Like they don't let me in grown up conversations and stuff. I'm 20 years old, but I also happen to have autism. Could that have anything to do with it? I hope not.
2006-10-25 11:53:17 · 9 answers · asked by therealstar86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Parents are slow to realize thier kids are grown ups. Being a "different" kid can magnify that problem. I am ADHD. I think it wasn't until I was in my 30's that I finally felt like my family was treating my like an adult. (I'm also the baby of the family & the only girl)
One problem people with autism frequently have is interpretting social situations. Be open to the idea that they might not be trying to shield you from "adult" discussions, be merely wanting to discuss things privately.
If the are hesitant to discuss their financial or medical situation with you, it COULD be because they think you are a kid who doesn't need to worry about such stuff, OR they may be slow to open up with private info. They could also be afraid they are getting the "You are too old to handle matters alone. You need my approval" treatment.
Talk with them. Ask specifically WHY they don't want to discuss certain things around you.
2006-10-27 11:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Smart Kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an autistic 24 year old and she is involved in every conversation an adult can have. This is very good for her as well as for you. You need to learn this for your future living without your parents after they pass on.
Your autism should have nothing to do with it.
Show my answer to your parents. They should want for you to learn and grow. Conversation will do this. Go ahead and speak up when following a conversation but stick to the subject being spoken about. Good luck and hang in there!
2006-10-25 12:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by ajkoolkats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your autism has nothing to do with it. Most parents are like that with their children, even when they grow up. Even though you're 20, they still feel as if you are their little boy. And you are still a lot younger than they are.
And I'd be willing to bet that you also act more like a child around them than you do around other people. It's a habit with them, and it's a habit with you too.
Most younger adult children also get irritated when their parents still treat them like children, but a lot of times they are also irritated when their parents want to give them adult responsibilities. Parents and children both have to make some changes as the child grows up.
2006-10-25 12:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't seem autistic or at least you don't have a severe case of autism. If you want to be treated like an adult, then act like an adult. Get a job and move out of your parents house- even if it means renting a room in another person's house. If you're under their roof, you're still their "baby".
2006-10-25 11:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by MagPookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you feel cormfortable to talk in an adult conversation. they just want to protect you and thats normal. I still get the same actions from my parents!!!! just tell them how you feel and you would like to be treated alittle more indepndent like.
2006-10-25 11:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by old 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bring up adult issues on your own or something. let them reply and that might start up something.
like if youre in the car and you see a hooker, crack a joke or something. "how many customers has she had today?" that might break the ice. lol my joke wasnt funny but it will work.
2006-10-25 11:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by kevin21boston 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your parent, it is you. You have to approve to them that you are an adult not a kid.
2006-10-25 12:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They care about you and dont want to let you go,
2006-10-25 11:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by misyid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps because they are ignorant and act immature themselves,
2006-10-25 11:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋