Why am I single, and in my early 20's and spend my evenings all alone, this shouldn't be happening to me

Question

but it is, and I'm heart broken now

and I still live at home with my mum

Answer 1

Hey girl, make the most of life. I'm in my thirties and i can tell you from experience you will have lonely times and happy times throughout your life. There are some things I would have done differently if I was your age again so going on my experience, just enjoy your life, try not to mope at home. Maybe its not a boyfriend you need but to be more social generally....with your friends or make a new circle of friends. Go out and have fun! everything else will follow.... and good luck .....

Answer 2

Because you choose to be. This might sound rather harsh, but its true - deep down. By the way, I'm not intending to be harsh. You could choose to stay in, or you could choose to go out.

What you need to do is find activities which interest you. It doesn't have to always involve going out in the evenings - you might do an activity which involves going out during the day.

If you're into exercise, you might want to try a gym - pick one which has a good social atmosphere (see if they arrange events etc) and people who are within your age group.

If you're religiously orientated, you could simply just try going to church. If you're in a university town, then a large church will have many students. Churches are good places to meet people (providing you share similar beliefs).

Further Education (Night School) is another activity which can stimulate your interests, and enable you to meet people with similar interests.

One trap people fall into is thinking that they can't do things on their own i.e. they need to be in a relationship in order to go out. Whilst some activities may be better with a partner, there are many things (the ones listed above are good examples) which can be done solo. Paradoxically, when you enjoy your own company and pursue different interests, you are more likely to attract other people.

Answer 3

It could be worse, you could be with a guy who abuses you and then you'd be more than eager to be single. Impossible to answer this question because you don't give any details - for example, do you spend your evenings alone because you're very shy and find it difficult to make friends? You must have an idea of why it is.

Answer 4

I ask the same question. I'm a man in my mid-20s. I live alone in my apartment. I have a good job, advanced education, pleasant personality. I understand what you're talking about.

Answer 5

You need to make the effort to get out more and make friends. What about work friends? My advice would be to join a gym or something - there are usually nice fit guys there. You will find someone, but he won't come knocking on your door.

Answer 6

Maybe you are just 'between' friends. With a few exceptions, most times the pals we had as youngsters arent the ones we have as adults and I guess you just havnt found yours yet.

Answer 7

stay at home and save money, its a very expensive world to rent or buy your own house. stop fretting life has a very funny way of resolving inner conflicts you have. just when your at your lowest bang! bolt from the blue wow ect ect.

Answer 8

u sound like me (im 23 / single / live with olds). dont worry about it. your still young, life head of u. if u r seiously bored, email me
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Answer 9

you need to get out more,meet new people.ask someone out from work and meet there mates and maybe something will come out from that if not i dont know how you feel about online dating but you could do that

Answer 10

the perfect guy is 2 questions above yours
but their is no hurry, the right guy will come ,just be patient