My daughter is very smart. She can keep her pants dry but then she'll have days like today where she pooped in her pants twice and peed in them twice. When I ask her why, she tells me she's not big enough, that her 2 yr old sis told her to, or she just stares at me. I am going to call the doctor tomorrow to make sure it is not a physical problem. I am at the end of my rope. I have tried rewards,I have tried to be neutral, I have tried punishment. I just don't have any ideas about motivating her to use the potty. She is in Montessori School with kindergardeners 5 days a week for 3 hrs a day. She has only had two accidents at school. While the big kids may be providing some motivation while she is there, they are not helping at home.
2006-10-25 10:43:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am not just starting w/ potty training. We tried several times since she turned 2 yrs old but she didn't seem ready. We did the pull-ups for a long time. Because we knew she was entering school in Sept, we have put panties on her everyday since July rather than pull-ups or diapers. We're having trouble getting her to use the potty on a regular basis.
2006-10-26 01:43:25 · update #1
i worked at a day care for a really long time in the potty training ages. you will have days like that. you have to be consistent, if she has a good day, reward her and let her know your proud of her. if she thinks your forgetting that she is doing good, she will let you know, like today. she may be doing it for attention.
2006-10-25 10:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This does seem late to start but from the sounds of it with two children so close in age you had your hands full until now.
Your two year old sounds like a little bit of a problem,.. but not how things normally go. Normally if syblings are so close in age they compete because they are confused because they feel like they should be the same age and have the same toys and the same bed and the most attention,... etc. But it sounds like yours are getting along quite well.
What you should be doing is going to your Two Year old and includeing them into this. Even see if they would like to Potty Train (if they are not already). There are some problems that might become more obvious for you then. Your 3 year old is not tall enough to always function like an adult, when you rush to the bathroom because you are going to have an accident you can just drop pants and aim,.. a 3 year old needs to climb, position, and balance... so it is not always there fault... especially if they are feeling pain at the time which makes it more difficult.
You may want to have a training toilet by the regular toilet to handle some emergenies like that.
When your in school... You have to do things on a scedual. The help gets their hands full and you are neglected for what is a short period of time, but just long enough for your body to win the battle. When there are special activities, there isn't room to listen to every little voice. And there are times the bathroom is full.
It can start to be embaresing to explain things even at that age,.. and because of that age it may be incredibly difficult to articulate something that would take several sentences to explain to you.
So I wouldn't scould her for this. Just talk to her about alerting and includ her sister into things. (Give her ways to get to the toilet sooner, let her sister know she is going to go through this too and can start now).
I'm an adult now, but I recall the chaos of Pre-School, Kindergarten, and Care places all, too well.
2006-10-25 11:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by sailortinkitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With all honesty your daughter should have been potty trained already 1yrs old i think is to early but I just finished potty training my 2 1/2 yrs old daughter. Talk to her about the potty, make a trip to the store and have her help you pick out panty's. Praise her, praise her, praise her when she does go in the potty, but if she has an accident let her know she disappointed you and tell her she has to try. I hope this helps.
2006-10-25 11:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by Louisa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are books that you can read to your daughter about being a big girl and going on the potty, try looking for them. My niece had the same problem, and the books helped her realize that she can do it too!
And make sure that you are treating her like a 3 1/2 year old, not a 2 year old....
Let her pick out her big girl undies, only if she goes in the potty she can wear them,,,, but if she goes in her pants, tell her she can't wear her big girl undies until she shows you she can go in the potty..... let her make the decisions... it might work!
2006-10-25 11:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by mrs. ruspee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your 2 yo seems ready for the potty, start training her too. The sibling rivalry will work to your advantage. When she sees little sister getting rewarded, she'll want that too.
2006-10-25 17:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a great ebook on potty training. The simple methods may be just the thing to try with your daughter. I found it online, and it worked great for me, so I would be happy to forward you a copy. email me to request it at starsalso@yahoo.com
2006-10-25 10:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the name of all things good did you wait so long? Did you Like to Change the diapers? are ya crazy? Who does that? all i can say is stick to whatever you do. and Good luck.
2006-10-25 11:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by Que 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Little girls will learn by telling them how to do something, have you tried explaining it to her in kid terms how to use the toilet?
2006-10-25 10:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is YOUR failure, you should have taught her that before she turned 1. Now you both will have a mess for a long time.
I think she is outsmarting you, - there is no cure for that. ;-)
2006-10-25 10:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋