My grandmother is reluctant to give up honey which I am dealthly allergic to. Honey causes a severe anaphylatic reaction which cause my throat and tongue to swell which if not treated with adrenerline can easily kill me becauseof a fear of needles I hate having to give myself the injection that saves me.
The lastest incident put me in hospital friday. My gran was having a herbal tea with honey in, the honey in the steam caused me to have a reaction. My gran administered the adrenerline and I was rushed to the hospital.
Luckily I pulled through but this incident has had a negative my gran now finding out she can administer the epipen has decided she no longer needs to be carefull with honey as she can give me the needle.
When I was in hospital she promised she would get rid of all the honey in the hoouse but the didnt last till the next day and now there seems to be more lying around the house in jars and lozengers.
2006-10-25 07:36:54 · 16 answers · asked by ask the aliens! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My gran has had a persistant cough for a year now and has been happy with soothers which have no honey in but after this latest reaction she is happy to bring back honey filled lozengers.
Am I being unreasonable asking her to give up something that could kill me even though it help her throat? or should I just move out?
I have tried to live with it but she comes into rooms where I am with her drinks and doesnt care about the fact I have to leave.
I live with my nan as her carer and its not just a case of not eating with her she comes into rooms where I am with drinks full of honey that fill the house.
2006-10-25 07:42:11 · update #1
I live with them and I give them all my money I have no savings and no way of getting any and no where to go where could I move out to?
2006-10-25 07:45:09 · update #2
Do you live with her? MOVE OUT!
2006-10-25 07:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by IC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it unfair that she has to give up her honey, But she could be more sensitive to your allergy to it and be more cautious with it when you are there. Sounds like she either doesn't care about you and your health, likes playing mind games with you, or just plain doesn't understand this is not a joke it's your life she's gambling with. Does she even care that this could kill you? Try to talk to her, tell her you love her but she obviously doesn't care about you. MOVE OUT, keep your money and tell her to hire a live in. Get a place of your own. Why should you continue suffering if she doesn't care. What happens if next time she doesn't give the shot right off the bat? Doesn't call for an ambulance? Or just says oh well big deal?
2006-10-25 07:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by robbie347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! You are not being unreasonable! I think this is terrible! Can I ask how old you are? If ANYONE I was living with (husband, child, roommate) were this allergic to anything I would make sure to get rid of ALL traces of that substance, I don't care how much I loved it. This sounds incredibly selfish to me!! I think she's endangering your life! What if something happens, and you aren't able to get the shot in time? Never mind that it's incredibly unfair to you to have to give yourself a life saving injection every time she has a cup of tea. Her rights end where yours begin, and she does not have the right to endanger you in this way. I would say talk to her, but from the sound of it, it wouldn't do much good, she obviously thinks that her needs are much more important than your safety. Can you move out? STOP giving her your money (tell her you've decided to stop paying rent because she will not respect your needs, and you are going to move out) and save your money until you have enough to move out. She may try to kick you out before you have enough saved, or maybe she'll realize that you're not going to put up with her selfishness, and change. Either way, SOMETHING has to be done, right?
2006-10-25 09:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live with her or does she live with you? If it is your home the tell her that since you have such a severe allergic reaction to the honey - she's not allowed to bring any into your home. If you're living with her then she should be more understanding and slack off on the honey while you're living there but this is her decision. If she refuses (and you live with her) then you may end up having to move out. Good luck.
2006-10-25 07:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but it your gran can't respect the fact that you could die!!!! then you need to get far away from her. She is gonna choose "honey" over her honey (you)??? Just the because she can give you a shot still puts you at risk and in what sounds like a lot of discomfort not to mention inconvenience. Do you think she might possibly be trying to do you in???
2006-10-25 07:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by sissytwo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are a minor and she is your caregiver then you really need to talk to someone about this a school counselor your Dr an aunt anyone who would listen....if its the case where you visit grandma..well tell her straight out if she is more committed to her honey more then she is to her grandchild then if she wants to visit with you then she will have to meet you outside her home and it would have to be a honey free environment..i find it extremely bizarre that a grandmother would risk her grandchild's life over honey..i have a child allergic to honey too...and your grandma needs to know that your epipen may or not work each time...and sometimes you need more then just an epipen...your grandmother really needs to have someone sit down and give it to her straight if she continues this behavior she could kill you ..accidentally ,on purpose..and as inconsiderate at she sounds i doubt that she really wants you to die..
2006-10-25 07:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by Alli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't visit-just phone,and if you live with her move out,I'm sure it will be just as much of a relief to her as you,sounds like your always moaning about it.Give the woman some piece in her old age,if she likes the honey and it does her good let her have it, and stop just thinking about you.
2006-10-25 21:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she loves her honey. Tell her that you can't have the honey around you. Have her move out or you need to.
2006-10-25 07:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your grandmother has long curly fingernails and resembles Bette Davis in 'Whatever happened to baby Jane. Try saying things like "My grand mama what big eyes you've got" etc, and note her responses. Then look up Woodcutter in the Yellow Pages.
2006-10-28 09:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by Pocket Battleship 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No more visits with Gran. Your life is worth far more than she is willing to acknowledge. Call your Gran to keep in touch, but visits are out.
2006-10-25 07:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are under the age of 18 I would suggest you move out. If you are under 18, talk to a counselor at school or your doctor and see if they can talk some sense into her.
2006-10-25 07:40:46 · answer #11 · answered by Nunya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋