I didnt have a boyfriend for three years, and guys were dying to be with me. now that i want one, there are none interested. Friends say its because i act too confident and they get scared. I do this to try and impress them. Help!! i want a boy!
2006-10-25 10:24:28 · 31 answers · asked by iluvpink9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Confidence is a good thing, be more talkative towards those your interested.
The first step is to talk with someone, then the next will fall into place.
2006-10-25 10:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Chris H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was about to say that being confident it's good, but as I revised your question I realized that you said you act confident to try to impress them...Be yourself...don't act, maybe you're acting and trying too hard...Be yourself, don't act confident and BE confident, there's a difference. Guys love a confident girl, but hate an actress and a person who is constantly complaining about themselves.
Furthermore, don't try to hard to find a boyfriend, the perfect one will get there when the time is right, and when you are ready...I was single for a very long time, and I was kind of desperate for a boyfriend, when I realized I was looking to hard and I was unhappy because I wanted a boyfriend too much. I stop looking and convinced myself that I will find someone one day when the time is right, and I learned to be happy. Being happy raised my confidence a lot. Now I have the most loving boyfriend I have ever had, we have been together for 5 years and have a baby. The funny thing is that he is my best friend's brother, you'd never know where you'd find a boyfriend, and who that person will be...you'll never know maybe he's closer than you think ;o)
2006-10-25 17:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want/need one?
You're not scaring them away by acting confident. Confidence is a good thing to have. Guys tend to enjoy the ladies who are independent, not clingy. If he doesn't have to remind you ever 5 minutes that he thinks you're hot, you're going to be fine.
You don't need a boy to be happy. Learn that first. Learn how to love who you are, which tells me that you have the confidence in yourself to do whatever you want.
Don't be desperate and the guys will eventually come to you. I would suggest becoming friends with guys instead of just trying to jump into relationships. Remember: guy friends are just as great as boy friends. You never know what will turn out!
All through high school I dated one guy. We broke up after a few years, and I thought that college would bring in the guys. And...I was wrong. Once I stopped being so desperate, I found a guy who became my best friend. Then he became my boyfriend. Then my fiance. Now he's my husband.
Just chill and relax! Everything will happen in due time!
2006-10-25 17:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence is good. Unfortunately, some times, people tend to take it in a wrong way as being corky, which in my opinion, I think it's their problem. On top of that, most guys are intimidated by confident girl. Being a powerful and confident girl like you are a great quality. If some guys don't appreciate that, it's also their problem, not yours.Those dudes need to fix their insecurity.
2006-10-25 17:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probaly because you are acting like you "need a Guy" - that signals "relationship" and if your younger in you 20's or teens this is the last thing a guy wants, that is unless your extremely hot or going after guys who are maybee a little bit "under your league".. other than that read up on current events and smile alot at guys you dont know.
2006-10-25 17:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather look like the confident girl or the girl who has a boyfriend? Personally, I'd rather be confident than committed. But you decide for yourself.
Either way, some guys like girls who act like they don't need them. They see it as a challenge that, if they overcome it, will be a huge ego-booster.
2006-10-25 18:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your friends tell you it's because of your confidence guys like that, they don't like girls who don't take care of themselves and mope around. Confidence is a good thing and just wait it out the right guy will come along, you shouldn't have to change yourself to be with a guy, they should like you for who you are.
2006-10-25 17:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as too confident. You either are confident, or you're not.
Conceited is another thing though. Are you conceited? Do you act high on the horse?
Or do you just know you are pretty and smart and sexy and dont' care what others think? That's confidence.
2006-10-25 17:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would hazard to say that confidence is not what men want when initally picking a girlfriend. Although that confident aspect of your personality will be much appreciated later when he takes you on vacation to that topless beach in Jamaica for your birthday. You may be much more successfull if you are shy and coy... flirty, dependent and cute. And imply his through body language. Many men are a simple lot and want to be the protective neanderthall. Try it and see...
2006-10-25 17:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is more of a turn off than a DESPERATE female. Sounds like your friends are jealous of your confidence. Stop looking for a boyfriend, then they will come looking for someone like you.
2006-10-25 17:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋