I'm 23, this makes me sound really sad! i'm a gentleman, i offer my jacket if a woman gets cold, i can cook, i've got a good sence of humor, the only problem is when i talk to a woman i either go quiet, or i get nervous. i have a speech problem in that i stutter or i talk too fast. Has anyone got any advice?
2006-10-25 08:12:49 · 21 answers · asked by David P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is dificult when someone lacks confidence and when they do others seem to think that they can be quite rude and ignorant instead of realising that they are just shy..this is quite a common problem in people just try and relax You have to stop looking for a girlfriend and then she will find you.. any decent ladies would love you..be aware of gold diggers or ones that will stomp all over your heart. Ask your doctor about seeing a speech therapist about your stutter.
2006-10-25 10:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi David
Just because you have a stutter should not stop you from dating. I understand that when your nervous that its possible that your stammer gets worse. (Don't worry about it) there's a lot people worse of than you. You seem quite nice. Why don't you look for a singles night and start of there, chill out first before you go out. I wish you luck, don't listen to the other crap answers that some are giving you. Its a good Question
2006-10-25 15:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might benefit from assertiveness training and also cognitive behavioural therapy to improve your self esteem. Both of which can be done through self-help resources.
The main thing is not to focus too heavily on your stutter - its only a small part of you. Someone who is attracted to you, and then dismisses you solely because of your stutter isn't worth it.
I read a story of a salesperson going for an interview, who had a bad stutter. When confronted, he said "I know I stutter, it doesn't bother me, so why should it bother anyone else?". The company took him on, and he was one of the best sales people!!
2006-10-25 17:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by nemesis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't change from the nice person that you are, women value sincerity, courtesy and consideration. Don't worry about speaking, if you are nervous it's going to make thing so much harder for you. Listening is far more valuable than speaking quite often. When somebody cares about you, they will be patient and understanding- anybody who isn't or is cruel you are probably better off forgetting.
We all have things about ourselves that we are self conscious about so you are far from alone, i doubt that there is one person here who is entirely self assured under the circumstances that you describe.
My best advice to you is to remember your strengths, you have listed some of them here, have confidance in these elements of yourself and be proud of them, you can be sure that they will not go unnoticed by others.
take care
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2006-10-25 16:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound adorable to me. You will meet some one, Don't try and change yourself I'm sure you are fine as u are. When the time comes you want a person to want you for the real you! If you want to improve on your stutter do it for yourself, not for anyone else. Good Luck!
So sweet! HUGS xxxxxx
Nat.
2006-10-25 15:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Chey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i get angry i stutter, when i'm excited i talk fast very fast. if your talking to a girl and your looking at your feet shes not going to be interested. even a gentleman can check out a girls rack, but don't let the eyes linger too long.
2006-10-25 16:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try going to a speech therapist, and go to some speed dating events with your friends, for a laugh, and to gain confidence in talking to girls.
2006-10-25 18:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by bradleyxwright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ye im 23 and believe me, everyone gets nervous....just give it time the more you think about it, the more girls getonto the fact you want it, ive pulled mostly at times when i havent wanted to...then other times when im desperate i cant do right for doin wrong....woamn man, you gotta lov'em!
as for your stutter, my mate has one and the girls all love him, i hate standing next to him at a bar, make sme feel like an ugly simpleton!
2006-10-25 15:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by P 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Keep trying, I used to stutter and I used to read out loud and it helped.
2006-10-25 15:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sue Chef 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Young women generally go for the assholes first. That's how we know to appreciate the good men when we get older, but by then it's usually too late.
2006-10-25 15:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Deleted 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋