Why do women stay in abusive relationships? I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt that they're not that stupid, but what is the thought behind it? yet when there are PLENTY of single guys who would never treat a woman like that. Honestly, if I knew a girl who was being abused by her b/f, I would have to "visit" him, and see how tough he is against me.....
2006-10-25 08:09:46 · 14 answers · asked by jackalope_00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-10-25 08:14:37 · update #1
You are a very nice guy, Ive never been in abusive relationships but my mom kinda was. It has to do with insecurity and low self esteem, They think that they can never get another man. Most of those men though are very manipulative and very posessive-who knows how to choose their words right. The women are brainwashed by them and so they get to believe all these things.
Sad but true. Dangerous, very sad.
2006-10-25 08:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are often not simple.
Sometimes the woman is financially dependent and can't see how she could survive without the financial help.
Sometimes she stays for the kids.
Sometimes it is the threat - he will kill her or hurt the kids if she leaves-
sometimes she has no education nowhere to go
sometimes she feels it is her fault or she causes it
and sometimes she hopes he will change and he may promise to change...many times...
i have also seen the case where women will purposely do things to cause a fight that they know will get them hit. i have witnessed it. women have manipulated men (which of course the men should know better but they don't sometimes) into the situation.
it will be easy for you to volunteer at a battered women's shelter and help these folks out. they need lots of help from fixing the gutters to nighttime guards to mowing yards to babysitting.
So get involved in the problem. Consider a career counseling abusers and helping them change. Consider how you can make a contribution besides beating someone up to solve the problem of them beating someone up.....
2006-10-25 08:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women think that they can alter a man... He's misunderstood. The problem is that he's been babied all his life, getting his way. When he meets a challenge and it won't go away, he get frustrated, then angry, and usually takes it out on something perceived as weaker.
These are the bullies that you used to have trouble with on the playground. If someone stands up to them, the bully will scream that the other kid was picking on them. The parent rather than get the FULL story will side with their kid and scream at the Principal. Rather than find out the whole truth and discipline their child for wrong behavior.
2006-10-25 08:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can never really see whats going on when looking from the outside in.
Fear is the biggest reason why people stay in relationships. That combined with the low self respect/esteem that their parner places upon them makes them feel so low that they can't get any better so they settle with what they have.
Ultimatly the only people that will know for sure are those that are in the situation.
2006-10-25 08:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B/c this is what girls do and believe. Girls say its about a guys personality and not his looks. But they go for the bad boys. They stay with him b/c they think the can "Change" him, but in the long run, no one ever changes. Then they're abused by the bad boy, some how end up with a nice guy, abuse him and then complain that there are no decent guys in the world. Us girls are F'ed up.
2006-10-25 08:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by SamE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because..half the time a lot of the women are too scared that if they leave the guy, or even if they file a restraining order against them-like i had to-that the guy would come back and hurt them even more....its a scary situation.
2006-10-25 08:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because i love him...that's always the answer... screw that if someone is beating up on a woman that's not love, he doesn't love his woman... hes probably out there cheating anyway about to give her aids or some other std and make her life more miserable than what she already is... i have a good man though thank god i don't have this problem...
2006-10-25 08:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by summer ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom was in an abusive relationship with my dad aka my sperm donner. i asked her the same thing and she told me that it was embarrassing. that the gut you loved hit you. she wanted to believe that every time would be the last time so she stayed. she also had me to think about. she couldn't afford to leave him, literally. and stats say that like 75% of the time women are more safe with their abusers than when they leave.
2006-10-25 08:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by tianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women do stay in abusive relationship because they love the guy so much.They are just been blind that even their bf hurts them then its ok for them because of their love to that person.So,I really beleive that "Love is blind".
2006-10-25 08:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by hopeless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people will do anything to be with the person they love, even if it comes with a daily punch to the face and kick to the ribs.
2006-10-25 08:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by Deleted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋