I am unhapply married and my husband works away and i suspect that he is having quite a bit of fun with other people I was suffing the net and stumbled accross a swinging web site which i have registared with and have recieved a bit of intrest in my profile from men looking for a bit of no strings attached fun. I am now unsure now if i should pursue it - has anyone got any useful advice? -thanks
2006-10-25 09:10:56 · 27 answers · asked by fun1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I would be careful. Perhaps there are no strings, but there could be a whole lot of "nasties" that are attached to that type of lifestyle.
2006-10-25 09:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even asking this? I don't know about anyone else, but marriage is for life, remember? You exchanged vows, stating that you would love and TRUST each other for the rest of your life? I understand that some marriages don't work, but why are you looking up these websites when you don't even have any concrete evidence that your husband is cheating on you? TALK to him. Tell him how you feel, and how worried you are when he goes away. If he admits it, you can go from there. If he denies it, then all you can do is trust him until you find out otherwise. Can't you see that if you cheat on your husband because you think he's cheating on you, you're being as bad as he is?
Marriages go through bad patches, and you need to sort this out together rather than continuing to live a lie.
Good luck!
2006-10-25 16:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by PurpleWatermelon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wish to stay in this marriage due to duty, children etc. extramarital frolicks may help sustain it. Marriage can be defined many ways, not just by fidelity. Clearly you have unmet physical needs here, no need to wither away. Carefully pre-screen. Make sure the men you meet are clean, discrete. Be very clear with them and yourself that it is 'no strings attached' you do not want emotions getting mixed in, and you should be happy with that. And always use protection.
Another option: meet the men for coffee, lunch, dinner etc. you may just enjoy the flirting and attention and no need to go all the way at first. Many men simply enjoy that too, with a hint of more to ***. Enjoy!
2006-10-25 16:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you staying in an unhappy marriage? Whatever your reasons for not leaving him, adopting a 'swinging' lifestyle is not going to turn an unhappy marriage into a happy one. I doubt it will make you any happier either. Perhaps you should discuss your concerns with your husband and then you could both join that scene if its what you want. Whatever you decide I would advise you to not try to disguise one mistake with an even bigger one! Are you certain that 'no-strings' fun is really what you want or are you maybe searching for a replacement husband! If that is the case then you are looking in the wrong place! Good luck and stay safe. X
2006-10-25 16:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeh do it, then you can sleep with other people's husbands! Who knows if you answer the right ads you may even end up on a date with your own old man!!!! Wake up, the men who trawl singles sites are going take your already below par self esteem, crush it into tiny pieces and p!ss all over it. Get a divorce and meet someone who actually makes you happy. A seedy one off bonk with a man who you know from the word go doesn't want to show you any love is not going to make you happy.
Swinging site....you stumbled across it??? Hmmm
2006-10-25 16:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by THE BULB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is contact the interested party and invite them to a local restaurant or club, sit and visit with them and make sure they are not a mass murderer or something similar, then invite him to take you to a motel, preferably not near your home. After you have had your fun, return home an call your husband and ask how his day was. Good luck sweetie, be safe.
2006-10-25 16:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your unhappy in your marriage then get a divorce. there is no such thing as no strings fun! somebody will get hurt or feel dirty if it comes to that. off course you've got interest, your a female!. no offense but don't let all the corny hits go to your head most of those losers on those sites would hit on a syphilletic baglady.
"hey check out my profile, its sxywellhung dude4u". does this seem familar? i'm sure you've got dozens of them in your inbox
2006-10-25 16:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do whatever will make you happy. at the end of the day its you and your body and your old enough to do what you want, if it makes you happy then go ahead if your unsure do whatever your heart tells you, I'm sure you already know what you want to do. but when we're unhappy with a partner its nice to get attention and compliments from else where, but whether you follow it through is up to you honey.
2006-10-25 16:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by abbie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my wife and I have done this. Meet them in a public place and talk a bit to see if you are compatible. You also want to see if he seems like a weirdo. It's best not to do this behind your husband's back though.
2006-10-25 17:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by big_mustache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldn't, that could be a bit dangerous. Get rid of your hubby and find someone new to have some fun with. Good luck x
2006-10-25 16:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Laydee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋