i was using my boyfriends phone this morni and a text message pop up it read can i come over i want to ****. on read this i confronted him and his explanation was he has nothing with this girl and she is a friend that he knew a long time ago and nothing happened between them. he said he lost contact with her and then meet her at the party, she then asked him if he had the same number which he did not and he then gave her is new number . what are your views cause i know there is some thing more to this , should i confront this girl,and ask her may be she will tell me what happening.
2006-10-25 07:34:40 · 27 answers · asked by passage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he has a gf on the side you should be understanding to him (he is a guy and you are just a woman) , just let him be himself and you will find that your love will grow for him
2006-10-25 07:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There probably is more to this but don't stoop below your level and call the girl. She is probably immature and will get a kick out of the fact that you even called her. If your man said it's nothing then just drop it. I have been through this. It seems like if you say something and start tripping, the guy seems more willing to go do something wrong. He needs to feel like you trust him and you just need to let him know that giving out his number to "old" friends is not acceptable to you. He told you what happened at the party so that shows you that he probably wasn't giving out his number for those reasons. Make sure you keep the lines of communication open and always try to look at the situation from both point of views.
2006-10-25 14:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by ikkinaw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't trust him, then it doesn't matter one way or the other. But if she does want him, then she will do whatever to break yall up. If she doesn't want him, then she will tell you so, but why would you believe her over him, you don't even know her. It sound kind of fishy, the text and all. I don't think he should have passed on the new number without telling you about it. That means he is also hiding things from ya, so just keep that in mind. I would decide if I believe him or not and if you don't, then get out. But if you decide you do, then ask him to not talk to her anymore. Good luck!
2006-10-25 14:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on a number of different things. Do you trust your bf? How strong is your relationship? What does your heart tell you? Do you really want to know? Going through something very similar myself, I've learned that a big part of a relationship is trust. With that said, if you feel that you need to investigate, you probably don't trust him. If you don't trust him, then is there really a relationship? I think that is the real issue at hand. Is he telling the truth? Only he can tell you that? Or possibly her or his friends. But trust me, that's a hard road to travel. I would suggest to keep your wits about you. Don't let him fool you and get away with it, but also, don't ruin a good relationship over what might honestly be harmless txting
2006-10-25 14:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by James S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to that. You could confront her and ask to satisfy your curiosity. But remember he was the one who did wrong not her. And for her to leave a message like that he had to have been talking about inappropriate things which is the wrong thing to do if you are in a relationship. I would have text the girl back and said I have a girlfriend and I am not interested. Then you could have found out what you need to know. When I went to the store this woman came up to me and knew my name and where I grew up. I never seen this woman before and when I told my husband he said that was his friends girlfriend and he said she told him she grew up in the town I lived in. This confused me because I knew everyone I grew up with and didn't know her. My hubby said don't worry about it she was a s l u t anyway. While going through his phone I found a text messg. saying lets get together later and go to a hotel. I was pissed I asked who was it and it was that girl and I was mad and told him he had to have been talking to her in the wrong way and I didn't appreciate him telling that b i t c h anything about me. He denied it at first and I told him what if I did him like that and he apologized. I think your boyfriend did the same thing. The clue is in your question. He said he never slept with her and she text about sleeping together. He has been talking to her about regretting never getting the chance to sleep with her. He needs to be corrected. He should have never given her his # knowing he has a girlfriend. That is total disrespect.
2006-10-25 14:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is most certainly NOT telling the truth. Good heavens, what a way to catch your man cheating. I don't suppose you read any of the history in his phone to see how often she messages him...and why in the world would he give her his new number??? I'd call her and just talk...see what you can learn without being hostile. Looks as if it is time for a change in your life, dear. Good luck. Remember, it takes two to tango.
2006-10-25 14:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh DEAR, I been through this too many times. Call her!!! Don't be confrontational. She probobly does not even know about you.
First, let her know you are____'s girl friend.
Tell her that you had his hone and she texted the message and she just wanted to know what ws going on, but be careful. If days have past then he probobly already filled her in????
DO NOT TRUST HIM. Would you send a message like that to a guy you have not messed with?
2006-10-25 14:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEF DEF DEF call this girl and ask her for her story. If she agree's that NOTHING happened, that she just wanted to hook up and didnt realize he had a girl.. then he might be worthy of a second look... But I bet thats not her story. I bet they already hooked up because think about it... Would you send a guy you havent already slept with a text like that??? NO. So why would she? I bet he's not being faithful, in which you should dump his sorry @ss asap!
2006-10-25 14:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that i am decent girl, i would never text a man i used to be intimate with or not at all to come over and ******* somthing is definatly going on! If he has nothing to hide, he should let you ask her what the deal is.
2006-10-25 14:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Curlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what.. he's a lying cheat. I would contact the girl via text messaging and pretend your him. Find out whats going on that way and then slam his sorry *** with the truth.
2006-10-25 14:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋