I have been dating this woman I met on my space for a couple of weeks. She seems very needy and has Latched on to me. The bedroom part is great, but i don’t want to spend every free minute I have with her.. Any suggestions how to get her to back off a little but still keep her?
I am just starting to date again ..i am 42 and she is 45..
2006-10-25 07:20:25 · 20 answers · asked by carpet man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest. You are both adults and it would crush her if she knew that you felt this way and didn't tell her. She would rather you tell her what's going on before it is too late and you totally pull away and don't want to see her anymore.
2006-10-25 07:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Silly ol Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you want to slow down a little - tell her that you need some time to catch your breath before she takes it away again.
I am in a similar situation right now except that I like this girl in every way OTHER than in the bedroom. She wants to get serious but I know that if I'm not happy in the bedroom then we wont have much of a future.
Telling her what I told you backed her off without getting her angry. Keep in mind that needy girls will not be deterred by anything so don't be too afraid of speaking your mind.
2006-10-25 14:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by derek985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be up front and honest with her..tell her that you really like her and don't want to lose her but you feel things are happening really fast tell her you enjoy spending alot of time with her but you want to have time to watch To game with the guys go out for a beer whatever and tell her that she could be doing something with her friends at the same time so neither of you will be lonely. my opinion is if she is that attached and its only been a couple of weeks that it won't last long if you are with each other 24/7 try actually going out and doing stuff..dating is more then sex...see what you all have in common besides good sex..good luck...I am a 31 year old woman and if you don't spend time away from each other you can't miss each and missing each other causes passion..strong passion causes better bedroom behavior
2006-10-25 14:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if you didn't want her to latch on, you shouldn't be sleeping with her so soon. Its not good. The only thing good you have to say about her is the bedroom part. You need to stop the games with this woman and tell her exactly how you feel and if she is fine with it, then great and if not move on. Don't lead her on though.
2006-10-25 14:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by wesgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 44 he's 42 and I love being with my boyfriend and would spend all the spare time I had with him BUT, I have an outside life and kids and friends to be with. I go over to his place 3-5 days a week. I give him all the space he needs. I call and ask him if he wants me to come over or if he needs space? Tell her you need space and why. Explain to her that if you don't get it you may get cranky and you don't want to get mad at her. It took me a long time to realize if I don't give him his space time he becomes annoyed. cranky and pissy with me even if he doesn't mean to. Ask her if that's what she wants. Everyone needs time apart. To keep busy I spend alot of time with my kids of course, but I also joined a womens group, and spend time with my friends. Tell her you love her and want her but not everyday. Hopefully she'll understand good luck.
2006-10-25 14:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by robbie347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her, be gentle though if she's needy she may have been hurt before. just be straight up with her tell her how you're feeling and try to find out if there's a reason why she's like that.
you say the bedroom part is great ddo you actually like spending time with her that doesn't include sex? because if it's just about the sex just leave.
2006-10-25 14:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by VeeVee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most women are like that when they get a good man. i would say just give it a little more time and then she should be working you in with her other responsibilities.
you two had separate lives before meeting so there are somethings that she may want to take care of and not be hanging on you all the time. GL
2006-10-25 14:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by porsha226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh, that can be a problem. One thing you can do is just spend time with the guys doing guy things...she probably won't have any interest in that and that will give her some time for herself and maybe she'll take on a new hobby like guy hunting...
2006-10-25 14:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must decide... which you like...her to back off...or to keep her...why do you need to keep her..if you will date to other women... you said it yourself you don't want to spend every free minutes of yours with her...it seems you only like the bedroom part... set her free...im sure somewhere along the way ... you will find your mate who is also as good as her and the one you will feel to spend more of your time .....
2006-10-25 14:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by ely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that and my man told me out right that I was too clingy! I didn't want to loose him so I backed off. Been married now for 8 years
2006-10-25 14:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by lpdecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋