My 11 year old daughter is failing all of her test, Any ideas to help?

Question

She is doing her homework and the teachers say she is not talking in class. Still she is failing every class? Any ideas??

Thank you for the wonderful answers. She is ADHD. She is also taking medicine for this problem.

To update everyone, I have met with 4 of the 5 teachers my daughter has (the 5th was at a training). They all said the same thing, that she is not paying attention in class. We are going to keep intouch on a weekly basis about assignments or problems that may come up. Also, I have found a tutor for her, 2 days a week. I am excited about that. Thank you all for the support and advice. I will try anything at this point. I will keep everyone updated as we go along!!

Answer 1

Did you have her eyes checked? If she can't read properly or see the blackboard or computer screen, then she can't absorb the information correctly. My niece couldn't see the blackboard, needed glasses badly. If it isn't a hearing or seeing problem, could you consider something like a tutor or Sylvan Learning Center. Sylvan helped my son go from D to A's. (but they are expensive).

There are two other ideas, but you are going to have to talk to your daughter. Is someone picking on her and that is making her try to shrink into the background. The other is that she doesn't want to appear smarter than her friends because she doesn't want to lose them. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

Okay your daughter is failing all her classes and isn't talking in class as well. You also stated that she is ADHD and that she is taking medication for her problem. Now my first question is this. When she was diagnosed with ADHD did the physican who did the diagnosis also have her in for an MRI? This is a scan that they can do to verify that your child has ADHD and or ADD. Did you have this scan done. If not your child probably has had a defuncto diagnosis and the medication that she is on is hindering her learning.
If she did have the diagnosis and the scan it possibly could be that the medication levels that she is on may still be too high for her. ADHD can be over medicated and this can lead to a lack of an ablitily to focus on school work whether home or school.
The main thing is you need to take her to your pediatrican and explain your worries. I am sorry but I have seen way to many misdiagnosis for ADHD and ADD in school age children. The teachers say that they are...the school refers them after doing the conners test...the physican looks at the child, the conners test and then proceeds to medicate...NOPE...I had to find out the hard way that with my daughter it was DYSLEXIA not even close to ADHD. The teachers just didn't have the patience so they labeled her. Talk about feeling vindicated when I found out that she didn't even have it.
Now you say she doesn't talk in class. Is she talking to other students. As a parent you might just want to take a day off and show up and watch her class. See how she acts in class. Is her teacher showing favoritism...is there putdowns is she alienating your daughter? There is a lot of different things that can be going on but if your daughter doesn't talk in class or answer questions ask her why. Ask her if she likes her teacher. Yes or no. If not why? Bring your concerns to her teacher. There could also be a lack of communication on their part as well.
Hope this helps.

Answer 3

My 11 yr old daughter is also ADHD and this is what we do. first of all, in our state (NC) you have to physically ask for an Indvidualized Education Plan (IEP) and they will schedule a testing session. Then they will pull her from class to give her extra help as she showed need. Mine gets 45 minutes a day and once in place, they can't take it away. But you have to speak up. Sylvan is great, but expensive. I would get a local high school girl to help her, as kids learn better from other kids. Now for ADHD; let me tell you how it was explained to me from a sufferer: You know the feeling of have 10,000 things on your mind and you can't slow it down to sort through and get one thing done? Well that is the norm for them, but don't despair, they are generally gifted in other ways, like art or music. Your time and patience and educating yourself is the most important. And keep sugar and especially Nutrasweet out of your house, Splenda is a different chemical compound. Sugar is real bad with ADD/ADHD kids. You can control a lot of it with diet. Good luck to you both

Answer 4

Have you had her vision and/or hearing tested? I recommend talking to her school counselor who can help you have her tested for other problems. I have gone back to college recently and it is very common for students to take all their test and exams outside the typical classroom (with disability services, in a private, closed room).

You mentioned that she is ADHD, you can speak with her IEP manager and have it written in her service plan to take all test/quiz's outside the classroom with less distraction.

Also....talk with her teachers and her together. All of you sit down and try to come up with a plan to help her. Make sure she know you are all there to help, not condone. She is old enough to be active in her education and know what works and doesn't for her.


Also, vary her study habits....everyone learns differently, try new ways. Get interested in her school work. If she is learning about some time in history, ask her about it. Let her teach it to you and even if your an expert, let her believe your not.

Add in additional visual study guides, rent the movie to the book she's reading or act out a scene in history. Help her come up with mnemonic devices (silly and gross work well at that age) to remember orders of things.

Basically, just get involved, don't let her slink off to her room to study, be proactive....who knows, you might learn a thing or two as well!

Have fun and good luck!

Answer 5

She might have trouble testing, I know a lot of people who are brilliant, but don't do well testing, nerves and whatnot. Try spending lots of time with her, 11 is a big change for a girl. Let her know she can talk to you about anything, and study with her. Ask her if she doesn't understand the wording and such. Best of Luck!

Answer 6

Hmm...maybe a tutor..Or an online tutoring helper...Like Cosmeo..Or ask the teacher for information on an afterschool program at the school..Or get a professional tutor from a place like sylvan or something..im sure it would increase her test grades..Good Luck

Answer 7

I'm going to give you a good one, it is radical but beleive it works. Put her to do very dirty work at home like cleaning the toilets, swiping and mopping, ironing the clothes, wash the dishes, clean the yard, etc. You need to find what she really hates to do and let her do it. You need to be really strong on this and have her work for at least 3 or 4 days streight. She is going to ask after these 3 or 4 days why she has to do all that nasty work and this is the interesting part, your response is this, Doughter because you are failing on all you test I'm helping you to learn what you are going to do for the rest of your life, if you keep failing, all these assignments you have been working these last 4 days, you will have to do it in the future because you never finish school, so you have to choices pasing all you classes and be a succesfull person or I can put you out of school right now and you can spend your time cleaning toilets for the rest of you life. Beleive me it works but you need to be really strong.

Answer 8

when my son started primary 1 in a private school, i was very involved in my work. i had to work carzy hours from 8:30 am till 8:30 - 10:30 pm depending on the day's work load. i left my boy alone in his studies. i just could not guide him at all. his first exam he ended up among the last 8 in class. that's when i decided i had to make some serious decisions - like changing a job with fixed working hours. i started going thru his daily lessons everyday with him in the evening and checking his homework. his improvement with every exam was a great one. he went from position 22nd, to 19th, to 13th place. for his final exam, he got 10th place and he was very proud of himself. though this new job brings in less income but i know i'm giving him a head start in his education.

Answer 9

Tutoring
Studying
Parent-Teacher Conference

Answer 10

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