ready but I am just so scared and nervous. I love kids but I am worried that everything will change. Some people tell me I'll always feel like that. Besides, I'm still a student and don't want my studies or career to take a back seat. A big part of me wants a baby but then theres a part that says not right now. Any advice would be really appreciated. Thanks.
2006-10-25 08:27:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you wait until you feel ready you could be waiting forever. Every parent I know wasn't sure if they were ready when they decided to try for a baby. Everything always works out for the best. I am positive that you will not at all regret having a baby no matter what is going on in your life. They bring so much joy to your life. And remember that getting pregnant can be a long process, just because you decide you want to have a baby doesn't mean it will happen right away, it could take a year or more. And as for things changing...Things did change between my husband & I after baby, but for the better, we are closer now and understand each other better, we have a different outlook on life. But ultimately it is your decison and you should do what you think is right, not only for yourself, but for your family. Best wishes in whatever you decide!
2006-10-25 09:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Busy Mommy of 3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one should get pregnant or agree to get someone pregnant if they don't want or aren't ready for a baby. I can understand wanting to finish school first, once a baby is born the chance of finishing falls dramatically. Eventually, if you do you have children, something will have to "take a backseat" whether it's the career or the kids. Front seats just aren't that big. Remember though, anything worth doing is probably going to be a little scary. Big changes usually are. Good luck!
2006-10-25 15:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you don't feel ready for it just wait until you finish your career. talk to your husband about it tell him that you want the best for your child. so if you study you will have a better career in that way you may spend more time with your child.
I was pregnant when I was on my senior year in high school. helpfully I graduate. two weeks after my graduation my son born. then I have to take a semester off of school because of him. now I am back and believe me it is not easy to be mom and student at the same time specially if it is your first one.
I have 21/2 years old son and now I am pregnant again. As I think is that if I could wait to finish my career everything would be different because now I do not have enough time to spend with my son because I am a full time student. but then if I see it different I really enjoy it. it took me longer to get my certificate.
2006-10-25 15:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Damisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never ready, to be honest!! :) And, yes, you will always feel a bit anxious and nervous. It's a huge job, afterall and your life changes dramatically!! You should finish school first and decide how important your career is to your before having a baby. Talk to your husband and try setting up a time to have children, when both of you are ready - not just him. Good luck!!
2006-10-25 15:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up your career for a child. You think that child is filling in something that may be missing in your life, when in all reality, it's going to be adding more to your life. (Not necessarily bad, by any means.) Just really think about it before you do it.
I'm 7 months pregnant and gave up my schooling to have this child, as opposed to having an abortion. And I'm sorry to say, I regret it. BUT, at the same time, I will love my son and continue on with my education when I'm able. Just remember that having a child, puts most of your life in the backseat for awhile. It's a big decision.
Good luck.
2006-10-25 15:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Empress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be fully ready to have a baby. Some people say wait until you have this or have that, but you're never truly going to be married. I think all mothers question whether we're ready to have children when we find out we're pregnant, but once the baby is born, it just becomes "right". You're ready when the baby is born.
2006-10-25 15:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say WAIT..as much as your husband might be ready..you dont sound like you are..you have alot going for you (school)..I say finish that..get a decent paying job..make sure you have money in the bank..I am not saying wait until you are fifty...if you want a nice house then work on that..if you want a nice paying job then work on that..if you want to have atleast $20,000 in the bank then work on that...if you already have it then fine just finish school...all I am saying is that things are better when you are secure financially and dont have to worry about living paycheck to paycheck.
kids are very expensive and it takes alot of patience and energy..and you can better enjoy your baby if you are stress free.
2006-10-25 15:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your own intuition.... when you are ready (or more ready) you will know. For now, focus on school and getting your career situated - doing those two things while having an infant and/or kids is even more difficult!
good luck!
2006-10-25 15:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by oscarboy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Id say finish your studies before thinking about it seriously. AS much as I love my kids (they are now adults) there were times when I felt they had put paid to my career and slightly resented them for it!
2006-10-25 15:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by huggz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no one can tell u when u r ready to become a parent, that is something that oly u will no when its the right time. try and talk with your husband and let him know how u feel. i wish u the best of luck.
2006-10-25 15:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by greengrass 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋