I have known this man for over a year now. We both care very deeply for each other. Recently we decided we both wanted to start dating. Our relationship over the past year has had its share of ups and downs.
I have enjoyed all the times we have been together and I really hope they will continue.
I love this man very much and I think he feels the same way about me. He is going through a difficult time right now and he is trying to get his act together.
I seem to be feeling the same things he is going through right now. Some days I feel very happy to be in this relationship and other days I feel very sad and very unsure and uncertain as to how things will ultimately turn out.
I love this man and I really want things to work out between us. He is a good, kind person and I am here for him.
Is it normal to feel this way? Has anyone else ever felt this way?
2006-10-25 08:18:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have felt this way before. You love him enough to want to let him go so he can get his life together but you probably would miss being around him. You might just have to let go for awhile and get back to doing things for yourself. GOD will never steer you in the wrong direction but you have to be listening so you will know when to and when not to make a move. You can still be supportive while you all concentrate on yourselves for the moment. If it was meant to be then the love you have for each other won't go anywhere!!!!!
2006-10-25 08:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by ikkinaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has its ups and downs, the ups are what makes it worth it. This man is obviously going through something inside, and as you love him then it's definitely worth staying with him and seeing if it works out by being there for him and supporting him. Maybe you both wanted to see others to freshen things up, but ultimately if you both still feel the same for each other, it will make you stronger in the long run. After being with anyone else, you will see that you are meant to be together. Give love a chance
Good luck
2006-10-25 08:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like that sometimes with the father of my kids. I love him very much but you are right. There is days where I enjoy his company and sharing life together, but there are other days that I stop and wonder if life will get any better then this or if is going to get worse. He also has issues and some things he needs to take care off before we move in together. Cause at the moment we are separated. So I feel that some time with real separation will show me if he is willing to change his bad habits and prove to me I mean more then what he claims to me with words. I need some action. You might feel the same, I don't know, but if you are confused give your self sometime to think clearly. We make stupid decisions when we are stressed.
2006-10-25 08:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel ups and downs in any relationship, however, you should speak to him if you feel there is an actual problem. You probably are just feeling insecure because while you love this man, you do not have any sort of committment. I would advise you to try to take it one day at a time and enjoy being with him. If the rest is going to happen, it will happen, if it's not, at least you will have enjoyed your time together. Good luck!
2006-10-25 08:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you haven't given us enough information to really answer this. It is certain that who and what he is now will likely be who and how he is in the future. It sounds like you are doing most of the giving. It also sounds like you have doubts about the end result of this relationship. If things are rocky now, they will only get rockier. When all the luster wears off, you will discover the real you two. If you don't like the way it is now, make a decision. It likely will only get worse.
By the way your letter sounded like you both started dating others not each other.
2006-10-25 08:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are feeling insecure. Once he is over his difficult time, ask him how he feels that your relationship is going. If you don't have good communication, you will continue feeling insecure. Talk to him about your insecurities, how you feel about him, things like that. If he's as good of a person as you make him out to be, he'll understand or try to understand. This is something you both need to face.
2006-10-25 08:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may want to test the market, may want to end it, but doesn't know how.
Or he may want some space to figure out what he wants in life.
I will offer up one nugget, if you are going through a difficult time and you cannot lean on the person you love the most, your not with the right person. If you are truly best friends, tough times will not split you.
2006-10-25 08:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by Franklin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal. You care very deeply about this man, but your scared to get into a serious realationship. You may think your not, but deep inside you are scared that something could ruin your relationship with him. Take the chance, it's usually worth it!! :-D
2006-10-25 08:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by smuggie71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. You are feeling anxiety..a fear of the unknown based on your past relationships or others experiences that you know about that started out well..then turned sour. Take things slowly. I wish you lots of love and happiness!!!
2006-10-25 08:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by Naomi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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