the topic of jealousy?

Question

My cousin same age as I am, well sometimes I think she's jealous of me. I'm not trying to be mean but I really do think this. Ever since we moved in together with my aunt she makes remarks to hurt me. In retaliation I just took it as a joke cuz I don't like hurting people. but I've given that up and have turned her words around to make her seem stupid. Example, My aunt always asks me not her to go shopping for the house or make sure to take something to the post office. My cousin then Laughed and said that My aun't asks me because I always do what she says, Meaning brown noser, I turned around and told her or " maybe you can't do things right that she depends on me alone. I felt bad but I was just ticked off that day. We're okay, me and my cousin now, but whenever I do something or When we visit cousins I would be talking and joking with them and she would just leer making me think that she's jealouse. My other cousin have warned me that She talks badly about me. ignore or fight back

she's not my aunts daughter.

Answer 1

well... if everything is like you said then it must be a case of jealousy.
I'm new here so I don't know if after posting a question you can really answer me but either way...if you are better looking than your cousin if you are more successful then she's definitely jealous of you. I know this might be shallow but with men and women usually the best looking one is a bit picked on because of their qualities. for example...undermining what you do, what you say that's a typical case of jealousy, but to tell the truth the best answer is usually to ignore or even despise in case jealousy becomes too heavy, but that's up to you.

Answer 2

You do not mentioned what age you both are, but judging by your letter I would assume that you both are teenagers? or younger. Why don't you tell your Aunt of this problem with your cousin, so she could have a talk with her about it. So do not under any circumstances ignore the problem because it is going to come to blows with you two. Why are you, and your cousin, living with your Aunt? It is very hard moving to another place that is not your home, and having disagreements with someone would make anyone miserable to live there. By all means tell your Aunt about the problem you and your cousin have and I hope that she would sit down with the both of you and have a long talk about it. Good Luck with you and your cousin.

Answer 3

Ohhh, sounds like jealousy to me! I've raised 3 daughters and I've had my share of it. First off it seems as though your aunt does depend on you. Apparently you are more mature than your cousin, otherwise she would be sharing some the responsibility. I would talk to my aunt about it and how it makes you feel, and then I would ask her to talk about it with the two of you together. I wouldn't let it continue though, everyone has their breaking point and I think your reaching yours. So I guess I'm saying stand up and fight back. You should definitely let your cousin know about her talking badly about you behind your back. Apparently no one believes her and it makes her look foolish. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

You have to understand your situation and hers. She is the Aunt's daughter and the Aunt is choosing you instead. (I think that's what you said). It sounds like the cousin needs a little extra attention. What you should do is pull your Aunt aside and ask her to keep this between you. Then tell her that you think your cousin is getting hurt because of the time the two of you are spending and ask your aunt to make more effort with your cousin. Also, when your Aunt invites you, invite your cousin too and see if that helps!

Answer 5

hmmmnn, I know exactly how you feel. I have a cousin AND and aunt who are both jealous of me. They talk crap a lot and my aunt tries to put lots of make-up on my cousin to make her look pretty. the funny thing is taht my cousin is 3 years younger and my aunt is like, in her late 50's, how pathetic, huh?

try confronting her about it, but if you feel uncomfortable doing so, then just try to stear clear for a while. dont listen to her remarks and dont feel bad about being witty to her. after all, she doesn't seem to feel much remorse about making you feel bad. Talking back/standing up for yourself lets a person know that you refuse to be walked all over, but dont stoop to her her level by talking trash, just ignor and show her whoes the better person.

Answer 6

well i have been in a situation like this and i found out that she was in deed jealous and if you ignore it she feel as though you don't care and that it is not getting to you, so your best bet would be to leave it along meaning ignore it then in this way she will be like she will feel stupid and she would say to her self i guess i am jealous and by you fighting back she will still be the same way as before so you do whats in your heart if so it's the right choice.

Answer 7

Ive dealt with the same things with girlfriends, its better just to ignore it or it will really ruin your relationship with her. And yeah...she definitely is jealous so just try to keep that in mind, try to think of it as flattering, its the best thing you can do

Answer 8

Continue to treat her in the manner you want people to treat you......either she will stop being petty.....or she will have lost a true friend in a cousin.

Answer 9

well girl take my advice if some one is jealous of u ya cant do nothin about that its just sayin dat some one is hatin on u and if ya got a hater in ya life than ya life is going as planed

Answer 10

fight back --- i have a "firend" who persist on making me feel like an idiot cause shes jeaolous -- i take it and play it off like a joke and soon anger builds inside of me -- tell her to back off