When i was in high school i dated a girl, and i'm now engaged to a wonderful man,in which we are getting married July 7th, 2007. Well she got in contact with me and wants to be friends, but i would rather have nothing to do with her. What do i do?
2006-10-25 11:30:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You already know the answer to this question, don't second guess your self, or jeopardise your relationship with your man, you've been fine with out her, don't let her back in your life
2006-10-25 11:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her the truth. Im glad you said that you want nothing to do with her, that means you have no more feelings for her, at least I hope. Explain the situation to her, if the reason you want nothing to do with her is because you might have some feelings, then you need to really think about if marriage is right for you right now, if not, who cares, you are in love and should be planning to spend the rest of your life with your new man not your ex, if her feelings are hurt, she will get over it, think of you and your furture first. LOL
2006-10-25 11:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged to be married you must be in love with this man.....your ex coming back into your life may jeapordise this and cause those old feelings to rear their ugly heads, its best to stay away and explain that you do not want anything to ruin or complicate the life you are now living
2006-10-25 11:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by trikkiep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mention your fiancee' in conversation (example: Oh Taylor and I are going to the movies tonight). Keep the conversation simple, and don't return any phone calls. Let her do the calling. If she calls more than once a week, make an excuse (example, Oh Taylor and I are going to the movies right now. I'll talk later)
2006-10-25 11:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay out of contact with her. She will get the hint eventually. Focus on you and your fiance. Nevermind her...she will go away sooner or later depending on if you give her the chance to keep in contact with you.
2006-10-25 11:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that... the truth (gently of course) that your life has changed and her wanting to back in it might complicate things that are important to you... say you're sorry but that things change and people change... its time to move on (for both of ya)
If she keeps on insisting then ignore her... harsh but the only way you can truly try to move on (you don't have to burden yourself with her issues... you have your own life to live)
gdluck!
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2006-10-25 11:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't return any of her messages. It's kind of harsh, but it's better then trying to be nice about it and then having it cause issues with your fiancee.
2006-10-25 11:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by Usual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a bit cold to say the least.I think you should let her know your feelings as she is probably better off without a friend like you
2006-10-25 11:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that ur now straight nd that it wont work. be direct about it. dont let her get the wrong idea, or it could makes things complicated with ur fiance.
2006-10-25 11:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have no room in your life for an ex.
2006-10-25 11:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋