Well me and my boyfriend were having a debate about this topic the other day. I feel that as "the man" in the relationship you should for example, take out the trash, cut the grass, wash the car, OFFER to pay for dinner when out, hold doors, put together electronical stuff...and so on! He feels like it’s NO such thing as a "guy role" if something needs to be done then it needs to get done NO matter who does it!
I just feel like what’s the point of being with someone if they cant be there to do the stuff you may not a be good at! I do feel like those things are "guy things" and I don’t want to do them and probably not good at them! I feel that a man should do everything in his power to make his women happy! He should spoil her. I'm no gold digger or nothing I just want a man that’s going to be a MAN! And not say you do it......but instead say it’s already done! What do you think....Ladies and Males?
2006-10-25 07:59:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there absolutely is man and woman roles in a relationship. You just found a sissy with male body parts. The role of the man in a relationship is leadership, security, and comfort. You just found a real loser.
2006-10-25 08:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by jackalope_00 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it would be nice/better for your boyfriend to do such things like take out trash and cut the grass, but I don't agree that there is a such thing as a "role". So just like you say it's a guys "role" to do these things, would it be okay if it's a woman's role to have the kids, wash dishes, clean the house and cook dinner? This is not a womans role, men can do all these things too but some people might argue that it would be better if a woman did these things. Some things might suitable for men and women to do but I don't agree that it's a "role."
2006-10-25 08:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I've been having the same exact problem with my boyfriend. We've had this argument more than a few times. My problem is that I've gone ahead and did the "guy" things when I didnt feel I should have to, and now he's accustomed to me doing it and he won't!
But in addition, I have to do the "girl" things as well. I feel like if I'm taking out the garbage, washing the car, cleaning up the dog poo, etc etc etc, then he should be cleaning, vacuuming, washing the dishes, and cooking. Not all the time but it should be balanced! But he does neither! Life seems like it would be so much easier if our roles were defined and I did "my job" and he did his.
So, needless to say I am considering a seperation!
2006-10-25 08:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna have to agree with your boyfriend on this one. Gender roles went out with record players and Donna Reed. If you're a woman who's capable of doing any or all of those things, why not do them? Why should you need a man for ANYTHING? I hate the thought of being spoiled by a man — I can do that, too.
2006-10-25 11:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! This is 2006. I'm a female and very feminine i might add. I'm into fashion, perfume and getting my hair done every week but in my house me and my bf do everything equal. I cook, clean etc. so does my bf. I fix things and put things together i also take out the trash so does my bf. We both change diapers. 50/50
2006-10-25 08:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you clean the house, wash the dishes, put the groceries away, make breakfast, lunch and dinner when appropriate, do you handle all holiday, thank you and birthday cards to friends and family?
Are you subservient to your man?
If the answer to all of those things is YES,
then that lazy no good boyfriend of yours better get his act together before you meet a real man.
A real man that will protect, honor and love a woman.
To bleed, sweat and cry to support her.
A man that knows his role as a man and adores her role as a women.
2006-10-25 08:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think so to a degree but in this day and age, men and women can reverse roles easier. i know of plenty of guys who are a great "Mr. mom". and i know plenty of women who feel empowered enough to take charge in traditional male duties. the point is that there should be a compromise. try taking turns with the chores. you might surprise yourself on how better you might do things that he would normally do. the same goes for him also.
2006-10-25 08:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think all male would adhere to that, Compromising is very important.Sure its sweet for a guy to do everything. But you ought to think about it. His no SUPERMAN. In a relationship there must be "give and take".
2006-10-25 08:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by KD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's right, they still need to be done and ANYONE can do them. I hope he doesn't think you have to cook, clean, and do laundry just b/c you're a female. It goes both ways.
2006-10-25 08:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋