My bf and I have been dating for about 1 yr and 6 mo., and have been living together for almost a year.
Sometimes we get into arguments...and some points it seems like everyday. He always walks out of the house and basically threatens to break up with me.
But other than those times, we seem pretty happy with eachother.
Only thing is we seem to annoy eachother in some ways: He nags at me all the time and I sometimes snap at him.
Our sex life isnt exciting anymore....he always wants to do it..but for his own pleasure and not mine--so Ive become bored with it.
We both love eachother a lot, but we talked last night and it seems like we might not be able to be together....we dont know how to fix it..andit feels like our love is dwindling.
Please help!
2006-10-25 07:23:36 · 9 answers · asked by I Love My Kitties 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would really love to be with him....I mean, we both were eachother's firsts and if I were to go back in the dating world--I feel like I would never really find and innocent/pure guy...because in college, all they do is sleep with tons of girls.
2006-10-25 08:40:36 · update #1
well stop arguing and try to be more understanding and tell him u love him ever morning u wake up. let him know that u really love him a lot, talk to him let him know how u feel after ever argument u have with him.
if u really love him u and him will fix all the problems guest by talking and not killing each other.
well in ur sex life u should make a special night like make a night dinner something that he likes to eat and then u should decorate ur room with red sheets, curtains, red roses, cover, and get a red skanky lingerie. Go to Lingeries.com and u will find some very nice one and that will make ur man want to do it all night long!!
2006-10-25 07:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but this is never gonna work. This guy is still imature, I know because I used to do those same things. When a man is mature enough he doesnt argue, he talks calmly. A man has to fix the problem at hand, not just walk away and let it pass. My wife yells at me sometimes but I dont argue back with her because I know the argument will get much bigger. I let her cool off than I talk to her and we resolve the problem not make it bigger. If u aint happy now it will not get better, u need a better man who is mature. Good luck.
2006-10-25 07:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by rudy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are too many "red flags" it would seem from your question that you know the answer....it is time to break off this relationship, the love that was there has gone, don't allow yourself to go on being hurt, or continue hurting each other. Your love has dwindled, let it go. Wish I could say somthing else, but i think it's true, that it is over between you both. I wish you both well and good luck.
2006-10-25 07:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i thinkg u should try this thing called typhoon. its when u try to go 3 months with ur partner without making out or having sex. by the end of the 3 months u guys will want to be all over eachother because it will b hard to resist. trust, this works in a relationship...ive tried it before and know me and my boyfriend are closer than ever.
ur probably gonna end up wanting to b all over him. talk to ur boyfriend about this idea and see if he wants to try it. See if u can last 3 months! Good Luck!
2006-10-25 07:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by jelly1505 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a strange idea of love-
Living together out of wedlock
Arguing every day
Walking out rather than resolving conflicts
Threatening to break up
Annoying each other
Nagging and snapping at each other
Lack of intimacy
It's possible you felt infatuation, and you moved in together based on that infatuation, rather than compatibility, so there's no way to fix it. If you're not planning to get married, break up and move on. If you're going to get married, get some pre-marital counseling.
2006-10-25 07:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship could last if you want to be miserable 24/7. I speak from experience...at least you don't have kids w/him.
You 2 sound a lot like my hubby and myself when we first moved in...now we don't have that great of a marriage because neither of us knew when to quit the relationship.
Things won't get better if you both don't fix your issues.
2006-10-25 07:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh that is so sad , but u know dont ever think like that just try to be more nice to him and go to the beach and go more romantic places with him and have a grate time with him dont make him mad!!!! But u know if u could see that it is not ok then broke up with him u know the life could be mean and could me nice u know what i mean . Dont ever be sad !!!!!!!!! I hope everything will be good
2006-10-25 07:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sevuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you WANT to continue seeing someone you fight with so frequently, who you do not enjoy sharing intimacy with and who you generally do not seem to view as your favorite person? So you can argue more? So you don't have to admit your relationship didn't work out? I don't get it. Move out and move on. That is no way to get through life.
2006-10-25 07:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I f he is already saying he is going to leave then next thing he is going to say is that he wants a divorce.....end it now
2006-10-25 07:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by JANET 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋