2006-10-25 10:52:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no, i think the court does that.
2006-10-25 10:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you have sole custody or not. I would investigate if there is a visitation place in your area that deals with things like this. You drop the child off, they visit in the nice, safe place with professional people around. You can do this for a bit to see how things go. It might cost you a small amount, but your child is worth it. Also, you might want to set-up supervised access (which is what those places call themselves as well). Have him pick up and d/o at a neutral supervised location - friend's house, family, etc. See how things go and take it from there. You are in control if you have custody, but don't deny the child or the other parent access if possible. Trust me, I have been on both sides and it is very hurtful.....Good Luck
2006-10-25 17:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by C G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a lawyer. Depends on the state, if partner is on birth certificate or DNA. Depends if partner provides $$ or care. You could be opening a huge can of worms.
Now, YOU get to decide. Don't give that up easily.
Me? I'd want supervised visits, so you know what that partner is saying and doing with, to, or for your child. I wouldn't let ANYONE have unsupervised visits with my child, if I could help it. There are too many weirdos out there. Good luck.
Partner gave up daddy-papers when he didn't stick around in the first place.
2006-10-25 18:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the question should you agree to ex partner having access to your child. Question really is should you prevent your child seeing their father. Answer - only in circumstances where you believe your child would be at risk from harm (either emotional, physical or sexual). Why do you want to stop contact anyway? Ask yourself if it is because you are hurt and angry or if there is a real issue of safety - if there is then I would be the first one to suggest no contact until there is a plan in place to ensure safety of your child.
2006-10-26 11:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by bennett21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my partner has a child with his ex wife and although all situations are different it is important for the child that you 2 can remain civilised with one another. but if a court of law is involved then it will be for the to sides to come to an agreement which should be stuck to. the child's well being is paramount.
good luck, i know it can be a difficult time for all involved.
2006-10-25 19:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by blackpool04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have custody and a parenting plan is in place then no. If nothing is in place but you still take care of the child primarily then I feel you still have the say. If he want to see his kid bad enough then he should be able to compromise with you so that it works for both.
2006-10-25 17:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you have sole custody of the child, when it goes to court you can tell your solicitor when and where you want your partner to have the access x x x
2006-10-26 05:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to try and work out something that is mutually agreeable for the sake of your child. however if you cannot talk to him and sort this out it would be better to go to court and get them to sort it out. see a solicitor as soon as possible to know your rights, if money is an issue take advise from the citizens advise bureaus. they are pretty good.
2006-10-25 17:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by Raine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you agree for visits you can't tell him what he does with the kid(s).
If it goes to court they will say every other weekend and one evening a week minimum. (This is in the UK). unless you can prove he's unfit to look after the child(ren).
From my experience try and sort it amicably for the kids sake.
Good luck.
2006-10-25 17:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by M1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its based on a mutual agreement between you and your ex. if you guys cant agree, the court will come up with a compromise for you guys, trying to do what will be best for the children.
2006-10-25 17:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of this going through the courts and causing more stress between you both, why dont you get together, (even thought it may be hard) an arrange it beween the both of you, after all it is your child that your talking about
2006-10-26 01:03:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋