recently met a guy whom I like rather well, the problem is I am Pagan and he is a devout christian, he likes me for who I am but I am not sure if I should tell him about my religion and see how it affects things
2006-10-25 07:27:41 · 14 answers · asked by akasha 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Instead of describing all of your beliefs with a label that he may not understand, why not just discuss various beliefs that you have one at a time? For example, you could discuss polytheism, mythology, reincarnation, karma, the existence of absolute positive or absolute negative, the government not providing pentagrams on headstones, or whatever specific beliefs you may have in your tradition. This way you will be able to gage whether he will be open-minded about your specific beliefs without the negative connotations that the label "pagan" might carry for him.
When I was single I dated many people who loosely associated with Christianity and religion was never an issue. But none were devoutly Christian. Good luck and best wishes that he will be open-minded.
2006-10-25 22:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Witchy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people who have a relationship with the living God know that attempting to get what they want by being deceitful through omission is wrong--and therefore they do not do it, knowing that undisclosed side agendas will harm them eventually, given God's justice, which is perfect.
There is no moral ambiguity when the moral code is clear and has been accepted as having originated from the living God.
Perhaps you should seek the will of the living God regarding this matter.
2006-10-25 14:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A religious guy usually won't stop liking a girl even if she's a pagan. You said it yourself "he likes me for who I am". So just talk to him that you are not into religion. He'll might invite you to become a christian but it won't "affects things" like you said.
2006-10-25 14:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by BotaXupeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. A devout Christian does not necessarily mean a conservative, shove-it-down-your-throat Christian, though. Just beware his propaganda; Christian propaganda can be very gripping and strong. If you do lose him, know that somebody better will come in time, and this experience would be meant to be a learning experience.
2006-10-25 14:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he is a devout christian he should no that it is OK to marry you, There is a chance that he may convert you. If you in no way will convert you should not pursue the relationship.
2006-10-25 14:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is looking for a christian girl I think he would have brought the subject up by now. I don't think you need to address it as an issue with the relationship. So, no don't bring it up unless he asks.
2006-10-25 14:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what does it matter if his religious beliefs are different to yours, he obviously likes you as a person which is much more important than any form of religion, and if he does not react to the news well then given time I am sure he will go back to his bible bashing along with other forms of bashing no doubt
2006-10-25 14:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Em Dee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him now and get it over with. If he doesn't accept you for who you are, then don't let yourself sink in a glass of water just because he doesn't like what you believe....
2006-10-25 14:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by TPCAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. If he's one of those that says you're going to hell, dump him.
2006-10-25 14:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Allison L 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he really loves you, then he'll accept you for what you are and he'll respect your beliefs for it. If he doesn't, then he's probably not worth it!
2006-10-25 14:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋