I have 3 boys aged 5 & twins aged 3. Im due to have another in may. Is any mother in the same situation. do you think its better to work or stay at home?
2006-10-25 10:06:11 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i have a 13wk old son, a 2yr old son, a 4yr old son and an 8yr old daughter, i gave up work 3mnths before my last son was born as my hubby thought it better i stay at home, i must admit im glad i gave up as having four young children is exhausting, it seems alot harder than three for some strange reason, the love they give me makes up for the tiredness tho. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and i hope all goes well x
2006-10-25 10:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by emmamac14 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be better for you to stay at home, if that is possible financially but if not,..... you must allocate some time for YOU!!! A night out at least once a week, time at a beauty salon or/and a hobby. Your children come first, but when you work it is difficult to juggle everything with one or two but with 5/6 it will be a great strain to give your best in both your job AND your mothering, so I do think it would be better for you all if you are at home at least until they are all at school, and then you could perhaps work part-time or flexi-hours. I don't know what your financial situation is , but my advice is based on the fact that I worked full time in my own business, while bringing up 5 children, and in retrospect, was on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Me, I've sold up and turned my life around, but I do know how hard it can be to combine familly life AND a career.
2006-10-25 17:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by coolbythepool23# 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 kids, but I stay at home with them so I have no idea how it is working. They are my job. My oldest was 3 and my second turned 2, two days after my twins were born. If I can make it with a 3 year old, 2 year old, and newborn twins during the day with no help (hubby worked) I am sure you can do it :)
Do you get a maternity leave? I highly suggest using that then. Also, if someone offers you help, take it! There is nothing wrong with that. Don't forget to make time for yourself as well.
Once you have 3, you can pretty much handle any number after that. ;) I find 4 pretty easy. For us, it was 2 kids per adult. We each took a baby and an older child when we were going somewhere.
Your older kids are old enough to help out as well. Let them help you out. (My kids were good at fetching diapers/wipes, etc for me.)
2006-10-25 18:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 children. 7, 5, 4 and 2years old. For the last year I have been working on a part time basis and have found it a godsend. Don't get me wrong it has been hard work and tiring at times but worth it. When I was at home I felt like I lost my identity. I was just mum or wife and I needed to get out and be ME. Working gives me that opportunity and also gives me a well earned break away from kids and housework and a bit of spare cash too.
Good luck and make sure whatever decission you come to that it is yours and no-one elses.
2006-10-25 18:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean work or stay at home . With 4 children under six that in my book is very hard work. However for a rest you could get some paid employment perhaps on a part time contract, this would be some light relief from your hard work at home.
2006-10-25 17:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think this would be impossible!!! I have 2 daughters aged 4 & 8 and I work part time and do some voluntary stuff too & I am always tired! If u can afford to, stay at home with your kids & enjoy them while they r young. Best wishes x
2006-10-28 16:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by joanne c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do some thing for me, get the baby photos out, look at how they used to be ,just 5 and 3 years ago. you know its them but you will never get that baby back, that baby has grown up, do you miss that baby? i bet you do, you should cherish every moment because you never get it back. my daughter is two now and i love her dearly but if i could have a cuddle with her again at 3 months i would.
i love kids but juggling schooltrips, baby feeds, tantrums, squabbling, housework and work! no no no!
I feel children have the best upbringing at home with mum, as long as each child is fulfilled with learning, fun activities lots of hugs kisses and love.
i used to be a nanny and the children were so much more relaxed, interested and focused in the home environment than when i was a nursery nurse, tears, tantrums.
i have a daughter and work part time, i only work part time cos i need the money! i would loved to be at home with her
instead she has grandma and i know i am missing out.
stay at homex
2006-10-25 17:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by dippydon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum had 4 children under 5 and still worked and did a night course at college. It's bloody hard work, dad didn't help at all while we were growing up. Mum did a fantastic job. I suppose it's up to the individual but it can be done, either way good luck x
2006-10-28 05:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by suckaslug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to work part time that way you get the adult time out that you will crave on the days you stay at home. Im mum of 4 boys and its very hard work but loads of fun too !
2006-10-25 17:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would say do whatever is necessary for your sanity. I always found it good to go to work, even if it's only a couple of days a week. I also liked having my own income to retain a little independance. It's good meeting up with other mums too. it shouldn't be too hard during term time, with one child at school, and your twins will be at nursery soon. having children certainly makes the time pass quickly-before you know it, they'll all be at school. I hope things go well for all of you :)
2006-10-25 17:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by Twisty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋