is there anyone here suffering from a borderline personality disorder or know about it ?

Question

if you are one with the BDP , or you are a NON- BDP "dealing with someone who suffers from it" , answer the following questions please as I need to know how to deal with the problem im having here :)
1- what are the symptoms ?
2- do the symptoms increase or decrease by time ?
3 - for how long have you been suffering from it ?
4 - do you know any possible reason for it ?
5 - when did it start ?
6 - are you seeing a doctor ?
7 - what is the system you're following to get rid of it or to cope with it ?
8 - are you satisfied with that system's results ? who described it for you ?
9- how are you dealing with the society arround you ?
10 - are you successfull in life or it is holding you back from doing activities?

notes :
PIAFSKYE: thanks for your contribution , but it's unclear for me that you are refusing to take the BDP as a recognized order with its known symptoms , im saying this because the BDP symptoms are applying to the case im talking about in a strange way which cant let me say it's a coinsidence , although the PTSD is interesting as well, but why not BDP , you can clarify more please and thanks again

CATZRME : thanks alot for being honest and for being organised in answering the question in the sequence I made , but I wonder what did the therapy do if you're still suffering "10 years !! " and still in that isolation ?
please tell me..

HOG B :thanks for the time you gave to me trying to be useful as you didnt clearly come here for the 2 points , but I wonder why do you think I should run away immediately if im a well meaning onlooker ?
and why do you think that i must be misdiagnosed if im talking about myself ? it can be me as long as it can be any other one? explain plz

Answer 1

Please be very careful in assuming either for yourself or someone else such a meaningless label. If you want a definition as used by 'professionals' then look on any Psychiatry website. If however, you want to know why I am so sceptical? I have worked with people the system calls PD for the last twenty years and I have discovered that this is the 'bin' label used when they do not know what to call it or how to deal with it. I think that people, whoever they are do not do things without a reason so we need to find out what it is and then we can start to help them change and mend. In my experience PTSD is more often an accurate diagnosis if you have to have a label so find some form of talking therapy and go for it! Accept you need help and talk to someone face to face. Good luck

Answer 2

The term in itself is problematic, as another answerer mentioned.
This is a huge question so maybe people will answer specific numbered questions, although most are on a case by case basis, and that differs greatly from each "sufferer" specifically
My specific experience is as acting as a voluntary registered carer for someone who was variously diagnosed as the years passed, not borderline in any of them, and the diagnosis is ongoingly variable for the last 35 years.
However during that time I learned enough thinking and reading around the subject of BPD to give a partial answer to q's 9 & 10 and an observation or two.

Many very successful directors/managers, and particularly politicians show classic "symptoms" of BPD, so in their case, by their own lights, they are dealing with society effectively, and are "successful" in the traditional sense.

There is also quite a big question about diagnosis, I am sure that when a catergorisation cannot be found in previously standard diagnosis, eg bipolar disorder, shizoaffective disorder, etc, that personality disorders become an option to catergorise in.

Now I've started I could go on for ages, but I'll spare you that.

I guess you are thinking of ways to help someone you consider less fortunate than yourself, and I guess that they know that - watch out for being manipulated.
If you're a family member, a close friend, or a health care professional I wish you all the best, if you're a well meaning onlooker run away.
If you are the sufferer-you have been misdiagnosed

Answer 3

I am answering your questions describing my experience with my own BPD:
1-Constantly feeling abandoned, inability to interpret others feelings, emotions, conversations, manipulative, needy
2-With correct meds and therapy, the symptoms decrease.
3-Probably been suffering for about 10 years.
4-My mother's verbal abuse/pessimism/depression/judgement.
5-College years it started.
6-Yes, I see a psychiatrist.
7-DBT skills.
8-I like the DBT system. It was requested for my completion by several docs/therapists.
9-Isolation.
10-On Soc Sec Disability at 32.

I think BPD can get better, but when situations arise that are of great stress to anyone sometimes I think we BPDs take steps backwards. Please understand that during the time I was treated for borderline (late 20's and early early 30's)-I also was experiencing/ed endometrial cancer, divorce, and a breast biopsy(x2) which is still pending. I am thinking that the DBT skills work, but I keep having to do them over and over due to my life traumas. I am isolating now due to depression. I don't feel I will be accepted by say a boyfriend with cancer, divorce, mental illness, on disability, a child, etc. floating over my head.

Answer 4

As somebody who works heavily with youngsters who're at severe risk of having BPD, out of your description right here you're no longer describing the extremes of behaviour that somebody with BPD or at severe risk does. What you're quite describing is the uncertainty featuring being a youngster mixed with low self-worth & social rigidity. it quite is all approximately extremes & you haven't any longer defined something in any respect on the factor of what somebody who suffers from BPD does. BTW - there isn't any longer a youngster or individual who has been nevertheless the teenage years who could desire to declare quite for particular they did no longer reveal lots of the features of BPD.

Answer 5

I think were forgetting here that 98% of the human population is suffering from phsycosomatic anxiety and attempt to fit themselves into a neat little package of what cultural myth and regligious indoctrination expects of them to live up to in "their ideals"

Could it just be that there is only one face and many different personalities? So many for example sell out their soul for fear of no approval, attached to agreement or fear of loosing it, is it any wonder theres such a melting pot of lunatics all seeking to live up to this conceptualised ideal!

Learn to be, just be, be who you are and stop compromising yourselves for the want of stinking approval of which your not going to do any thing with anyway, when you get it!

If paid phsycologists and therapists were so hot ! Why don't they get the job done? instead of hanging it out to create a revenue stream, its them that need to look at their own inauthenticity in their subconscious intentions (not to mention integrity) and remember the axiom "physician heal thyself"

Talk about call the pot black! or is this just phsycosomatic ego to be the discoverer of a new type of mental illness they can put their name too?????

Phsycology and Philosophy department this way >>>>>>>>>>>

Answer 6

1- what are the symptoms ?
Symptoms vary from person to person, or so I'm told. Me, I have a general disassociation from events if they tend to be stressful, and much inappropriate displays of anger for seemingly no reason.. The reason is also lost in me. I also engage in quite a bit of drug use. And the most awful--fear of abandonment, and the lack of any sense of self... I have no idea who I am. I spend hours and make up things that I might like to do but in reality, I have no clue. Cutting. Promiscuity (although not really anymore, I'm engaged). Very intense emotions, along with very risky behavior.

2- do the symptoms increase or decrease by time ?
Over time, from the age of 14, it's been increasing. I have to say it's probably now at it's highest. I'm 21....

3 - for how long have you been suffering from it ?

How long? Probably very much so from age 15 on.... Sometimes it's not noticeable, but I always sort of figured my feelings were abnormal.

4 - do you know any possible reason for it ?

I fantasize it's because my father was an alcoholic who was emotionally distant and lacked attention. My doctor's theory is that it was molestation at a young age combined with my parent's tendency to treat me inconsistently. Or the fact that I was a third child, and since one brother was severely ADHD, and the kid after me was severely sick and on a respirator, noone really had time for me and I wasn't held or treated like the other children. Another reason is because my mother is so obviously a borderline--it could be a nurture thing I sort of picked up from her, or a nature thing, that I was genetically predisposed to BPD.

5 - when did it start ?

When did I see a doctor for it specifically? I thought I was bipolar and was treated for that for two years--very unsuccessfully. I had symptoms about the time I hit puberty. I'd have to say when I was about 14, and it just started to unravel, and I didn't fully realize how things were until later on.

6 - are you seeing a doctor ?

I don't anymore. BPD's are hard to treat. I am one of those hard to treat. I try and manipulate the doctor for medications so I can get high. She wouldn't see me and transferred me out because of that. I wouldn't seek therapy, only medication. I had no true desire to curb myself in any way. I have to say many a time I only went in there to study how BPD's should act (mainly by the questions she asked, or what she thought), and set out to not be like that. It didn't work, obviously. I declined further treatment and here I am.

7 - what is the system you're following to get rid of it or to cope with it ?

Self medication through drugs and alcohol. I didn't say it was a valid treatment, just my sorto f coping mechanism. That and trying to pretend it's not there and I am a normal person.

8 - are you satisfied with that system's results ? who described it for you ?

Of course not--noone wants to be a drug or alcohol abuser. I don't see any results, more or less a dumbening down of my emotions. I just don't really know or think to find another way, and I'm content with it. It helps me not feel, becuase the intensity of which I feel is so disgusting, it nearly makes my stomach turn. I'd do anything not to feel so intensely about things.

9- how are you dealing with the society arround you ?

The way everyone else does. Enjoy the parts that help you achieve your end, ignore the rest (is that how everyone thinks? haha). I have a high turnover of friends due to my anger, and have lost many a boyfriend over my clinging behaviors and then total distance. I have to say that if I had not had this disease, societally, I'd be in a happier place (I know it's not a disease, but it's my sickness, therefore MY disease, i can call whatever belongs to me whatever I want.).


10 - are you successfull in life or it is holding you back from doing activities?

Depends. I spen(d)t a lot of time doing drugs so that definitely detracts from my quality of life and hinders my ability to do things, sotospeak. I don't do as well in school in hard times. I am finally living to where I can support myself and cope with my illness while doing excellent in school. Doesen't mean I'm not a self destructive b*tch who doesn't use drugs and cut and act outlandishly, I just don't let it interfere with the things I need to get done. I bottle up the emotions and save them for more opportune inopportune times (that is the biggest contradiction, I know, but the only way to explain it).

Either way, hopefully this helps.

Did I mention that I habitually lie? I mean, not in the sense of facts, but in the way of distorting myself so as to seem uncaring about my disorder, or manipulate the facts so to show that I am a good person now (I am obviously not, and one of the paragraphs, I explain I am engaged. As if that stops me from doing what I do.)

Answer 7

My sister has it, but its differnt with every person sometimes it can be mistaken for a difficantcy in your body causing reactions which are paraelle to a disorder as well.