I am only 19 yrs old and all of my life, I have tried to do the right thing. I have remained abstinent and I have put my focus more on my college work instead of guys, and thus far I have excelled. I do not want to sound conceded in saying this, but I consider myself to be a pretty girl. Not like the type that u want to screw around with for fun. For some reason, I have never had a bf. When I walk to class, the guys stare at me all of the time, but none of them have the courage to start up a conversation. I even had one guy asked me where my bf was, and they are in total shock when I tell them that I am single. I honestly get tired of being single, but I know that it is going to be extremely difficult to find a guy who is going to want a girl who is not into sex. BTW, I am an extremely openminded person, and I dont go out patronizing people to remain abstinent. It seems like the guys are into the easier girls, and I wonder if I am wasting my time by staying a virgin.
2006-10-25 10:48:25 · 10 answers · asked by I <3 you 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm in almost exactly the same situation. I don't think you're waisting your time at all. It will be harder to find and keep a bf being a virgin, but I think you should stick with it. Also, finding guys who actually will wait is one way of weeding out some of the assholes out there. If he respects your decision, he's probably a good guy. As for getting a bf in the first place, I think you'll probably have to make the first move, because everyone thinks you must be taken.
2006-10-25 10:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by ern_linnell 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, i do think saving yourself for marriage is a waste - there is nothing magical about virginity, or sex. On the other hand, everything in moderation - I don't think we should all be whores. I have found though that the majority of people need to sow their wild oats a little - and if they don't, they often regret it later when they don't have the opportunity to. So don't be afraid of experiencing new things - not necessarily sex, but maybe dating multiple guys at a time (and not having sex with any of them). Or trying new activities where you can meet different kinds of people, etc. Basically ANY guys who will hit on you randomly in a public place are not the kind of guys you want to date anyway -those guys are also hitting on every other decent looking girl who walks by - keep that in mind. You need to meet guys through friends, or clubs or activities - then you will find a good boyfriend.
2006-10-25 11:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue with your studies, succed in life, be proud of youself, be financially independent first then u will get not only a boyfrend but a husband that will deserve u and respect u.
No u are not wasting your time by remaining a virgin and 1 day u will find the right guy and if u manage to marry a virgin there isn't a more beautiful gift that u can give your husband.
Besides most of the times sex just complicate life anyways!!!!!
2006-10-25 10:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lee, you sound so much like me. I was a virgin at 19 years old, too; and I promise you I was the epitome' of a "GOOD GIRL"... I did every thing my folks said, went to college, got a good education, got a good job; and when I did date... girl, I ended up with A LOT of jerks, b/f I found my husband who I have been married to now for 5 years. He is such a GOOD guy. Respectful, honest, intelligent; and was raised the same way I was; and remained innocent until he was finish with college. So, to answer your question, yes, honey, good girls do end up with boyfriends... and husbands, too. You just continue doing what you're doing; and living right; and pray and ask GOD to send you a GOOD man, not just a boyfriend, but, a GOOD boyfriend... good luck!!!
2006-10-26 15:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by A Lady @ ALL Times 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea...we get bfs. I'm a straight A girl...involved in church...DEFINITELY a virgin and I am dating an amazing guy right now. Try starting the conversation with guys. It'll make them feel a little more comfortable around you. Anyway, some guys can be jerks, just wait for the right one..don't get desperate.
2006-10-25 10:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT wasting a time staying a virgin!!!
Don't give it up yet!!!!!
Girl, I am a virgin and have waited for the guy I want to give it up to. Well, I will when we're married.
But I am also young... around your age... till I was in my first serious relationship.
Don't give up your virginity because you want a guy.
Keep on with your studies.
I have done the same thing you did.
And he came along.
He will come along too.
I PROMISE.
He'll come when you least expect it.
2006-10-25 10:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey good things come to those who wait. Guys your age are into partying and shagging. Hold to what you value and you won't be dissapointed. Besides, if you want a bf you may have to be the outgoing one - it does take 2 people to have a conversation.
Good luck, you''l do just fine.
2006-10-25 10:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. You've just got to find the right guy. He'll come, don't worry about it and continue living your life well and suceed!
:)
2006-10-25 10:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bad girls get boyfriends. Good girls get husbands.
2006-10-25 10:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by lefty 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
not only do they get boyfriends, but they get married and get the good guys.
2006-10-25 10:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by pay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋