Why won't many girls date guys who are in the Military?

Question

I'am a decent looking guy who, like everyone else in the US military, serves this country day in and out for the well being of it's citizens, and in return, civilian girls give me and the rest of us the cold shoulder? Why? If it wasn't for us, many of you girls wouldn't get to live your sheltered and "perfect little lives."

Answer 1

I believe the reasoning behind it is because most women think that military men are just out for sex and nothing more. Am I wrong? How are you going to make a relationship last while you are gone months at a time? Plus, there were many guys at my high school who were going into the military and told everyone that their goal was to sleep with as many different women as they could. Great goal, don't you think? Anyhow ... there are several men that I knew back in high school and most of them were not faithful to ... anyone. I know that their have to be some good ... honest to good guys serving in the military but most women think they are all the same. The girls are going against their odds if they try to date a military guy. Even a boyfriend that I had in high school was thinking of going into the military. We had been in and out of the relationship for about 4 years and he simply told me that if he did join that he was going to cheat. Of course, I found out later that he didn't have to join to cheat on me because he had been doing it the whole time we were together. I think most women find it sexy that you guys wear a uniform but the thought of having a one night stand with one of you guys and probably never being thought of again isn't what a GOOD girl wants. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that I helped you. I know it isn't that great to deal with but that's what I think when I think of the military men! Most of it is due to movies and such! Good luck

Answer 2

You know my current boyfriend of 2 years is military. I have to admit until I met him most military guys were either conceited or just male s..luts. I understand now that not all are. But I do know my Bf's past of parting and what not with his buddies. Which pretty much is the same for all guys who use to live in the dorms.
And being sent away is a big one too. It's hard to get attached to someone who might be leaving you to either another base or even country.

Every guy needs his chance. Hope you find a good girl for ya.

Answer 3

i would be friends with a military man, but not much more. (thank goodness my husband has been outta of the military for a few years now) it's not that we're not interested, it's the drama that comes with being involved with military men. what are we to do when we get that visit from officials saying your convoy was attacked and you were killed? how are we to feel when we're listening to the news and that everyday line about "x" amount of soldiers were killed? was it you the new cast was talking about? let's assume you do make it back and you're not mentally right in the head from all the crazy stuff you've witnessed while overseas. are we expected to stand by your side and help you through it all, assuming you don't flip out and kill us before then? don't get me wrong, it's not like we don't appreciate what you think you're doing for us (that's not a shot at you, but at our current administration) but as far as relationships with you wonderful military personnel, it's too complicated emotionally to get involved with you. but if you're looking to have fun or good conversation, look me up!!

Answer 4

Military boys have a huge lack of commitment and loyalty. On top of that your only home 6 or more months of the year. How can you have a relationship with someone when you only see them for less then a year? Makes it hard for the girl to stay loyal and committed. And most militay guys are ugly. Sorry.

Answer 5

Military men are married to the military. Military men leave. Military men take their wives and children away from home....

Military guys are the best guys!!! I married 2 of 'em. They were men in every sense.

Keep trying, the right girl will be there!!!

Answer 6

been exactly where you are my man...i served in the navy back on 32nd street. the women in that area have been used and abused by service men for many years and have finally smartened up. your not making a lot of dollars and your gone all the time. its just part of being in the service and once you get out, you'll find those same women very grateful and responding to your advances.

Answer 7

I dated a guy who was in the Marines, it's not that we won't date you it's hard to date you. What happens to us when you get deployed and we don't get to hear from you everyday, it's heart breaking. I wouldn't say we don't date military men, it is a harsh reality when we never get to see you. Also thank you for what you do.

Answer 8

because guys of military have hard life and they absent all the time for serving the country
but girls need a guy who stay with her all the time to be comfortable

Answer 9

I think military guys are hot, I would love to date a Marine. Are you a Marine?

Answer 10

sweetie, you sound like a nice fella. But you know you have one heck of a dangerous job there. Lots of women don't date firemen, policemen, soldiers. They are afraid of "that special call" one day..the one nobody wants to get, telling them their loved one is gone. That is scary stuff. It does take a very special woman to have a soldier boyfriend. But there are lots of special women around. Take your time. You will find one. And when you do, treat her like you want to be treated dear. Treat her fairly, faithfully, and with lots of gentleness. You will be paid back many times over with that kind of treatment.