What should i do when my parents put me or my little sister in the middle..I am 17 but i still get put in the middle and i dont want my little 9 year old sister to go through the same thing that i have and do go through..I have told them that they put me in the middle and i have asked them to stop....what do i do? Please help!
2006-10-25 11:37:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anna-Banana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Next time they get into an argument take your sister and go for a walk or go up to your rooms and pretend to be sleep. You could always just refuse to acknowledge their childishness.
My parents used to do that to me when I was around 13 or so. Finally, I stopped answering either of them when they'd attempt to put me in the middle. Eventually, they divorced (thank God) but they get along great now. Who knew.
2006-10-25 11:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously your parents are inmature. You telling them you dont want to be involved doesnt seem to sink in their think skulls. So play the quiet game and dont say anything, tell your sis to do the same. Maybe they will get the picture. Make yourself unavailable for input. Its really too bad your parents arent more grown up than that.Not trying to dog your parents out but thats BS.
2006-10-25 11:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by bipolar_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just HATE that? My parents did the exact same thing and it really annoyed me, especially after I moved away to college and came back with some perspective on my family situation. You can take up for your sis when you're there and back her up. Maybe your parents will back off when they see that you realize they're trying to manipulate your sister (then again, maybe not. Parents can be so immature). Maybe you can explain to your sis that your parents act like children sometimes.
2006-10-25 11:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell your parents that it is not acceptable to put you or your sister in the middle of their fights. you need to tell them how much it has effected you and how it still effects you to this day. sometimes you need to be smarter than your parents. when you see a situation were you might be involved in even though you don't want to say " stop this is not my problem and it is unfair for you to put me in this situation." you did not start the fight and you will not finish it. you need to teach your sister how to stand up for herself, but first you must learn how to do it yourself
2006-10-25 11:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The middle of what?
2006-10-25 11:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about??? In the middle of what
2006-10-25 11:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the middle of what??
2006-10-25 11:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by JennyAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thier putting u in the middle of thier arguments tell them to please stop my parents argue sometimes but now I am growen up but begging around it even now bothers me nothing worse then hearing two people u know that love each other scream at one another.
2006-10-25 11:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by Renee B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is between your parents and their clonflicting relationship then you should voice your oppinion with power, explain what they are doing and then tell them how it effcts you and your sister. this may take alot of courage but it may go far with the right wording and emotion. but i am not telling you to go and fake cry or anything. just tell them that it truly hurts.
2006-10-25 11:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can get a social worker i know it can sound scary but they can be used as mediator to help u kids to make it thru this ok they would b there 2 help u both and try to help ur parents. hope it helps :)
2006-10-25 11:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by scorpion_gurl88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋