Wanted to post this here. What happened to our morals?

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We have kids having kids and people sleeping with other people's men/women. Then, when they get pregnant and don't know how to tell their Friend, brother, sister etc... they freak out. And... I believe that the only reason they are worried about confessing is that they aren't going to be able to hide the fact that they are pregnant.
I don't care if it was a bf or a husband...it is still cheating. If you were so worried about the other person's feelings, you shouldn't have slept with their significant other to begin with.

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2 hours ago
Why do people have to go and screw up other peoples lives and their own? Are we that bored with existance that we have to spend our time spreading this disease? when will we grow up?

2 hours ago
Another thing, family should be so important to us, that we don't want to distroy our relationship by cheating with their loved one.

1 hour ago
My theory is this...remember lucy and ricky? on tv...they didn't even share the same bed!!! underwear commercials were taboo! Now, these things are all over the tv, and stars smutty lives are aired on national television. This kind of life style has become a "Fashion Trend". And as impressionable as we are, we've become the devils advocates.
I'm happily married and was a virgin before my husband. Honestly, I've never even french kissed anyone but him!
We need to bring the glamour back to monogamy!! Marrying as virgins, should be an exciting experience.
I'm not being old fashioned, I'm being realistic...as bad as things have gotten, by the time our kids are our age, I can't imaging how terrible things will be.

1 hour ago
You know, little girls having babies is very depressing. I'm 22 and have a 6.5 mos daughter, and although I wouldn't give her up for anything, I wish I could be little again, when we didn't care what other people said, we were carefree, didn't have all the responsibility we do as adults and just take half the day to smell the roses? 13yr olds should be playing with barbies. But people think that's immautre. I played with babies until I was 14. There is too much pressure for our kids to me "mature". I think we should be focusing on making sure they grow up with manners, maturity will be a natural occurence. It shouldn't be forced until they are 18 and still sucking their thumb. LOL

Life doesn't have me down...Sorry, let me clarify, In the pregnancy section, a 13 yr old was asking for advice because she was preg with her sister's bf's baby.
I have a daughter and it bothers me to hear this kind of stuff. I'm trying to get people to start thinking about their children's future.

I hate it when I see Mini baby skirts and spaghetti straps. We are aiding the fantasies of all the pervs in the world by dressing our little ones in this trash.

I'm not saying this didn't happen before. This has been occuring since biblical times. But now-a-days, the televsion has become somewhat of a babysitter and that's all our kids hear and see. Even though these things have been occuring, we shouldn't be airing it all over the place. It's also an invasion of privacy. What affect does the movie stars love lives have on our happiness and well being?
The do however, have a huge social influence on us.

Answer 1

I don't know about your Lucy and Ricky theory. There's truth to some of it. But did you know that even during those times, people were fooling around. Lucy and Ricky were separated and Ricky was having affairs through the last half of the airing of that show. In those days, that was considered dirty laundry and no body talked about it openly. Now days are different I agree. But, don't assume young one that the previous generations were without sin. Just isn't the case.

But, I do agree with you, we sometimes seem to glorify bad behavior on television and in print. But, people watch and buy it and that's why it's out there. Censorship is not something I would suggest for society though.

Little girls having babies is depressing and a tragedy. As I am sure you are learning, babies are a very big commitment. Little girls are not equiped to handle this very well and raise children with the love and support that they need.

The only answer I see is to live the life you are leading. Stand by your beliefs and morals and show the world how it works for you by example, one person at a time. From my experience, keeping an open mind about these things helps to understand why other people do what they do. You don't need to defend your way of life to others. But, condemning them makes it look like you are a prude and you take on their problems as your own. When in fact it's not effective and completely unnecessary. Lead by example, talk to your kids as they grow, always love them, and stay happy.

Answer 2

I agree with you 110%.. People justified cheating and doing things anyway they can and then they sit back shocked by what the outcome is..

Parents don't teach there children Morals, Right from Wrong thats why we have 13yr etc having sex and having kids, Or better yet having 19yr on up sleeping with whatever guy they can get there hands on, then they wonder why they have hpv,stds,or are loose.. Then they want to kill a innocent baby because they can't keep there legs shut... There parents 4-got to kick them in the *** when they went out of line..

I am scared to see what my kids have to go through when they get older all the crap and people who have no morals. I see this 13yr walking around looking like complete trash mini mini skirts and ugh some of there dressing, and they will be the first ones crying when they are raped etc..

It just makes me sick.. SURE people make mistakes BUT people cont to make this mistakes and they blame it on everyone else except for themselves.. Take action make a better choice in life its not hard..

And yes I have been there, BUT I never crossed a line I know was wrong, I was 14yr when I had sex (not by choice) but with my other boyfriends I was with for 3 yrs before I even had sex with them. I had a son at 19yr got married at 20yr been married for 10yrs to the same man.. But I learned and I saw and that was enough to put me on the right path..

Remember YOU and only you can program your child.. If a child sees crap as a young one they can still make new choices. I lived in a crappy crappy house when I was little but I told myself NO way in hell would I treat my children that way..

Answer 3

When parents have low morals it gets passed down and so the populations grows do does the number of people with little to no morals. A little girl who sees her mother acting like a **** is likely to one day view sex as something other than an act of love. There for she becomes what she has seens from her mother. A little boy who sees his daddy talk to his mother like crap thinks it's okay for women to be disrespected and in turn with probably treat his wives the sames way. The way this grows out of control is that one parent can ruin the morals for all of their children.

Answer 4

It sounds as if life has gotten you down. You made some good pts. but ppl are human they make mistakes, and you have to live w/ your choices. If you are raised in a household that tells you to respect your self and others than you will-these teens make the choice to have sex and when you don't take all the necessary precautions then you end up pregnant.

Answer 5

not a lot distinction and probably it really is why the united states of a is sympathetic to the reason of Israel partly. there is an old e book referred to as "in the back of the silken curtain" which became written by technique of an american i imagine he became a diplomat who became dealing with the problem contained in the overdue 40's after the warfare, he became sympathetic to Israel, in spite of the indisputable fact that the analogy he used became between the Texans and the Mexicans in the course of the days of the Alamo and all that, notwithstanding in case you disagree with the View, it makes some good factors and is an pleasing study.

Answer 6

I don't know the answer to your question Laura but I am glad that you raised it. It will be interesting to see what types of responses you get. Best of luck raising your little one and good for you for having strong morals, AND sticking with them!

Answer 7

because they're selfish and a bit psycho.

our teen and early 20's years are suppose to be the tiime when we have worry-free fun.i don't think people should be having kid(s) until both parents are financially AND emotionally ready.

Answer 8

There's a couple of things going on in your question.

First looking at adultry:

It's been going on since before history started getting remembered. It's old.

What's new is that there are many more people who think it's okay or don't care how others feel -- a selfish sort of person who only cares about the now is more common, it seems.

Why? I think a part of it has to do with many familyneeding to work both parent and the children end up being put into group care, with little to no personal interaction. In a group setting, it is always a matter of competition and winning. It is also much easier to do bad things and get away with them.

The children have little connection to any of the care givers who tend to come and go in their lives. They come home and the parents are too tired to pay much attention or interact. The kids end up not developing attachments or learnong to respect anyone.

I can't really say the parent's are bad trying to earn money to buy clothes and shelter and food. I think partly the economy has forced this on most people. But you end up with a lot of kids without direction.

Children end up getting things easily, in a world that is very materialistic. They learn to value stuff over people.

Most children today have not been taught culpability. A big word that means you have to take responsibility for all you do. Their parents end up bailing them out of situations or not punishing the child consistently(in part because they feel guilty about not being there for them). When the kids turn 18 or 20 they look around and are truely surprised that have to face the consequences or their behavior.

This has been going on long enough that we are getting into a second generation (and sometimes third) of latchkey and daycare kids. (I remember when the term "latchkey child" was coined!)

So you have people who have never been parented, trying to be parents. It get harder for each generation, because there are fewer parental models to look to.

You mention TV -- There is very little there these days even in the children's programming that I would want my children to emulate. (I don't have TV in the house -- just a video machine where I get to censor all I want )

For that matter I think the passing away of Mr. Rogers was the marked end of a waning epoch. All the TV (and the world it seems) is bent on being the adolescent epitomy of ""cool."
Being yourself, or standing up for things you believe in has become something to ridicule.

It has become "cool" to copy behavior of the lowest common denominator in society - the gangsters, the bullies, the rude... Even shows on disney show children being rude to adults and others without reprimand and getting laughs or rewards for it. Without anyone guiding the kids when they see this, they end up thinking rude and disrespectful is not only okay, but desirable.

Getting back to infidelity - I agree it does go back to a lack of respect and empathy for others. The capacity for these traits can be there - but without a moral compass to guide when people are young and still learning right from wrong; These traits wither and atrophy.

Before we can have a better world, We all are going to have to decide to take responsibility for being better people and for teaching our children to be better people.

Is it hopeless? No. There are people in the world who are striving and trying to be better. Who are trying to teach their children where the moral high ground is. It's just that at this time in history - to get to the moral high ground, you have to swim thru a lot of immorality to get there.

You have a young child - six and a half months old. Now is the time to decide to make the difference for her. Even if you have to work and only be with her when you are hoome -- make every minute count towards who she becomes.

I know there is laundry and dishes and dirt fairies dancing all over the furniture -- But in five or ten years or twenty.. It's really going to just matter whether you were there for her to be her moral compass and to teach her right from wrong.

She won't really care if the house was perfect, when she is older she will remember mommy reading to her and being with her. She will know what it is like to be loved and cared for. She will learn that love is to be cherished.

I have three daughters and I work hard at protecting them from the world which can be too much with us sometimes. I try to teach them manners and I try hard to practice them myself. -- That is really key - Being the person you want your child to be. Children are watching your every move and word. They will ultimately copy what they see you do, much more than what you tell them. You show your child by example.

Please try to find someone you can talk too who understands what it's like being a parent to a young child. Even go to the doctor and talk about your concerns and feelings -- Otherwise you'll end up depressed and feel like there is no way out of the darkness.

this is a tough time for you with lots of feeding and changing diapers and lost sleep... It's easy to lose it all when just one more thing gets added in. Hang in there. Look for that first big slobbery face kiss from your daughter when she gums your cheek - or a quiet moment when she reaches up to touch your face (and pinches your lip and tries to poke her little finger up your nose!) Those are moments of sunshine to cherish

Bright blessings

Answer 9

too much lust and moral depletion