ok... i'm so pissed off !!!! i am almost 18 years old, but i've never had a girlfriend !!! i've never kissed a girl in my life (french kiss) !!!!! i'm still a vergin !!!, i dont know whats wrong with me, i dont think i'm that ugly... i put my pic on hotornot website, and people rated me 8.3/10... and i put my other pic and i got like 7.7.... !!!!! but i gotta say that i'm very shy......, why cant i get a girlfriend ?!!!!! is it because i'm shy/ugly or what ?? i mean even if i'm shy, if a girl likes me , then she will talk to me...... i'm so pissed off !!!! is it because i'm not from USA ???, could it be the place i live in (i lived in a different place when i first came to the U.S. and i talked to a lot of girls, but when i moved to this state, girls barly talk to me !!!, whats wrong with me? please give me some tips !!! i'm reallly mad !!! :(
2006-10-25 08:48:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"the way u dress maybe?" defenitly not that lol, i dress very nicly and i take care of my self (put gel in my hair...).
2006-10-25 08:52:52 · update #1
"so your from india" i'm not from india !!! lol i'm from italy..
2006-10-25 08:55:04 · update #2
"it not that your ugly they just dont know you're there considering you are a very shy person girls mostl go for the out going funny guys just try to be more social with ppl and let them know you are there why go through life un noticed well good luck!" my friends thinks i'm very funny, but the problem is, even if i know someone for like a month or two (but not talk to them a lot), i would still be shy, but if i talk to them everyday for like 1-2 months then i start to be funny and all that.. you know...
2006-10-25 09:00:49 · update #3
"You say you are shy yet you put your pics up for the world to criticise, that is the action of a brave man. You are not really shy, you can do what you want, you've shown that (by asking here is more proof)."
well i put my pics online because i wanted to see if i'm too ugly to have a girlfriend (since i've never had one).
and to ther other person... lol i dont dress like i'm still in my country, a lot of people thinks that i was born is here... but i gotta admit.. i do have an accent.
2006-10-25 09:10:31 · update #4
"Young girls your age like wild crazy boys."
well.... i dont want to smoke and drink... you know...
2006-10-25 14:36:01 · update #5
Nothing is wrong with you, my last boyfriend was a 20 year old virgin (well he was before we hooked up) its not unusual to feel the way you do, just realize it wont last forever.
2006-10-25 08:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best guess is that there's some girl that is waiting for you to talk to her. Probably one of the shy ones who is wondering if there's something wrong with her...
Not from the USA, but living here - what part?
lots of girls love an accent and are intrigued by foreigh culture - use that to your advantage
have you just moved recently? moving can be hard for shy folks - but look at this as an opportunity to be who you want to be. 'Pretend' that your not shy and act how you would act if you really weren't - approach people, guys and girls, and be open. Get to know them, make friends, and go out to where other folks your age are at. Flirt a bit and then ask a girl out - it doesn't have to be 'the girl' your dying to have a relationship with. You can go out just for fun! Pick someone that has a good sense of humor and is easy to talk to. Don't worry about finding a girlfriend - too much pressure. Find some friends - some girls, some guys - go on some dates and if you click with someone maybe it'll turn into a 'relationship.' Good luck!
2006-10-25 15:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be panicing about something that should be relaxed. You say you are shy yet you put your pics up for the world to criticise, that is the action of a brave man. You are not really shy, you can do what you want, you've shown that (by asking here is more proof).
Don't be rushed, pushy, panicy, pissed off, mad or distressed at your virginity, all are emotions that will push others away.
And finally, don't look for a girl friend, seek out girls to be friends first: there IS a difference.
2006-10-25 15:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Link 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be p'd off. I know how it feels to long for a relationship but that's not something you want to rush in with anyone. You definetly don't want any ol' girlfriend who may think you're inexperienced and take advantage of you for that!
It could have a lot to do with different cultures. Here in America I think kids grow up to fast and start relationships to early in life before even finding out who they themselves are!
What you may want to do is work on your confidence a little. Don't worry about not having experience b/c some women like that. There are women out there who will be patient if they really like you and want to be with you.
Maybe you're just having a hard time finding the right kind of girl that would be compatible with you.
A lot of times girls like the guys to be confident and be the one who approaches them so by you being shy, maybe you have missed out on some oppertunities that you're not even aware of. Being shy isn't bad but you still want to be able to approach girls without looking like you're about to faint. LOL. Just be yourself and sooner or later a girl will see you for who you are and may make the first move. Good luck!
2006-10-25 15:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are putting too much emphasis on the fact you haven't ever had a girlfriend. It sounds like you doubt yourself and need some reassurance that you are a nice looking guy. There are alot of shy guys around, but eventually if the girls aren't approaching you; then, you are going to have to start approaching them. I don't know where you are from, but I think that people from different backgrounds can be absolutely fascinating. You have your whole life to experience love and girls...be patient and one will eventually approach you. If you want a girl now...then you best get up the nerve and ask someone out.
2006-10-25 15:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by heaven o 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be proud. Many young men and women today are realizing how important it is to stay pure and wait for marriage. I think you are awesome. What a great gift you have to offer the right woman that comes along that you fall in love with. Don't be in a hurry to just find someone. Live and be happy with you first. When you are not really looking and you are just going about living to be the best you can be...the right one will appear in the least expected moment, in the least expected place. I guarantee, this is true. Do not sell yourself short. You are an incredible young man. Be pure and true to yourself and do not settle for less...only a great woman deserves a man like you...some of these other loose women should never cross your path.
2006-10-25 15:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Shayna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it not that your ugly they just dont know you're there considering you are a very shy person girls mostl go for the out going funny guys just try to be more social with ppl and let them know you are there why go through life un noticed well good luck!
2006-10-25 15:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax my boyfriend was 19 before we even got together and before me he was just like you. But now we are intending on getting married. I talked to him first. If you wait long enough a girl that respects you for you will come around. For example I don't go by looks I go by personalities. Personally I think you have a good personality that I can tell so just hang in there if you need anymore advice email me at shycountrygirl85@yahoo.com...........Jacqueline
2006-10-25 15:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by cowgirl16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well jay,
try to talk to them more or mabey you could have had a girl friend but mabe it is because of you mabe you seem hard to get or something and i mean a 7.7 or 8.3 is not bad and dont stress on it you will find someone i am young to and it is not that bad my sister is dating someone who is almost 18 he has never had a girl friend and he is really shy dut he is mad hot and they are such a great couple dont worie you will find someone soon and it might just be a great relationship...... dont give up.....
2006-10-25 15:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
31 when I lost my virginity to my wife. Somethings are worth waiting for. She was my first and only kiss, girlfriend, lover and wife. Guess what? I don't regret it. She is an incredible woman and deserved to be my only so she knows how special she is. Don't buy into the bull hockey that people tell you. There is nothing wrong with you.
2006-10-25 16:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm,8.3 is great, look i'm a girl so in my opinion, being a shy GUY might turn them off, so raise up your personality, but don't become an ***, if thats not the problem and they are turned on by you, well.....you're not really showing that you are interested! and the virgin thing, you're not going to lose it in a flash so calm down! look at it this way, you won't lose it now, but your life won't end up like The 40 Year Old Virgin movie! or will it.......? i mean, he didn't lose his virginity because he was bad starting off and because he was shy! like i said, raise up your personality, look like you like to have fun while being yourself, but DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT become an ***!
2006-10-25 15:58:28 · answer #11 · answered by bianca w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋