Been with boyfriend 10 years, for past 2 years there was flirting and minor kisses but post hurricane haas evolved into something much more. boyfriend knows flirting takes place, found emails back and forth, not sure what to do.
2006-10-25 09:08:14 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing for you to do but the right thing. YOU don't love your boyfriend, even after 10 yrs you allowed yourself to open a door that never should have been cracked open in the first place. I am begining to see why marriage is out and the *just* long term dating is in. I feel real bad for your bf, who if you do the right thing, you will let go to find someone that does love him and ONLY him. Go be with the bestfriend, you and him obviously have a mutual thing here, and you are only hurting your bf more by not choosing the way you should. You never should have let this happen, and if it was what you wanted, you should have let go of this man that has been with you for 10 yrs. before you allowed any flirting, or simple kissing, and whatever else you have done. Please don't try to say................"but I do love him", because if you did love him, you NEVER would have done this. Women are suppose to be the faithful ones trying to stop men from being unfaithful. I didn't think we were suppose to join in. Two wrongs don't make a right, when are the people on this earth, men and women alike, going to learn that? This question I found sad and disappointing, I hope you do the right thing, now that you have already done the wrong thing. Blessed be................
2006-10-25 09:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have been faithful with the same man for 10 years, why now the urge for infidelity. Will this be habitual? At what point will you be satisfied with what you have? Can you be satisfied or is this just a cry for needed attention due to the mediocrity of a long term relationship. What are your goals in life? Can this new man meet those terms and criteria you have set for yourself. If not perhaps your unsatisfactory current relationship has manifested you to gravitate to this new man. He may seem to have what your looking for, but remember, you only truly know someone after investing and allowing yourself to be vulnerable to a mate. The grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence, in fact the barbed wire that separates you from that lush field could snag you and seriously leave you hurt. Many flags of caution are in the air with this situation, I suggest you follow your heart. However, if this man is your boyfriends bf, what type of integrity does he have. Why would he betray his friend, does true, unbridled love still exist in today society? Best of luck in this tangled web you have weaved. And in speaking of spiders, you could always due what the Black Widow does, if you know what I mean.
2006-10-25 10:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by hmmmm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out if this relationship is worth you staying and making it work. and if it is not worth it then make sure the other guy really likes you and wants to be with you and then go for it because it point less to put your self and your boyfriend threw this and plus he probably already knows so maybe it would be best to leave
2006-10-25 09:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by mrs sexy cool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely i'd say you want to locate some thanks to enable go of your cutting-edge boyfriend to flow on to what's waiting for you. i'd also imagine that the longer you wait the more severe it is going to be such as your cutting-edge boyfriend. i can't imagine that you all will be able to be acquaintances. I say placed your self in his shoes till now you do it, so that you're able to have a more effective perfect feeling of how he is going to experience. this difficulty sounds like a chilly one. i can't even imagine the way you may want to be with someone for thus long and then do them so incorrect for the ultimate 2 years. i'm absolutely not judging you nor do i comprehend any of your situations, yet i can't imagine that that is been undemanding on you & it is going to tear him aside. seem at it like this he has been trusting you 2 maximum of all & you 2 are about to modify his existence & emotions continuously. Gurl i'd hate to be in both of your shoes. I absolutely desire you good luck such as your destiny endevers, yet get it going you're in basic terms inflicting more effective damage the longer you wait. i'm hoping you'll stumble on a thanks to get into action with this and end what's clearly over & commence what you've been waiting for. good luck to all in contact.
2016-12-05 05:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by doucet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide. That's what you do. Be with one or the other.
2006-10-25 09:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick one and be faithful
2006-10-25 09:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋