ok im 14 and me and my bf have been going out since oct 8...this is my longest relationship...i dont think im to young to know what love is...we have been togethere for 17 days now! im so happy!...anytime im not with him i wanna cry and i miss him alot!..and anytime he has 2 leave after walking me all the way home (its a 30min walk) iwe just hold each other and stare at each other and kiss from time 2 time......then he walks all the way back 2 school (another 30 mins)....i go to every JV game he has every weekend at 9:00 or 9:30 in the morning on a saturday! so i mean is this love or what? he treats me so differently then any other guy i have gone with! he tells me he loves me all the time and i tell him it back. and we havent even really talked about sex except when i asked was he a virgin...so i know its not bout sex...and he buys me stuff 2! idk...is this love cuz if it isnt i dont know what is!
2006-10-25 07:49:30 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yay for puppy love.
I won't say that your situation is based out of lust, you see, because it may well not be. However, I also can't say it's true love, because true love continues even after a very long period of time. True love is, in reality, a very deep friendship, a certain comfort with an individual that you could never experience with someone else. It is the inability to imagine life without that person there with you, as though in their absence, your life would not be a life at all.
But I'm rambling on about things that have been debated since the beginning of time. I think it's safe to say, though, that at your age, you are experiencing puppy love, and the difficult thing about puppy love is how closely it resembles true love in the eyes and hearts of the people it affects. It seems so much like true love because it is the early awakening of a feeling that has until now been dormant, and just like a newborn baby's senses are overwhelmed with stimuli because they have never been used, so is this new feeling, called love, oversensitive in one who is for the first time experiencing it.
But alas, it's only puppy love, and it's enjoyable while it lasts, so long as you keep your head and don't do anything you'll regret. Indeed, there are important lessons to be learned from puppy love, but it can't be mistaken for the real thing, no matter how real it seems at the time.
So have fun, enjoy the new sensation of being "in love"; but keep your head. Never compromise, and never give yourself away. Remember that all relationships need time to mature, and when they mature, they aren't always as captivating as they were when they first started. You may think you feel love, and you are indeed feeling a shadow of love, but it will be a long time yet before you can say for certain that you are experiencing true love.
2006-10-25 08:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jacob T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he hasn't had sex, and isn't asking for sex doesn't make it love. Just because he buys you stuff doesn't make it love. Puppy love, a crush,=> yes. You will know it's love after 6 months or a year and you still haven't had sex; he still ahsn't pressured you to have sex; he doesn't buy you anything and you don't care, he walks you home and you don't cry anymore but you still feel warm inside. That is when you can start to think you are in love. Enjoy it, crushes are great. If it disappears, cry for a day or two, then find another crush and enjoy it too. It doesn't have to be love to be fun and exciting.
2006-10-25 07:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by xorosho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can have a very strong attraction to someone and feel emotions for them very soon. Im sure that you care about this boy very much but i think that you need to know a person more then 17 days and know that person well. give it time and dont rush into things your only 14 years old you are very young and at being 14 im sure you dont want to hear how young you are just wait things out and dont rush into things.
2006-10-25 07:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by lovable110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww first of all lemme say that's cute, and i'm happy for u guys. For the first part of a relationship it's always like this fun and exciting lol :-) give it some time and you'll kno if it right now or lovsting (lusting and love) haha take :-)
2006-10-25 07:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety...you have so many similar exerinces ahead of you...many guys will come and go and you will experience many joys and heartaches. Have fun and enjoy yourself, dont be preoccupied with idea of love. You are 14 and you have so much love and life ahead of you!!!!
He should be doing all those things for you!! Don't ever think any different
2006-10-25 07:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Lyssa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL... You are 14 yrs old... You'll realize how trivial this is when you are in your mid twenties... But you've been together for 17 days... thats pathetic and in the future its a relationship you wont even talk about because it is insignificant. This is not love...Not even lust... this is nothing but someone new who is treating you nice.
2006-10-25 07:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to burst your bubble but it's not love or lust it's dependency. Don't get me wrong, it's not such a bad thing It could lead to bigger and better things in time. Don't push it, just let it happen in it's own way. Don't rush into anything just have fun, your only 14 your just getting started.
2006-10-25 08:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by fr2fish 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're going to get a lot of people telling you that you don't know what love is because of your age. Don't believe them. Aren't we raised by parents who tell us they love us? Don't we feel love in return for them?
Only you can know if it's love, and you'll figure it out sooner or later.
2006-10-25 07:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Amelie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 14, you're too young to know the meaning of love. It's more of a strong like.
2006-10-25 07:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are to young to even be thinking about SEx or Love. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 YEARS and thats not enough time for me to decide if i want to have sexual intersourse. 17days is nothing relax and take it day by day. This sounds like LUST to me not LOVE...sorry :(
2006-10-25 07:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by didi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋