I just don't understand about this gay issue:?

Question

I'm strictly hetrosexual, relatively conservative and have a deep abiding faith in God...however, I don't understand why COMMITTED gay couples cannot marry. Why do I feel this way?
1) If any church does not want to marry them they don't have to, just like a lot of churches won't marry divorced persons.
2) With the divorce, adultry and infidelity rate so high what is so sacred about these marriages?
3) How do we condone and tolerate thousands of children being born who never know their fathers?

If these things are not considered 'sin' why should two committed people loving each other considered 'sin'. Who are any of us to judge and set the standard for others? Are we trying to take the splinter out of someone's eye when we have a log in our own.
Serious answers only. I really want to understand.

TO ALL YOU CHRISTIANS WHO ANSWERED THUS FAR:

Jesus also said if you divorce your wife and marry another you are committing adultry and causing her to do the same.

Paul is the one who condemned homosexuality so fiercely and he really didn't want to see others marry.

Answer 1

I'm a little confused about why people have become so fixated on this issue as well. The whole issue would seem hardly worth discussing if it weren't a civil rights issue now. The bible does say that homosexuals should be put to death, but the bible also says that people working on the sabbath should be put to death. Why obsess over one and not the other? I really don't understand what people are so afraid of. Don't we all have more important problems facing us than other people's sexual preferences? To hear most conservatives talk, you'd think gay marriage was one of the signs of the apocalypse.

Answer 2

Kudos to you, I'm going to go out here bullet proof vest in tow and say, YOU GO GIRL! 3 snaps!

I will also say, that most people in this country is scared, the laws of Momes as outlined by Leviticus did say homosexuality is an abommination, it also say not to wear mixed threads, and honestly, every one I know owns a cotton poly blend shirt. When Jesus died and was raised he forged a new covenant for man kind that says the laws of Moses has been repealed and therefor Leviticus is null and void. And for the couple centuries or so of the church's existence Homosexuality was celebrated it was not condemed as a sin. Dante's Inferno's (From the Divine Comedy) exhaustive list of sins and where it will land you in hell made no mention of homosexuality. Most of the kings of europe and a bunch of popes and bishops were gay.

Then the church got greedy for power and the pope's enemy by sheer coincidence the jews and homosexuals were cast as sinners, heretics etc etc etc. By the time the Crusades got around all hell broke loose, with the inquisition and the witch trials, basically any one who were seen as a threat to the church's power, including women, were persecuted.

Sadly the greed an ambition of a few power hungry bishops and popes has led to todays view on homosexuality.

Marriage by today's standpoint is a legal institution. If it is a religious institution then why let atheists marry? Divorce was a grave sin, then the king of England Henry the VIII who had 6 wives (most of them beheaded) wanted a divorce from his first wife when the pope refused he had the bishop killed and created a new church (The church of England) and appointed himself head, Let the divorces commence.

What I don't udnerstand is, many christian have eluded to the fact that they would have a child be raised by a man who can't keep a job and a women who whores her self out and don't go to church because they're straight than a child be raised by a man who has a PHD and teaches at harvard and a Man who rakes in a seven figure salary who attends services regularly just because they're gay.

Also I want to know how South Africa who only 16 years ago had apartheid, and Spain who is arguably one of the most Catholic states in the world. Legalized Gay Marriage before the US did? is the US really the back watered, po-dunk, redneck part of the world? Like Rural Arkansas?

Answer 3

Marriage is designed by God for the union of 1 man and 1 woman. God also invented sexual intercourse to be between 1 man and 1 woman who are married.

Marriage is sacred to God. It is not only a life time commitment but, a covenant. If people only viewed it the way God does there would be no divorces or children born who never know their fathers.

God is the one who sets standards not people. Ever since Adam and Eve decided to disobey God, every thing that we do and everything that we are is sin.

We all are sinners. Jesus came into the world to become the ultimate sacrifice for our sins. He was perfect, without sin. Acceptance of Him as our Lord and Savior is the only way that we can be forgiven for our sinful nature.

Following Jesus and His teachings, repenting of our sin (turning away from) is the only way that proves that you are serious about Him. Therefore, we must recognize that God is the one who is in control of our lives. We can't just follow the crowd and do what they do. We must follow God. Sure we will mess up at times but, Jesus' forgives.

I hope this helps.

Answer 4

I think you understand it just fine -- there's no reason we should not permit two people who love each other, no matter what gender they are, to publicly commit to living their lives together and to get legal status as married couples.

From what I can tell, those against gays marrying base it on two things:
1) the bible says homosexuality is a sin
So what? The bible says lying is a sin, yet millions of "christians" do it every day. The bible says women having their period have to stay inside the house and not touch or be touched by anyone for 7 days -- almost all "christians" ignore that law...besides, it's a *religious* thing about it being a sin, and we don't run our country based on the opinion of any religion.

2) Fear. They are afraid if it's legal for gay couples to marry, that somehow this will "teach" their children that it's OK to be gay. Two problems with that -- first, YOU teach your children what's right and wrong according to your own morals, not the government. Second, it IS OK to be gay -- according to the majority of citizens in the US.

When it comes right down to it, it is *unconstitutional* to deny the legal benefits of marriage to anyone regardless of gender. There just hasn't been the proper test case brought before the US supreme court yet to allow them to rule on its unconstitutionality. Eventually it will, and it will be allowed. Those opposed had better get used to the idea of it being legal, because it will be at some time. Like you said, if a particular religion is against it, then don't allow those marriages in their own church -- no problem. That doesn't mean they have the right to dictate anyone else's belief.

Answer 5

I simply have to go with what the bible says. I know many very nice Gay people. Some are really good friends of mine but I just think same sex marriages is a mockery of the union God set forth in the bible. Now what they do behind closed doors is between them and God. I cannot judge them because it is not my place.

Answer 6

it because of our society and how we depict things that we feel should be in the american culture and that should be out.... without wrong how would we know right even though many people today are being more open with their sexuality why still have our society come to realize that everyone is diffeerent i dont condone others for their inquities neither should any body else for that matter its just the way our society is.

Answer 7

You have it right bud...it is the church (etc) who don't understand that there is no threat to the fabric of human existance. I too am not gay but why would I feel threatened by a gay person for just being gay - maybe if they were coming after me with a knife but we all know that statistically speaking it is most likely to be a hetero white male who attends services that would come after me with a knife before the gay person. It is irrational and immoral to deny a person a person to love.

Answer 8

Peoples inability to understand is based on ignorance and the preconceived notion that sexuality is polarised into male and female whereas of course the reality is that maleness and femaleness are on a continuum. Specific individuals may have some 'female' traits and some 'male' traits. However it is society that has decided what these traits are and it is increasingly becoming apparent how sadly mistaken these polarised notions are as humans try to fit within them, instead of accepting and being accepted as having their place on the male /female continuum.

Answer 9

I really don't think that Gay couples are necessarily looking for a religious marriage. Just the opportunity to protect their union in case of illness, or death as next of kin. To protect their partner by providing health care coverage, or simply for inheritance purposes.

Answer 10

I agree. But I will have to go with what the Bible says. But I actually have a gay friend who is like, the nicest person you could ever meet. I dont agree with it but I wont judge people for it.