does he like me? is it possible that a relationship could bloom?

Question

My co-worker is a mystery to me. I am attracted to him, and I really like him. Some days he'd be distant and barely talk to me, and other days he'd come behind me and hug me really close, but only if noone is around. One time while he was holding me in the board room, I turned my head and looked at him... and we kissed. Recently he'd been promoted and transferred to another location. He told me to call him at work (but not his cell phone!). I don't even know if he has a gf! A reliable source overheard a rumor that he has a redhead gf... (I am a redhead, but what if it's someone else) He does not seem like a person that would cheat or fool around, but I wouldn't know... I am 21 & never had a relationship. So I'm hoping that those with experience could help me figure this out. According to his repetitive behaviour, is there any chance that he likes me?

We did go out twice (arcade & wonderland), both times with other coworkers. The second time we went out he was constantly around me. We've gone on most rides together. He even won a little doll which he gave me at the end of the day.

Answer 1

It's simpler than you think. If he was interested in a real relationship, he would show it. He is just playing around with you and flirting because he can. I am willing to bet he is either married or in a relationship already and that is why he is try to keep you isolated to office encounters.

This is coming from a guy... If he was serious he would be trying to spend time with you in some other setting besides work. This guy is just fishing...


Be patient and wait him out. Either way remember there are other guys out there so don't put all you eggs in that basket when he is just playing games.

Answer 2

Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!