, also talk with your parents, they probably have a lot of experiance that can help you in this matter. I hope this helps!

Answer 3

So your daughter lives with your parents? I take it you're not married either right? Take my two cents with a grain of salt but I feel that these kinds of problems are natural and are to be expected any time a child is raised outside of the normal nuclear family environment. The evidence is pretty overwhelming that a child needs a mother and a father to have the best chance at normal emotional, spiritual, mental, educational development. I'm sorry if I sound cruel, I don't mean to.

Answer 4

My daughter is ten as well and she started doing this last year. It's awful isn't it? The only thing that I have found is to take away things that she really likes and then that only works for a short time. I have noticed a bigger difference with her when I have tried to put myself on the same "ground" as her, like take her out to a girls night out to the mall, or doing makeovers with her. She seems to really improve for a few weeks after one of our "all girl outings or activities" when I get on her level. My daughter's grades are another story though. It's just the "I don't care about doing anything except what I want to do phase." Outside of setting limits with her and letting her know what is unacceptable with you, there's not a whole lot more you can do. My daughter is almost a black belt in Taekwondo and her instructor will sit down with her and give her a heart to heart when the grades drop which helps quite a bit too. Is your daughter in after school activities? Maybe her instructor can help with that by explaining that grades are very important. My daughter's instructor makes her bring all of her papers to him when she gets them and he gives her a good job for good grades and push-ups for low grades. Good luck with that and always remember, it's not just your child. They all go through it!! :-)

Answer 5

Does the school have a psychologist? If so, I would sign her up to get some help. Maybe you could talk to her teacher to see what the problem is.

At ten, her hormones may be starting to change and it's possible that she's going through some mood/emotional swings.

It sounds like she needs extra-special time with you. Perhaps you could plan something special for just the two of you.

Answer 6

Hi Niki...not to scare you or anything, but drugs are an issue at all ages, and seeing as you are not there 100% of time (not judging, just stating)...that could come into play. Good luck....parenting is hard.

Answer 7

If you as her father/mother cannot sit down and find out what her problem is, than that alone is a problem. Most of the time it is school drama, which gets worse as kids get older. Request that she see the school psychologist since you are not able to speak with her. Likely you are a male and she is seeking advice from a mother figure.

Answer 8

This is a tough one. Although she might seem like she's doing fine and adjusted well to the living situation, she might not. Do you think it's possible that she's becoming angry with everyone because she's angry with herself? Perhaps she thinks that there's something wrong with her and that's why she's not living with you?

I'm in a similar situation with my daughter, she's 6 and living with her grandparents and I too am part of her life greatly, it's just that I'm trying to finish college right now. But she's having a lot of difficulty because of that. It's really heartbreaking.

Answer 9

I know, being a student myself, that when I feel like school is too frustrating or just plain difficult that it helps when someone is there to assist me when I feel it necessary. Like when I feel like I know I cant do well in chemistry, even just talking with my dad about why I have a sour attitude towards school relieves me and his suggestions help motivate me. If you havent already, just try talking with her and seeing what the problem is.

Answer 10

sit down with her and ask her if there is something she wants to talk about. ask if something is bothering her. ask her what you can do to help. talk to the school and see how she is acting or talk to her teacher and see if she knows what is going on with her. just make sure she knows you are there for her at all times and start taking her places more and spend lots of time with her . help her with her school work if you can and if not maybe seek tutoring. well i hope i was a help. good luck