She is 11 and her sister is 13. Her sister barely play with her or spend time with her anymore. At home when her sister is not in bathroom or eating dinner, she stays in her room like she's in prison. Whenever her sister go somewhere, do something or say something, she always ask her sister what and her sister don't tell her, screams at her and say "stop asking me. You are annoying when you ask. It is embarassing that you are always butting into my business." The 11 yr old cries all times because she feels hurt of her sister's words. The 13 yr old cries all times because she feels the 11 yr old is annoying. She tell her parents and her parents are upset but didn't do anything to change her sister. What is going on? What should each do? Who's right & who's wrong? The 13 yr old never get in trouble in school or outside. She is not pregnant or on drugs. What's happening?
2006-10-25 08:27:49 · 8 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She get along with her parents well.
2006-10-25 08:33:56 · update #1
She's a teenager, she's trying to distance herself from her younger sister, whom she now sees as "babyish." This is actually pretty typical behavior for a girl her age. Of course, she needs to be a little more sensitive to her younger sister, and her younger sister should have an adult talk to her and tell her that it is not really personal, she's just going through some changes. (Are you the younger sister? It's okay, she doesn't mean to hurt your feelings, but she's going through some things right now, and it's confusing to her. She wants to put her childhood behind her, and start to grow up, and so she thinks that if distances herself from you, she will not remain a child. Don't worry, soon she will get over this and start spending time with you, again. Give her a little space, but when she lashes out at you, just remind her that this hurts you, and that if she wants so badly to grow up, this is not the way to do it.)
2006-10-25 09:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 13 yr. is what is called a teenager. and the 11 yr. old is called a little girl. So even though they are only two yrs. apart in age. They are many years apart according to the 13 yr old mind.
This is why she treats her younger sister like she is aggravated by her. Because in her mind she doesn't want to be bothered with her little sister who is just a kid. But from the mind of the 11 yr. old. Her older sister is cool, and she wants to be just like her. But her sister is not allowing her to hang around her. This is upsetting the younger sister, but the older sister is annoyed because her younger sister won't leave her alone. The parents do need to intervene and speak to them both, about not mistreating each other. The older of the two should be protecting and looking out for her younger sister, not mistreating her. But the younger sister should find some friends of her own, then she could care less about what her older sister is doing. She would have her own business to tend to.,
2006-10-25 08:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 13 year old is growing up now, and she should be allowed some privacy. The 11 eleven year old should be allowed more time to spend with friends her own age. They'll start to get along again as the girls get older, for now they're going through growing pains.
2006-10-25 08:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1) SPEAK ENGLISH
#2) They're kids...the younger one will want to be doing whatever the older one is doing.
#3) Here's a thought...why don't YOU spend more time with your youngest. YOU need to make sure she knows that she's not ignored...NOT the older sister.
2006-10-25 08:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by biggdogg_indy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the joys of raising teenagers....enjoy, you've got several years yet.
Try to get closer to the 11 year old and take the place of the 13 year old is the only answer.
2006-10-25 08:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sibling rivalary and it's quite normal. They will grow out of it so don't worry so much.
2006-10-25 08:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's boring. I quit reading after hte fourth sentense.
2006-10-25 08:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called puberty and it's normal.
2006-10-25 08:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by eagfan5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋