As of the last 6 months him and I have gone thru a particularly rough spot in our relationship (in April, I found out that around this time-October- of last year while we were still together, he started talking to other girls...and not about coming over to play scrabble if you get my drift) Now that that time of year is approaching again and bad memories are coming back, I feel myself drifting farther away from him. I don't want to break up with him for fear of making a mistake (not to mention fear of being alone since I only have one other good friend) and as selfish as it sounds, fear of having to move back in with Mom and Dad (to me, a better choice would be living in my car). What should I do? I've thought about breaking up with him and then (to combat my living with parents gripe) transferring to an out of town college full-time or taking a break from school and obtaining a full-time job that would allow me to have my own place...What's a girl to do?
2006-10-25 09:57:48 · 20 answers · asked by persian_princezz777 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People grow apart don't feel bad. Your heart knows the way..
2006-10-25 09:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. So I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 years, and from the rough spot that we hit about a year ago and just got over (over a month ago) I would definitely recommend a break (We took one ourselves for a month after being "ON" for over 5 years).
The only concern of mine for YOU is: "I found out around this time... he started talking to other girls." You may have to be open minded that he will do the same thing if you decide to break up with him. Unfortunately, being attached or UNattached to him doesn't give him that boundary. If he was talking to these other girls, was that all he was doing?
If you want things to work out, you may have to forget the past and move forward - though there is always a negative association with bad memories, you can help yourself go through it by forgetting about it, otherwise, if you can't, all you can do at this point is break up with him.
Girl, my best suggestion to you is: Do what YOU feel is right. All we can do is offer suggestions... how you take it at the end of the day is up to you!
2006-10-25 17:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by shashanfc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should always go with your instincts. Don't be in an unhealthy, miserable relationship, just because you will be alone. I've had many hearbreaks that left me feeling down and out, and yes, the dreaded move back to the parents. But in the end, i was so much better for the break ups, and a much stronger and smarter person. Now, i have the best man i could ever have, and because of the bad relationships, Im smart enough to know what i really want. You should leave him if you aren't happy anymore.
2006-10-25 17:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why still stay with him if you're just use to being around him.
I think being scared to move on in life is one of the hardest things but when you finally get to that point either with you signifcant other or just happy your self you'll be glad you didn't stay put.
Change will always happen. Stay moving, even if that means staying with your parents for a while it won't kill ya. Hey might even benift you.
I hope you don't straight drop out of school. Drop a class or two. OR if needed go to a community college. Just try not to step back with your life to much.
I wish ya best of luck. If you ever need to talk to someone i'll be around.
2006-10-25 17:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Gabri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could give u some good advice but unfortunately i'm going thru the same thing u are right now. i just barely found out that my man has had females all up and thru his apartment. my heart hurts so bad but i gotta deal with it cuz i dont want to let him go. also u must not know that when it comes to that game females are the pros cuz they hardly ever get caught. guys get caught cuz they're careless and don't think about anyboy else's feelings. keep that in mind. and keep your head up ma. u don't need a man to make u feel good about yuorself.
2006-10-25 17:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by sierra r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move back in with Mom and Dad right now. Don't live in your car. You do not always need to have a man in your life to feel content. Go to college and build a life.
2006-10-25 17:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by trueblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...in a way that is most advantageous to you at this stage in your life. Transfer to an out-of-town school would be great, don't start right in fulltime if you don't have your degree!
2006-10-25 17:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jim P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a roommate and move on. If it happened once it will happen again. Im going thru the exact same thing right now.
2006-10-25 17:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by apriljm76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Search your heart, I think you already know the answer. Be courageous enough to stand up for yourself. Support always helps, but remember you are the one who has to live with yourself everyday, don't sell out your ability to look yourself in the mirror and love who you see.
2006-10-25 17:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by anti pc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can tell him and move on or you can marry him and live in misery the rest of your life. Doesn't sound like that hard of a decision when you word it that way, huh?
2006-10-25 17:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by Monty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋