Don't know if it matters, but I'm male -- and doing a speed dating thing tonight for the first time. I know the general things about being comfortable, not to dress like a slob, and so on. However, I'm generally bad with conversation (starting one & keeping one going). The best piece of advice (please be as specific as possible!) will get the best answer tomorrow.
thanx
2006-10-25 10:28:25 · 13 answers · asked by mycophagy2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about a fun topic you like alot, for example music maybe. Ask her what her favorite band is, and concentrate on ONLY her favorite band. Don't talk about your favorite band unless she asks. If she does, keep it short.
Ask like what music they play, what her favorite song is, and if you like her, ask her to go to their concert with you
GOOD LUCK MAN!!
2006-10-25 10:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by OwNaGeR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go stand in from of a mirror and practice this:
1.Raising your eye brow's
2.Flashing a perfect smile
3.Saying Hi, as you do 1 & 2
4.Do all of these when you first meet each girl, you will make a great first impression.
Now that you have learned that, Conversation:
Simple, the key is to have no expectations about meeting the girl of your dreams tonight.
So knowing this, just keep it light on the conversation, don't make it about you, become the listener, ask open ended questions, that she can't answer in yes or no answers.
After the first 3 minutes, most women know weather they would like to meet you in the future for a date.
When talking to them, imagine that you are always thinking about how much fun you are having and smile. they will sometimes ask, what's so funny, just say I'm just so happy to meet you.
If after 3 mins. you get the vibe that they are into you, just ask this question, would they be interested in seeing you again, (watch their body Language) it will tell you if they are lieing or truthful. If they say yes, then immediately ask for their number.
If you are not interested in dating them, just ask anyway, it's good practice, for the one you may date later.
If you speak about yourself at all speak a bit louder, so other girls can hear, then, speak softer and lean in toward the girl you are talking to, while doing this, look to see what other girls are looking at you.
The hole point is to attract attention to yourself.
Have fun, tap into the (feelings) of every women and you will win her heart everytime.
Women feel everything with their emotions.
2006-10-25 10:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If things don't work out with this lady, you can go to this site www.plentyoffish.com and the site is ALL FREE, no matter what. I know because I have had a membership there and didn't believe it at first neither. If you want to start a good conversation you should try complimenting your lady, then letting her know that you are confident things will work out for that night. When you are eating together don't stare at her food or her, and never answer your cellphone if you have one with you. Take your time, enjoy the time you have with her, and compliment her from time to time. Most women love it when they get attention so just show her that you respect her and care about her conversation topics and don't stare at her boobs if she has big knockers. This is GOOD advice since it works for me.
2006-10-25 10:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Relax and be yourself. Don't go out of your way to 'impress' anyone...that usually just makes people seem dorky (in my opinion). I'm the same as you (not a good conversationalist) unless I'm with someone I'm really comfortable with. But isn't that partly the point of speed dating?? If you can't have a decent conversation with someone, you move on and be happy that it wasn't a 'real' date. But if you can carry on a good conversation with someone, you can pursue it. Good luck...I'm sure you will do fine!!
2006-10-25 10:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by just me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great convo's that make you look like youre interested in the girl are Questions about her life....
#1 - Where do you see yourself in Five yrs ?
#2 - Any brothers or sisters ?
#3 - Have you lived here (wherever that is) your whole life ?
#4 - What do you do for fun ? Then ask things, like Bars ? Sports ? Hobbys ?
Don't complement her too much... It gets scary.....
Hope this helps
2006-10-25 10:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask questions. Women are relationship-oriented, so you can ask about the people in their lives. How they answer will tell you alot about how they are in relationships. Ask if her parents live in the same city, if she's close with her siblings, if she has a group of girls she goes out with. If you really want to know a lot about someone in a short period of time you can ask: "What's Your Dosha?" Knowing someone's dosha, or ayurvedic mind/body type will give you SO much information! More info, and free quiz to determine your own dosha at: http://www.whatsyourdosha.com
2006-10-25 10:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by coffeytalk.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what movie character do you most admire/ relate too.
What is one thing you can't live without.
Really try and get to know who they are.....it is obvious, but a lot of times we are giving them an interview and not really getting to know them....Heck, ask them that...What is the one thing that you want me to know about you?
Try to ask open ended question like what is your favorite hobby, and not a specific question like...do you like to cook?
The biggest thing you can do is be comfortable showing them who you really are and be proud! This should be your attitude....THis is me I am happy being me and I have a ton to offer someone that wants it.
It is not so much confidence as it is being happy being you.
confidence says you know you 'can' do it.
being secure with who you are says you are happy whether you can or can't do it.
2006-10-25 10:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by tightlies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
smalltalk is hard! I think generally people like to talk about their jobs. If you ask questions about her work, or her family, it will keep her talking and she will like your interest.
You know: What do you do? Really/ Do you like it? Sounds interesting.
Or - Do you have a large family? Wow 2 brothers, are you close?
Let's face it people love to talk about themselves and it takes the focus off you and you can look at her and evaluate your interest in pursuing it while she is talking.
oh - and compliment her hair - we love that
2006-10-25 10:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Compliments
2. Manners
3. Attention
4. Interest
WHAT you talk about makes little difference as long as you can apply the above to the situation.
Just start by telling them your name and where your from. then ask them who they are and what they enjoy about life in general.
2006-10-25 10:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by Chris H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the women what their fantasy date would be.
That will get any woman talking a blue streak!!!
2006-10-25 10:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by gagam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋