If my fiance' got me a 500 dollar enagagement ring how much should he spend on my wedding ring?

Question

Its not that cost matters to me its he wants me to pick the ring and i am trying to think ahead so we can have more money for things, but i dont want to get something expensive, or gotti. I just want to spend my life with him but he wants me to tell him a price and i dont know what to tell him!

Answer 1

What he can afford. It is not about the cost of the rings, but actually about the feelings behind the ring. If how much money he is or isn't going to spend on you is already an issue... then maybe the marriage thing needs rethinking.

Answer 2

You aren't being unreasonable, but you're being immature. Stop talking rings, proposals and weddings - you don't even have a committed relationship yet! You've made a series of bad choices for someone who wants to have a "proper" family with the hubby, kid and home. You've done it all backwards, and this never works unless people truly know they've got the right person. You didn't take the time to know this. You diagnosed it in your first paragraph when you said it was a "shut me up" proposal. In fact, it wasn't even a proposal. He pretended to propose and you pretended to accept. This has nothing to do with commitment on a deeper level. So, to be blunt, he's not your fiance. He's your babydaddy. The problem you have is that you and he are not communicating at all on an adult level. And what's difficult for you is you have to ask the tough questions that should have been asked a long time ago before dragging a baby into it. It's not about a ring or a proposal - that just bypasses the big issue. It's about whether or not he's in it for the long term. It sounds to me like he's not, but you won't know until you talk to him and ask about it. And when you do this, don't bring in silly stuff like rings or how much he spends on glasses. This will just create a meaningless argument. You need to tell him (nicely) that he owes you complete honesty as to where he stands on having you in his future.

Answer 3

Apparently most people don't even read the whole question before giving an answer.... if i were you this is how I would handle him asking you to name a price...

Tell him what you've stated here, that the price of the ring is not as important as what the ring symbolizes. Let him know that building your new life together is more important than an expensive ring and then offer to go pick out the bands together. Look for something simple and tasteful that appeals to you both financially as well as aesthetically.

Answer 4

Lets think about the engagement ring for a sec. For $500.00 we are not talking about huge stones here, so...you are going to want something in around the same size for the wedding ring. Without knowing about the ring shape size, etc, I would suggest just pairing it with a nice thin band in the same metal color as the engagement ring. And I'd keep the cost down around $200.00 or less. But do get at least 10k gold or 14 k gold as the ring will last you longer and hold up better.

Answer 5

I agree with most here. My engagement ring was $800 and band was $175 CDN.

What you an do is go down with him to look at styles. See what you like without even looking at prices. When you see what kind of styles match your ring, then look at prices. If you find something you like, but its crazy expensive, talk to the jewler about lower carot diamonds in it to reduce costs. Or, using another type of stone. Or, just a basic band with NO stones.

If the ring seems "cheap" to him, he can have the option of putting MORE expensive stones in it too. Bettery clarity etc. Thats what my hubby did with my engagement ring when I chose a ring that was less than he had budgeted. (I hadnt known the prices when I tried them on...but the least expensive was the one I liked!)

Congrats and good luck. :)

Answer 6

$100 to $200 or maybe he should spend another $500 also you two should sit down and talk about the budget. It seems as if you are the only one thinking about the wedding budget when you guys should both be aware of the budget so you dont overspend or spend too much on one thing that you could have used for something else that was more important.

Answer 7

Honey, don't get dissapointed, if it was given from the heart and it was all that he could afford at the moment. The problem would be if he could afford more and gave you something not accordingly to his income. Now, if he is just starting his career, $500 is acceptable.

You can get an upgrade on your anniversary when you have the financial means to do so. It would be rewarding to know that now you both can afford something fancier! It would be quite an accomplishment for both of you.

Let me tell you a little story, when I became engaged, I didn't even got a ring. We couldn;t afford it! And when I finally got one, a year after we got married, ihe suprised me with a quite modest solitaire diamond ring, but it meant so much to me. He still couldnt affort it, but it meant the world to me.

Moral of the story: Love is priceless.

Good luck

Answer 8

Then give him a style.

If cost doesn't really matter, just pick out the style and let him run with it. You'll be getting plenty of brochures. My husband and I picked out our styles and then went out to find the cheapest version of it.

My sister-in-law spent over $2000 on her engagment ring and over $500 on her wedding band. Her husband's ring cost a whopping $300.

My engagement ring was $100, and my wedding band was less than $200. My husband's wedding band was $80.

Answer 9

It depends on if there is a matching band to go with your engagement ring, or if you just want a plain band. Probably the wedding ring would be less than half that of the engagement ring.

Answer 10

What if instead of giving him a price right now, you tell him you'll both go together to pick out the wedding rings and you can give him a better idea of price then?