I feel like I need her approval and love and it is driving me mad because she is not giving it to me. I am trying to change all of these things in my life to get her back and to feel better about myself. What should I do about feeling like I need her so bad? She is upset and part of me doesn't trust her anymore. I think I should leave her for good. It seems like she's trying to toy with me. I am pissed off. What should I do?
2006-10-25 11:43:08 · 13 answers · asked by anthony a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes we did already break up but last night I called her and asked if she would take me back. She is saying that I need to work on myself first. **** it's annoying because it seems like that's all I do!
2006-10-25 11:48:19 · update #1
You have the right idea, leave her for good and find someone new and exciting. It never works to try and change your personality to make someone else happy. Once you try to change, if you accomplish doing so, she won't be happy with the change and will leave you again.
Most of us feel depressed or rejected when we get dumped, we wonder what did I do wrong. Remember you can only be 1/2 the problem. Why couldn't she change to accept you the way you are.
Don't feel bad, count it as a blessing and go on with your life just like the rest of had to do. Next time be a little more careful who you give your heart to.
2006-10-25 12:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably delve into the reason behind WHY you broke up. Was it your decision? Was it her decision? She might be toying with you, but it might just be because she's as hurt and upset and feels the same way but doesn't know how to express it.
Break up are always hard the first few weeks. The feeling of loss and change takes its toll on everyone. But, if the relationship was never ment to be that feeling will subside over time. Just find something to do that you enjoy. Hanging out with friends, sports, or whatever it happens to be. Just don't try jumping into another relationship to fill that void. It will just lead to more problems.
2006-10-25 11:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Usual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, i know how u feel. The best thing to do right now is to leave her 4 gud. If she's toying with you, leave. It is way disrespectful to mess with someone's feelings. That really pisses me off. I wud just leave her. As hard as it sounds, try and forget her. Go have some fun with some friends. Or chat with someone new. Just have some fun and let the stress out. Gud luck.
2006-10-25 11:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for you to feel that way. You really like or loved her. Now you have to think about the reason you broke up. If she treated you wrong or she cheated on you forget her... Its better to hurt a Little then hurt for a long time. Now if you know you broke up for a stupid reason then be humble and take your women back before some else does...
2006-10-25 11:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by BATGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose sight of your value to yourself while all of this is going on. Remember that you have value all by yourself. That you are a very special person, an individual, who is capable of thinking things through until he comes up with an answer that will work and that you have strengths within you that will get you through this, no matter what the outcome. Look to yourself to get clear within yourself first. Get centered. Then look at what is going on around you and you make the decision how you will handle it for yourself. It is a matter of reclaiming your own importance to yourself as the guy who makes his own decisions because he knows, after all is said and done, what is best for him.
2006-10-25 11:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you don't trust her you should leave for good. If not then you'll be asking yourself all kinds of questions about her were abouts and what's she doing. That'll drive you crazy. Absence makes the heart grow fonder so if she wants you then she'll come back and thats when you drop her hard cause you don't trust her
2006-10-25 11:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by rnellwoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude how old are you. Dump her and go rope in a new girlfriend who is better looking than her. Plenty of hottites out there for you to get all workd up about one chick who obviously dosent please you. Be a man!
2006-10-25 11:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by The Richest Man in Babylon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is harder to love somebody than to trust them.
If she did something to lose your trust then she needs to be seeking your approval unless you did something to contribute.
Deep breath. Leave her alone and wait for her to come to you.
Worry does you no good.
2006-10-25 11:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by MЯ BAIT™ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need some time to heel hang out with some of your guy friends. if u can drive go see some one you haven't seen for a long time.
2006-10-25 11:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Isn't breaking up leaving someone for good? trust you instincts and walk
2006-10-25 11:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋