Please spare me the snappy answers. My ex sister in law has contacted me via email with concerns about my brother who is 53 or so. Her concerns are most likely valid but I think not my business - she has in the past created a lot of drama where it need not be. She usually calls my parents with her crititisim of my brother and his parenting skills. Brother has had substance abuse issues in the past. Now what do I do with her concerns which mainly focus around the fact that he is not reliable as far as picking up the children ages 11 - 14 (3 of them). Seems not to have food, critizing her in front of the kids. As I said probably valid but I don't want to get involved. She asked if she could outline her concerns and because of the drug issues I responded that she could and that I would decide what to do with the concerns. She should really be dealing with these things herself - If we say anything she and the kids will be blamed because where else would we have heard about it.
2006-10-25 09:37:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
SIMPLY TELL EX SIS IN LAW, THAT NONE OF THIS CONCERNS YOU OR YOUR PARENTS THAT SHE NEEDS TO DEAL WITH THESE THINGS HERSELF!! OF COURSE YOU WANT TO SAY IT NICE "I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR SAYIN, BUT THIS IS A PROB. YOU AND HE NEED TO SETTLE BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU!! SORRY I CAN'T HELP YOU! AND CHANGE SUBJECT OR HANG UP PHONE!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-25 10:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why she is his ex... We only have so much tolerance. I am glad you heard the concerns, but you can't do anything to change her mind.. If you are concerned about your brother, you should call him and speak to him.. Don't involve her or the kids. Maybe take a trip up for a visit and see what is going on or not....
Alot of people have to have drama in their life to get sympathy and attention from others. I also would talk to the eldest child on my own and find out what they have to say, without the mother present.....
2006-10-25 10:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation and I'm sure you're concerned about your niece/nephew, but you should stay out of it. Your ex SIL should contact her attorney. If the court order states that your brother needs to take some responsibility of the kids and he's not following through, it's a legal issue.
By you getting involved, your brother may think you're taking sides and your ex SIL will keep going to you each time she gets upset with your brother.
2006-10-25 10:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋