Question about homosexuality and Christianity...Serious answers only!?

Question

From a Christian perspective, what are the options (option that even a straight person would be willing to do as well) for a gay man in regards to his love life? Since he cannot be with another gay man (since conservative Christians see this as wrong) what are his alternatives? Now if you say his only choice is celibacy, do you really see this as fair and would you (assuming you are straight) be willing to do this if it was reversed and being straight was a sin? I just want to know what you conservative Christians see as a viable alternative for gay men and women who believe that Jesus Christ died for their sins and truly believe this and pray everyday and cry themselves to sleep every night on a tear soaked pillow that they will wake up straight, yet the morning comes and they are still gay. What are they supposed to do? Be unhappy and know that God will do nothing to help them or just accept who they are and have a loving relationship with the same sex. Serious answers only!

Some of your answers are not really looking at the big picture here. Some of you simply see it as something in addition to being straight, like, I'm attracted to women AND men, so I should just stop doing "gay" things and just go with wife and get your lusts out in a marriage with a women. The thing some of you DO NOT REALIZE is GAY PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE ATTRACTIONS TO THE OPPOSITE SEX. This would be like me telling a straight person to give up their attraction to the opposite sex and get married to the same sex and get your lust and sexual frustrations out in a marriage of the same sex. SEE. You wouldn't like that would you, because you don't like the same sex. Some of you really don't understand how difficult it is to be gay and deal with this every day. But then again, now I understand why so suicide is SO high with gay people. You straight people have it SO made and you don't even know it. If you only knew......makes me so angry at you people who JUST DON'T GET IT!

Answer 1

1Corinthians 6:9 Don’t you know that evil people will not receive God’s kingdom? Don’t be fooled. Those who commit sexual sins will not receive the kingdom. Neither will those who worship statues of gods or commit adultery. Neither will men who are prostitutes or who commit homosexual acts. 10 Neither will thieves or those who always want more and more. Neither will those who are often drunk or tell lies or cheat. People who live like that will not receive God’s kingdom. 11 Some of you used to do those things. But your sins were washed away. You were made holy. You were made right with God. All of that was done in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

Don't miss verse 11: "Some of you used to do those things…"

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Dennis Jernigan, a popular Christian singer and song writer was FORMERLY HOMOSEXUAL. This link is his testimony. It may help you better understand the truth.

Answer 2

The thing many people tend to forget is that God hates ALL sin. Some christians ignore this when dealing with the issue of homosexuality. They think that the homosexual sin is worse than any sin they can commit themselves. Sorry, but that's not the way it works. All sin is an abomination to God. All sin makes God sick. Those "little white lies" are sin, lust is a sin, keeping the extra $5 the cashier accidentally gave you is sinful in nature.

We all have to deal with our own sin nature and pray that God will help us overcome the sin.

God wants us to love the sinner, but hate the sin.

I am against same sex marriage. But I have a couple of lesbian friends. I know that God loves them despite their sin and I pray for them. They know how I feel about their sin, but they also know that I love them as people. They are good people trapped in sin. Only God can help them with their battles against sin. And only God can judge them.

I don't have the authority to condemn anyone to hell, nor would I want it.

So I guess my advice is to pray and keep it between you and God. And keep in mind that the Christian who throws the first stone probably has some sin in their life that they are ignoring or refusing to repent from themselves...

Answer 3

I wish I could answer your question better than this, but here goes.

All I know is what the bible teaches. God made man to be with a woman and woman to be with a man.

It is so hard when people are hurtful and unkind. I am sorry if you have been hurt.

In my humble opinion the option would be to try to come to terms with what God's intentions were for men when He created men.

If you are at all interested I know that you can get help with that from this ministry:
www.metanoiaonline.org

I hear your frustration and know that "with god all things are possible."

So it is a matter of how much you want to be right with God. He loves you and doesn't want you to perish. The hard truth is that sin is sin.

God says in His Word that we aren't to continue habitually sinning, once we enter into a relationship with His Son Jesus.

No matter how we feel about it in His Word He calls homosexuality a sin. He calls lust a sin, He calls not honoring our parents a sin. I am guilty of sin and am eternally grateful that Jesus shed His precious blood on the cross for my sins and yours.

I hope this helps. Hang in there. Pray for wisdom.

James 1:5 But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach and it will be given to him.

Answer 4

I'm not the brightest bulb on the tree, or the best Christian in the church. I kind of am able to relate somewhat to your problem of celibacy in that I was divorced some years ago, and had to refrain from remarriage. It has been tough, so I know that. However, I have made it so far without TOO much trouble. I'm NOT SAYING THAT you must be celibate, either.
Have you counseled with your church councilor? Perhaps that could help you see what you can do, as the decision is up to you. I feel that Jesus loves us in our sins enough to have come to earth in human form to die for us while we yet were sinners, so I don't think He condemns people for doing what they MUST DO. Run that by your councilor and get their reaction. If prayer has not helped, know that God works in mysterious ways for our good, but it is hard to see sometimes, so I am not advising you either way, just know that I feel your pain and will pray you find a satisfactory solution to your "problem", so to speak.
May God bless you and help you to find peace in your life through finding success. Good luck.

Answer 5

Most people that are alcoholics, drug abusers, liars, fornicators, sinners (hey, I guess that's all of us) cannot just wake up one morning and expect God to remove what is tempting us. First, we go through it to help someone else go through it later in life. How can I understand an alcoholic if I was never an alcoholic? You dont have to, if you understand addiction. Attraction is psychological. For a man who is attracted to another man, his psychological makeup is already made up, especially in the beginning of his realization that he was gay, because he would have had to have dealt with the misnomer of being gay. When he accepted that he was christian, the uncomforatbleness crept in again. Why? Because now God's Spirit is abiding in his life and convicting him of what he is doing that displeases God. Remember, God loves you. He cares for you. He understands the pain you are going through. Im not gay, but I am a sinner (saved by grace!). I have problems in that I find all women attractive and I tend to covet my neighbor's wives, if you know what I mean. But I shouldn't be comfortable with that. especially if God has sent me a mate to be with. But we always want what we want. So, is God to blame? Why? Dont you have free will? We all do. And going through the fire is a painful experience, but how else is the dross supposed to be separated from the pure gold?

Answer 6

If you are truly in seach of a definitive answer: give your life to Christ COMPLETELY and you will learn what you need to do.

If you want a direction of what the Bible teaches: Ro 1:26-27.

If you want it from the big picture: God crates man. Satan uses temptation to pull man away from God. Man falls into temptation. Many roads to destruction are created: Pride. Evny. Greed. Lust. Sloth. etc... If we look at lust (an abuse of sexual desire) to its end we see it comes from a spoiled good (sexual desire - created by God to bring woman and man into a union (marriaige), to bring life into this world. In God's mind this was the best system for sustaining life and bring those lives to Him).

All other forms of sexual desire are a perversion from the good. Infidelity, homosexuality, beastiality, etc. all fall from God's intended purpose of sexual activity in our lives. Any corruption in the spirit over a long enough time will become recognized as a part of self. Whatever this sin may be, it is unnatural from God's intended purpose. If homosexuality is "who you are" and you desire to be accepted with your "lifestyle" then it must be said the same for a promiscuous individual or a pedophile. Shouldn't their "lifestyles" be considered acceptable?

Unfortunatly man has grown accustomed to his corruption for such a long time that the promiscuous individual is accepted (mostly) and the sanctity of marraige has lost much of its value. (Look into some ancient societies or other modern cultural customs and see if you notice the perversion taking place).

All of these consequences stem from a lack of God's presence at the CENTER of the individual, relationship, society, etc.

God allows these flaws in us because when we call on His strength to overcome our temptations and deliver us from evil the power and Glory are so much greater. You may struggle with what to do from a sexual-orientation position. So much so that you feel it is who you are. God will bring light to your life if you ask Him to. Don't be content with the answers from other people on the internet.

Don't rely on others to feel justifed in your beliefs. However, you were intrested inthe Christian perspective - so I know a part of you wants to know Christ. I urge you to pursue THAT desire and let all else fall where it may.

If you are asking the wrong question you will never get the right answer. Don't will your way to being straight. As man: you will fail. Simply ask God what He wants, listen and act. Patience is a virture. Change may not happen overnight. Living in sin is never a way to find Christ.

Answer 7

Sheesh. The bible thumping is so exhausting, isn't it? Our bodies and what we choose to do with them is our own personal business as long as nobody is hurt. When we go "home", and we all will, regardless of our sexual inclinations, our physical bodies will be useless. Gay/lesbianism is one thing we will leave behind when we leave this earth. What is important is that we leave this earth with love and knowledge.

You see, there is a great hall of records at home and we all plan every trip we make back here. We just don't remember until we go back home. Every thing that each one of us does when here is a learning experience. Home is where we go and examine our "Life 101A" requirements and some will come back to this earth to catch up on what we missed the last time we were here. Good or bad, as physical human beings, we have, ourselves, created all things we call wrong, bad or ugly. At home, there is no such thing as anger, hate, scorn, jealousy, impatience, disgust, etc. Only love. We were given the one major thing that changes the way the world evolves. That is free will. When we plan out our next return trip here, we have the best of intentions, I'm sure. But free will of our own and others can change the course of events. It is all part of the learning process. When we are finished on our spiritual journey, we are perfect because we learn by our mistakes and our goodness to add our perfect soul to what we like to refer to as "God". There really is nothing wrong with what you do in your own bedroom. Once you leave your physical body behind, all it really was, was a vessel for your soul to move around with while here. The huge collective pool of souls that have completed their spiritual journey through the ages, that are all part of GOD would never want any of their kindred spirits to be sad and unhappy.

As a regular everyday person, I say, "As long as I do not hurt anybody, I am free to love whomsoever I choose without fear of retaliation. Keep your nose out of my bedroom!"

Does that make sense?

Answer 8

I can not answer for a gay person but I am a straight Christian.I am divorced. I used to be "active" and there came a time in my life where I truly accepted Jesus and I have been celibate for 5 yrs now.GOD does not want sex out of marriage so I don't have sex.This is not easy because my appetite was extemely strong, but I chose GOD over lust.

Answer 9

Even though you present a reasonable question I cannot provide a reasonable answer. According to conservative christians (nay the Bible infact), homosexuality is wrong. It is natural law, which means that things are wrong, no exceptions, your damned, that's it, end of.

So a conservative christians (if abiding to their own laws) would have to reply, with this...
'Homosexuality is a tool of the devil and it is wrong, pray long and hard that God sends you back on the straight and narrow, and may you soon know forgivness for your wickedness. Go in peace. God bless'

Horrific isn't it? Personally any God who demands that, and who agrees with the above...Well he's no God to me, and I'd rather go to Hell if that be the case.
I'm bisexual and when I went to visit my preist (at my dad's request) he told me to just be straight. But I'm not, and I'm not going to be, if God demands unhappiness then he is not God.

I hope you find the strength to just be who you are, safe in the knowledge that whatever God the conservative and fundamentalist christian's believe in...Well I am pretty sure when the final day arrives and trumpets sound, it will not be their God standing waiting to deliver us from evil.

Should point out by the way, that I don't actully believ in God. I'm just being as reasonable as I can be.

Answer 10

God can change you from the inside out. The reason conservative Christians see this as wrong is because the Bible says it is. Receiving forgiveness for sin is just the beginning. God loves you too much to keave you where you are. Don't believe for a second that the situation is irreversable.

Answer 11

I'm in no way a 'conservative christian' i guess because I try to follow Jesus' only commandment that he has given us...John 13:34

"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another."

Some christians will start to quote Leviticus...a man that lies with another man is an abomination...yadda yadda yadda, but they will leave out some of the more obscure 'laws' in Leviticus...

a) When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odor for the Lord (Lev 1:9). The problem is my neighbors. They claim the odor is not pleasing to them. Should I smite them?

b) I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

c) I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of menstrual uncleanliness (Lev 15:19-24). The problem is, how do I tell? I have tried asking, but most women take offense.

d) Lev. 25:44 states that I may indeed possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies to Mexicans, but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can't I own Canadians?

e) I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself?

f) A friend of mine feels that even though eating shellfish is an Abomination (Lev 11:10), it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don't agree. Can you settle this?

g) Lev 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle room here?

h) Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev 19:27. How should they die?

i) I know from Lev 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?

j) My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev 19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? (Lev 24:10-16) Couldn't we just burn them to death at a private family affair like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)

Obviously, some of the 'laws' that are written in Leviticus are a little outdated. Why not all of them?