I met a girl in college that has a kid and i'm not sure how to approach her about goin out with me?

Question

I know she won;t have much time available for actual dating eg. (like goin out to the movies cause she got to find a babysitter ) or anything but i want to let her know that her having a child is not a problem for me if we do have a realtionship ,without accidently affending her.

Answer 1

When my wife and I met she had a child and I did not approach it any differently then I would have if she didnt have a child. Maybe when you ask her out you could tell her that her child is welcome to come along.

Answer 2

if know the attraction is mutual then proceed with respect to the fact that she does have obligations of love for the child

plan activities that can be done at home or with the child
games, movies, low profile trips etc

thanks for being openminded even tho a child is involved .... the fact that she has a child makes her no less a woman

thanks also for including the child in her needs

best wishes!

Answer 3

just be respectful and dont assume things because she may have a really great support system and is able to date and go out although she has a child.

maybe you should invite her to do something quick like met a Best Buy to pick out a movie. then work your way up. chatting online and on the phone can help begin something. good luck in whatever you decide and its awesome that you are trying to approach her in an appropriate manner.

Answer 4

The fact that you want to date someone with a kid suggests that you're looking to become her second kid and have her take care of you like your mama never did. It's called a dependent personality, and the cure is to realize it's a problem and to begin to act independently, take care of yourself, financially and emotionally, and only then can you hope to have a relationship with someone else, based on an equal exchange of values, not on trying to make up for serious childhood issues.

Answer 5

First of all... unless you want an instant family... why would you want to date her? (no offense).

1 - she has a kid so you know where her priorities will be
2 - she has a kid so you know what she will do if she
becomes pregnent
3 - she has a kid so when you break up there is the possiblity
that you will get hit for child support

Answer 6

Then just ask her out like you would ask out anyone else.

Do you know how many times someone has walked away from her because of her child? She would probably appreciate being treated like a single, available woman (that she is) and have someone just ask her OUT. yeah, her schedule might be tight, but she can find time to for you. Just don't make a big deal out of it, because that's what everyone else does.

Answer 7

My best suggestion would be to ask her and her child out on a fun date. This would eliminate having to find a baby sitter and it would show that you are comfortable with kids.

Answer 8

you are thinking to much . unless you are a pyshic you dont know what kind of time she has. stop being a sissy and ask her out, you might be surprised she might even like you as much as you like her. she didnt ask you if her having a child would affend you. be easy dont make yourself look so silly. good luck

Answer 9

just talk to her about normal stuff that you have in common.
wait until later to mention the stuff about the kid not being a problem.
you could indicate it by talking about a niece or nephew that you like to be with that is or was a similar age. or how much you enjoy kids. etc.

Answer 10

well just treat her like you were her husband, you can still ask her out, just be nice and try to be flexible...try to be nice to her kid, once she establishes (or however you spell it) you are a nice guy, you will be able to spend more time with her, she would want to go on date with you and take her child to a babysiter