how do i tell my parents i'm an atheist?

Question

my moms a christian and i'm the opposite! how do i tell her?

Answer 1

"Hey Mom - I love you and respect your beliefs and I hope you can do the same for me. I don't believe in God - what's for supper?"

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Answer 2

this can be a difficult one. I went through the whole thing, getting baptized and all that stuff and teaching sunday school, just so I wouldn't disappoint my parents. The more I studied the more I questioned and the more answers I found the more I knew Christianity was not the right path for me.

I had been out of the house for years before I quit going to church.
I just let my parents go on and on about what they believe and basically keep quiet. Maybe just not tell her. A polite nod when she goes on about what she believes.

My husband and I are having a problem with his ex right now and I was talking to my mom about it. The conversation ended with an 'we'll pray for you'. I just said thanks and left it at that.

I don't know what to say to you. Christians really take it personally when you reject what they believe. They have themselves so safe inside that box they are in that they can't take the brain power to consider other possibilities.

Good luck and stick with what you know in your heart is the right path for you. It can take courage to be yourself....but it is the one thing you can be sure that you are meant to be.

Answer 3

Might be better to tell her you are agnostic; There are infinitely more justifications for being agnostic than for being Christian. Most atheists, if they think about it logically, are really agnostic. Atheism takes the same kind of blind foolish faith to support as does Christianity or Islam. No-one can really know, and anyone that thinks they do is just fooling themselves.

I do, however, congratulate you on being intelligent enough to realize it's all a crock in light of the daily bombardment we have to suffer at the hands of "believers"!

If you'd like a "church" (LOL!),

try this: http://www.venganza.org

Answer 4

Maybe its best if you don't. At least not right now. If you are in a situation where you have to tell her (such as getting out of church) then, hopefully she is reasonable enough to understand your point of view after you calmy and patiently explain it to her. If she is like mine, and refuses to except anything else as even being possible, it will get much harder. If she is, and I know this sounds bad, but you may have to disprove to her some of the basic christian beliefs. Noah's Ark is one possibility. Evolution can also be a good example, and if you use it be sure to mention the different forms of primitive man. Whatever you do, don't get hostile. That would make you look like the antagonist and lower her willingness to understand. Don't expect immediate results. It may take a while.

Answer 5

It's too bad your an Athiest. What made you stop believing? Before you give up on God look into yourself and ask why you would want to go through life without the light of hope. I pray that you find God again. I know you might think I'm a bible thumper but I'm not. Far from it really. But from all that I've been through in my rotten life I still believe in God. That's my choice. I cannot tell you what to believe but there is a God and I think athiest is another word for "Been Let Down" Something happened to make you lose faith. It almost happened to me when I lost my mom at a young age. Keep the faith. It's better then being in the darkness.

Answer 6

Start asking questions she can't answer, or when she tries, push your questions about gods in a way that shows you have some doubts. Eventually she will accept your position, or better yet, might come over to your side of the fence. It worked with my Mom, she is now a rational thinker too.

Answer 7

This should be interesting; I need the answer. My mom's a Christian but I don't believe in it although I believe in a higher being. Are you still under her rule, living in her house? If so, maybe you should wait like me

Answer 8

The others have some good suggestions. Just be open & honest but do expect her to not understand. I am agnostic & both parents are Catholic. Neither of them agree with me, but I explained my side and they deal with it. They would change it if they could but they realize I'm an adult & will make my own decisions. Good Luck!

Answer 9

First study up on her religion, study apologetics and counter apologetics and when you feel you have some good arguments to back up your decision just have a heart to heart and drop the bombshell... If it becomes a debate you have a little ammunition to support your stance. Hopefully it won't come to that though and your parents will just accept you as you are.

Answer 10

You could always hint at it the next time she brings up religion: "Oh, I don't agree with that. Oh, I don't think we need demons to hurt us; we people screw things up bad enough." Etc., etc. She'll probably ask. Answer truthfully.

The important thing I found (I'm a Pagan from a Christian family) is to let them know it's about you and your mind and your beliefs, NOT a reaction to them or anything to do with them.

Answer 11

In fact, there is not much difference between a believer and an unbeliever
Both wants the same things:
peace,security,morality...etc
The only different thing is that: Unbeliever thinks the things told
in holy books are symbolic, while the believer thinks they are real.
There is not much difference between you and your mom..