Is it possible to forgive?

Question

a parent who abused you.? Even if they don't admit it? and why should I forgive them.? Do you think they where a different person
at that time?

Answer 1

It's very difficult to do this. I am 33 and only recently forgave my father for years of emotional and physical abuse.

You should learn to forgive because it helps you to be less hateful. It helps you move on in your life and get past the bad experiences. It's very liberating, and I am so thankful I finally managed to let go of my pain and anger.

Was he a different person? No. He never wanted me, he never accepted me and he always let me know that. In the end, he died without seeing me for 2 years. I finally had to stop being around him because the anger was destroying me.

Answer 2

You have to forgive. Energywise it is a must.. It is hard, forgive does not mean it is ok what happened.. Forgive and ask for forgiveness for what you said and did as well as a response.. Ask Christ to take you back to Love.. You will feel energy leave your body, energy that would have made you sick//

Demons and thougthtforms that were involved will have to leave.. So why forgive?? Because you make the world a better place.. And because like that you regain your innocence// (Yes not themselves under influence by demons, it was not them, really) And because it cleans your heart and brings you closer to your true self and to Jesus//

We should all forgive our parents and ask forgiveness if we were rude even if back then or even now we do not see how we could have otherwise reacted..Highly recommendable..

Love

Answer 3

Sure it's possible. I'm living proof. So is Joyce Meyer.

Joyce's abuse was sexual. Mine wasn't. Still, it scarred me and because of the wounds it really messed with my life for a long period of time.

What it came down to for me was that Jesus forgave me, so who was I not to forgive my father? At times it was a bit of a process to go through, but I found that in just staying with the process God did the work in my heart.

I've come to learn a few things since I've forgiven. One thing I learned was that staying bitter toward someone who wronged me didn't hurt them. It hurt me. It was poison to my soul. So forgiving him set me free. I learned that forgiveness is not condoning someone's wrongdoing. We, as humans, when we've been wronged just naturally gravitate toward making the person pay who did us wrong. When we forgive we're not saying that what they did was okay; we're saying that they owe us nothing in retribution. Now the only one they are accountable to is God, and God will deal with them according to what He has set forth in His Word.

I also was able to eventually get to the place where I realized that my dad was only doing the very best he knew how with the tools that he had in his drawer. There were some tools there he didn't know how to use. There were some tools that he seemed afraid to try using for whatever reason - perhaps he was afraid that he would be perceived as a weak person if he did try them? I don't know. God knows. Some tools were broken. Some tools were missing. I do know that he had a rough go of it growing up. I can have compassion for what he went through now. And, in all honesty, it was from that perspective that I was able to start feeling heartfelt love for the man again. There was a time when I wouldn't have been able to say that I felt that - at all - but thanks be to God for the change in heart!

Answer 4

We all learn and grow through our personal traumas. You can forgive them and let go of the pain. It's in the past now. Have you grown into a different person since then? People are always growing and learning. you don't have to put yourself in any situation that makes you uncomfortable. If you don't wish to be near this parent then you shouldn't. Parents are just people like everyone else. Do what feels right to you and what makes you happy.
Love & Light
Sharon
One Planet = One People

Answer 5

I know it's possible, for I know people who have done so, but it is not always easy. Every situation is different. I personally prefer justice over forgiveness, but sometimes the best justice comes through forgiveness.

That said, I don't believe in forgiving every offense as a matter of course. Some offenses require justice. Not revenge--justice. In those cases, to forgive would actually be unjust.

Answer 6

Honestly, if my parent abused me I would not want to forgive them, and forgiving someone of something like that or even worse is a very hard thing to do. But you still should forgive them in your heart, Just like Jesus has done. Jesus didn't have to die for you he was without sin and didn't deserve to take our place but because He loved us He did it for Us!!!! My preacher went on a mission trip in Jamaica and there was this man that didn't go to church and startedn to go to the revival my Preacher was preaching at and this man killed a teenager's dad, and the man went to church and the boy prayed with that man even though that man had killed his father. Now, not very many of us could forgive someone for a situation like that because it's hard but that teenager prayed with that man until that man was saved and that would have never happened if that teenager never forgave that man for what he did to his family. Do you see what I am getting at? I hope this helps you.

Answer 7

W hen we forgive we don't do it for them , we do it for ourselves . It takes a great deal of pain off of us . Most times when we are angry at someone , we are the only one who suffers . The other person is just skippin through life with out a care and we carry all the hate and discontent around until we either decide we've had enough or we are consumed by it .
Yes you can do it , and you should , for yourself !

Good luck !

I forgave an abusive husband years ago .

Answer 8

Yes you can forgive but to forget is another story. I say if you forget the action it is possible that it will happen again. But if you say that you forgive someone you really have to mean it and not hold it against them. You will know when you are ready to forgive someone.

Answer 9

Well, we are told to forgive so I say yes. That is hard though. My friend was abused as a child{neglect in the extreme}Her mother was very pretty and was one of those women who needed a man to complete her.Her mom remarried after she divorced her father.The stepfather sexually abused the 2 girls and when the mother was told about this, she chose not to believe the girls.Her mother was a friend of my mother and the girls came to my mom.She still chose to deny it when it came from my mom.The mother divorced this man years later because he was abusive.This woman was weak. To this day her daughter,my friend holds it against her. She tries to get past it but it is very hard.It feels good to get rid of the anger but can it be done?I don't think anyone can answer your question but you.God bless

Answer 10

When the offense is severe, we may need God's help to truly forgive - It is part of the Lord's model prayer, necessary to receive the Father's forgiveness for our own transgressions. Remember the words of Jesus toward His executioners, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do."In the spiritual sense, none of us truly realize the ramifications of sin.