i'm jw because i just got dumped and i'm a little overweight and i got some skin problems and maybe thats why he dumped me so guys what do you think?
2006-10-25 07:39:37 · 19 answers · asked by crystal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we dated for 6 months to answer some of your q's
2006-10-25 07:52:18 · update #1
and did you have these problems when you met and got together? People that believe that it matters....are shallow
2006-10-25 07:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by sred 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
my brother and i have a chat about this all the time. He thinks outward appearance matters, he wants to be attracted to the person. i think that with females the attraction can come later. We are more likley to be friends first and then become physically attracted to the person. the true question is how long were you together for? if it was just a few weeks then maybe it didn't work out and you weren't compatable. im in a relationship right now, where i am a little over weight and so is he, he cares more about his looks than i do. but we have fun together. I mean if you get married your looks are going to change and your personality will stay the same. So i say move on and find someone who likes you for who you are not for what you look like. we call can't be barbie dolls.
2006-10-25 07:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by mostgenuine 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well as someone who is overweight also I think it matters. Even though I have been told it shouldn't matter. I think it does. I have been single for 3 yrs after a divorce and I haven't been in a long term relationship. (Not for lack of trying.) It could be that I date shallow guys and not know it until they see me in shorts or mini skirts or the like. The thing I have done is accept myself for who I am and not what the scale says and if I can find a guy to accept me as I am overweight and all. Besides I rather have a guy accept me overweight than when I slim down for various reasons.
2006-10-25 07:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really shouldn't matter, but let's face it, it truly does for the majority of people. I mean, I don't consider myself to be in the good looks category; I have skin problems, small breasts and am thin. I'm surprised at the fact that I even have a bf right now, and he really does love me, or I hope he really does (lol). But don't worry about the guy that hit the road on you, it's not even worth it. He was just more concerned with the way he looked than you.
2006-10-25 07:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by girl_is_depeche 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if your ex didn't find you attractive, they most probably wouldn't have gotten involved with you in the first place.
Appearance does matter in a relationship, but everyone has different tastes when it comes to beauty, so concerning yourself with weather you look enough like Jessica Simpson is a waste of your time.
If the skin and weight problems affect your confidence, then you can always do something about them. If they don't, then I really wouldn't worry about what this ex is or was thinking. It may just have been a bad pairing.
2006-10-25 07:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Outward appearance matters significantly in a relationship. That is the basis of all attraction. Literally, when you first meet a person you know nothing about their moral values, educational background, etc. Although this is what may make the relationship strive, immediately the only thing that you have is the fact that across the restaurant, in the church, or wherever you two meet....that person sure did look good.
2006-10-25 07:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-11-25 20:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by alire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some, outer appearance does matter. But in your case, if he went out with you in the first place, then I do not think that is the reason. Whatever, it might be, i think he and you should have had a talk. it sounds as though you are clueless about what went wrong...maybe he did you a favor. Move on. Do what you need to to be happy w/yourself.
2006-10-25 07:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does matter - it's a lie that people jook beyond otward appearance when meeting someone for the first time. They will simply choose not to bother and move on to someone better looking. If you never get a chance to get up to bat then you'll never get asked out.
Clear up the skin, lose the weight. You'll be more confident and have a far better chance at dating.
2006-10-25 07:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by derek985 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No it doesn't matter its what's on the inside that matters especially when you really love someone. If this person dumped you then they weren't right for you to begin with.
2006-10-25 07:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
they matter at the begining because why would you date a girl that your not even attracted to. i think they matter, but just because the person you love gets a little bit chunky isnt a reason to break up with him or her
2006-10-25 07:43:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋