Would you be upset if at 30+ and single, the dad of you unborn child, wanted to give it up?

Question

And then gets mad at you cause he doesn't have a choice? I told him he can just go and doesn't need to pay. So why is it my fault for keeping my baby?

Answer 1

Honey, it's about the money and the fact that he does not want to take responsibility. He feels like he has no control (which is true). It is not your fault for wanting the baby - he's trying to give you a guilt trip. Stay strong and best to you and the baby.

Answer 2

It's not your fault you want to keep it, just like it's not his fault for not wanting it.

You want to keep your baby. Imagine if he told you (and you had no control over it) that you had to get an abortion - end of story. How would you feel knowing you want to keep it but you have no choice but to abort it? Well that's probably the way he feels - just on the flip side. He doesn't want it - but he has no say so and no control over the situation.

Despite the fact that he does not want the baby it may still be hard for him to walk away either financially or emotionally. It's one thing to have the baby gone completely and another thing knowing your child is out there in the world somewhere. Also, just because you say now that he will not be responsible for any type of payment doesn't mean you won't change your mind later on and come after him for some type of support.

Neither of you are right or wrong. It just is.

Answer 3

Honey I think it's really cool that you're keeping your baby. Should you be upset? Kind of. A lot of guys expect to be able to have sex without dealing with possible, if unlikely, consequences, and this guy seems pretty jerky. I will always have trouble comprehending how people, once it is known that a baby's on the way, feel like they can just turn away or ask their partner to "turn away" too. It's one thing to have a discussion about having children before you're pregnant, but this is different.

Is it "your fault?" No way, nothing's your fault. When you eventually have your baby, you'll laugh at yourself for putting any "blame" or "fault" on yourself.

You're absolutely right. He can just go. Coward.

Good luck :)

Edit: haha, me and the previous three answerer's all started our answer with "honey," or "baby," even though we answered simultaneously. I think we all have a great deal of empathy and encouragement for you.

Answer 4

baby, its not your fault for wanting to keep your child it is your right and pretty much your responsibility! You need to tell him he should have gave up when he was trying to make the baby, not now cause it is too late to play the "sad me" role! Slap his A** with child support and tell him to grow up! You take care of you and your baby and later for the boy who thinks his D**K makes him a man! You better go for what you know and later for the bull!