What are gay people supposed to do from a Christian perspective about being happy with their love life?

Question

From a Christian perspective, what are the options (option that even a straight person would be willing to do as well) for a gay man in regards to his love life? Since he cannot be with another gay man (since conservative Christians see this as wrong) what are his alternatives? Now if you say his only choice is celibacy, do you really see this as fair and would you (assuming you are straight) be willing to do this if it was reversed and being straight was a sin? I just want to know what you conservative Christians see as a viable alternative for gay men and women who believe that Jesus Christ died for their sins and truly believe this and pray everyday and cry themselves to sleep every night on a tear soaked pillow that they will wake up straight, yet the morning comes and they are still gay. What are they supposed to do? Be unhappy and know that God will do nothing to help them or just accept who they are and have a loving relationship with the same sex. Serious answers only!

Some of your answers are not really looking at the big picture here. Some of you simply see it as something in addition to being straight, like, I'm attracted to women AND men, so I should just stop doing "gay" things and just go with wife and get your lusts out in a marriage with a women. The thing some of you DO NOT REALIZE is GAY PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE ATTRACTIONS TO THE OPPOSITE SEX. This would be like me telling a straight person to give up their attraction to the opposite sex and get married to the same sex and get your lust and sexual frustrations out in a marriage of the same sex. SEE. You wouldn't like that would you, because you don't like the same sex. Some of you really don't understand how difficult it is to be gay and deal with this every day. But then again, now I understand why so suicide is SO high with gay people. You straight people have it SO made and you don't even know it. If you only knew......makes me so angry at you people who JUST DON'T GET IT!

Answer 1

The president of Fuller Theological Seminary was on APR's "Speaking of Faith" talking about this about 6 weeks ago. He recognized that he was imposing a rule of celibacy on Christian gay men that he couldn't live up to. However, because he believes in the Bible and I Corinthians says that men with men and women with women are forbidden, he couldn't see a way around it.

I've given up on Christianity because I cannot stomach the worldview. But this theologian acknowledged that following Christian ethics causes genuine human harm, yet refused to yield. When one's ability to reason is overridden by blind faith, who knows what harm you can cause!

Thanks for bringing up the question.

Answer 2

You may be coming from the perspective that being gay is like being black or Jewish. It's not an orientation - it's a preference. No study has ever shown that homosexuality is inborn. It's a behavior.

That said, I should add that even IF it were inborn, it makes no difference. I'm born with the tendency to want to take what's not mine if I want it. Should I or society give in to that tendency and make theft legal?

Lastly, the Bible clearly says that homosexual behavior is a sin before God. That's pretty clear-cut, both OT and NT. In the end, you need to do what's right in God's eyes. It may be tough here, but in the face of eternity, it's less than the blink of an eye. God will help you if you make the move to do what's right. I would also encourage you to get support in that decision so you won't be alone. I wish you the very best.

Answer 3

I'm hetero and I grew up with the "one wife for life" ideal. First wife dumped me (twice). My pastor told me he wouldn't counsel me because she wouldn't agree to counseling, then he told me, "I know you are going to fail, just do it somewhere else." Meanwhile, close friends and even close relatives were almost standing in line to see if they could bed my now ex-wife and the only folks in line for me were a half-dozen homosexuals that I didn't know were homosexuals. I wasn't interested in the guys and all the girls I knew also knew I "only wanted one thing."

I was hetero and having a terrible time accepting the expected celibacy, so I can understand if those on the other side of the fence did too. I later read 1 Corinthians 7 (several times) and latched on to two things: "It is better to marry than to burn" and that the "one wife" thing was mainly for ministers and otherwise reads pretty much as a recommendation, not a "commandment".

According to some, I'm living in sin now even though I've been married now for several years. Still, I spent several years "pray everyday and cry themselves to sleep every night on a tear soaked pillow" and I was straight. Latching onto the "grace of God" as I do now, is the same that others have to do, still I fully believe that if I had chosen to find 'comfort' in the men instead of women I would have much less hope to stand on when my time comes to face my Creator. Homosexuality is wrong, but even heterosexuality has its moments too.

Answer 4

I would say make a choice to serve God or serve your corrupt flesh (basically yourself).

Once you realize what is really important in life and you choose God you will have happiness and love in your life that is indescribable. You will realize that you had no idea what real love was.

Yes, Christ died for all sinners. There is no such thing as a homosexual Christian. They don't exist. There are former homosexuals that have become Christians. That is the difference. A sinner who becomes a Christian does not continue committing the same sin over and over again. They die to themselves and pick up their cross. Every sin they commit will be detestable to them because it is detestable to God. Christians don't say oh I'm going to continue this vile act because I like it and it makes me "feel good" and God loves me anyway. Would you continually slap someone in the face you love? Well, they love me so they won't care if a repeatedly slap 'em around whenever I get the urge because...uhh...it makes me feel good.

We all sin everyday, but as a Christian you are to turn from sin. You are to be pleasing to God. If someone has a problem repeating the same sin they are to get help and turn from it. To do otherwise is equivalent to slapping God, whom they say they believe in, right in the face.

In short, Choose God or choose yourself...that is the bottom line.

Answer 5

Substitute gay with the word sin and there you will find every Chrsitian. Every Christian is a sinner and while each of have to deal with different temptations it is ultimately the same. we are taught that because of sin we had fallen short of God and because we were not able to be perfect God came to the world to be tempted and overcome sin and to die as atonement for all who accept this atonement. Now your question is can I remain in sin and still be saved? The answer is no we must reckon the man of sin as dead. Just as Christ died on the cross so is the sinful flesh of the believer.It is by faith that we are saved as he who endures to the end is truly saved.we are not perfected as yet we still live in the sinful world in our sinful bodies...It is in faith we claim our salvation. Now if we by faith say that we have died to sin we can't continue to live in sin. Now that does not mean that a chrsitian will not make mistakes but if we do things that we do not agree with it is not sin but sin that dwells in us...the fact is that we cannot give ourselves over to sin and claim that we are saved. the changes that take place in a christian are the changes that god makes in us. We are a work in progress and we believe that the work God has started in us he will complete. May God bless you and give you strength and keep you with him forever. I would recommend you read Romans Chapter 6 it explains the process of being a Christian much better than I can.

Answer 6

First off Jesus came to give life and give it more abundantly , Jesus came to make man whole again in other words to be back in a right relationship with God and when a man are woman truly accepts Jesus Christ as there Lord and Savior there are changes in there life ,that goes for a gay person male are female ,will they go to hell for there sin ,No they will only go to Hell for not believing in the One and only true God ,are these people born that way I don't believe they are ,I believe that events in there life turn them this way but Ive meet many who have changed and they fully admit how Lost they where.
Peace

Answer 7

Sounds like a very difficult situation. For one I would say that I needs to know the truth about the gay situation. One is its not normal, 2 its not something one is "born" to be, and 3 it is not impossible to leave that lifestyle. I know much has been said otherwise but if one wants to they can check out what I say. Also one needs to understand this is not the only sin in the world. We all struggle with sin. One may be addicted to porn or cheating on their spouse or drugs or whatever. The battle for our souls is real and its not an easy battle nor does scripture indicate otherwise. The way to fight this or any sin is the same. If we do love Christ we need to trust Him and He states to all who are united to Him by faith "go and sin no more" Now we know we will not in this life become sinless but what He means is stop living in sin. All who are truly children of God have been given the Holy Spirit and now live in His power and He is able to help us. We have been given His Word telling us how to do this and we need to study, learn , practice. Even as Paul says He finds sin dominating his flesh yet with his mind he serves God so as he admits sinful desire he also sees a desire to obey and he says the one that obeys even though he wants to sin is no longer under condemnation, Plain and simple we do not do the things we want and we look to Him when we stumble. If we are indeed children of God we will succeed because it is God who works in us. May the Lord grant you wisdom and all the best to you.

Answer 8

From a Christian perspective? Suffer.

Most Reform Jews believe that the traditional laws against homosexuality originated in a ritual context, having to do with morality of the times. For the most part, the Hebrew word which is translated as "abomination" was applied in the *ritual* sphere of life rather than the ethical sphere.

The Torah is inclined to see homosexual relations in a cultic context rather than something more parallel to the interpersonal context of heterosexual relationships.

Although the sin of Sodom and Gemmorah seems on the surface to have been homosexuality, later Jewish tradition makes no reference to homosexuality and sees the sins of Sodom and Gemmorah as cruelty and lack of hospitality to the "stranger" - xenophobia, in other words.

Reform Judaism, for the most part, views the traditional prohibitions against homosexuality as morality from a bygone age -- morality now replaced with clearer understandings of the reality of gender orientation as something beyond individual "preference."

As a whole, the Reform Movement, both the "lay people" and the rabbis, have come out very strongly in favor of civil rights for gays and lesbians.

Of course, Jews only wrote the bible, so what do they know.

Answer 9

the opinion that believers share in regard to this is not their opinion but what is given directly from the Word of God -

there are specifics given in the Word to this lifestyle and those before us who chose to live in it and what the outcome was in that circumstance

these reports are the basis from which this information is shared in the christian faith

God loves the sinner but hates the sin - the same thing He encourages his followers to do .....
the Word also states to know it is sin and continue in it - is still sin .... sin is the only thing that comes between us and God

sin can be forgiven if repentance(turning away from) is followed

the only thing that separates any of us from eternity/ God is the rejection of His Son

different denominations(which is simply division by the opinion of man developing their own group of belief) has different positions on this - however God will be and is the judge on the walk of faith for EACH person

be sure you are secure in your belief for it is the answer you will give to Him - judged from His own Word

Answer 10

Answers will be interesting, I'm sure, of course a favorite is hate the sin but love the sinner, but all you here is hate from them. Another happily married man giving some thumbs down. ...and no, they do not read and learn much. Great question!