Why are some parents afraid to discipline their child(ren)?

Answer 1

the reasons are endless...but the biggest is as others have said ...the government / big brother has taken over telling parents what is the right way to discipline their children
spanking is abuse
talking wrong to them is verbal abuse
making them do chores or giving them restrictions is mental abuse
in other words anything you do to discipline your children or to make them better people is now considered abuse.
there is a big differences between discipline and abuse and people need to realize this.
any body in late 20s or older we were all spanked as children and survived we were not abused but punished. and we were taught to respect our elders ...now children are taught in the schools that they can say and do what ever they feel is right.
and i could go on more about how the economy has made it hard for parents not to work 2+ jobs just to keep roofs over their heads and others are left to raise the children.

Answer 2

I feel that most parents these days work a full time job and feel guilty for disciplining the children, don't want the kids to hate them. Then there are some cases that I believe are due to laziness. Too lazy to get up and spank the child let's just holler at them and scar them emotionally. Then you have the parents that believe that it is wrong to spank kids because then they will be scared of you, well in my opinion kids need to have a little fear of their parents or discipline would not be effective. If you have no fear of consequence what stops you from doing it? Children depend on three things until they are teens, love, routine, and discipline all three which coinside, you love your kids so you give them a healthy routine and don't want them to be a delinquent that's where the discipline comes in.

Answer 3

I'd say it's one of 3 reasons. 1.) Parents want their kids to like them so they don't punish them when they should. 2.) They buy into the hogwash that spanking or punishing your child in anyway will "harm" them psychologically, to which I say horse pucky. or 3.) They believe their kids are angels and other people's kids are the brats. They spoil their kids rotten and don't see anything wrong with it.
I know that punishment can be hard on the parents to see their kids cry, but it's what shapes their morals and helps them learn right from wrong. Spanking is fine (a few pops on the rear), but a beating is not. Grounding works after they get a little older. Taking away privileges or toys works any time. Don't be afraid to discipline your kids. If you love them you will do it.

Answer 4

Because they are "too busy".
Are afraid of being accused of abuse
Are afraid of negative comments from others
Don't care what their children do
Don't believe in it.

There are a few possibilities. I think a lot of it has to do with the way discipline is looked at in our society these days. Especially methods like spanking. That and families just don't seem to have the time for one another like they used to.

How many families eat dinner together 7 nights a week anymore? Not too many.

Answer 5

We live in a very changing world, and sadly,
the government and "Big brother" likes
to dictate how parents should raise their children. A little
smack here and there is now considered as child abuse.

I think parents are made to feel guilty about disciplining their
children.
It seems to be a big problem in today's society. You just have to look at the disrespect children display in public.

The bible speaks about "sparing the rod and spoiling the child".
But discipline dosn't have to always involve smacking.
Discipline done in love will go a long way.
Parents need to decide what's best for their children and ignore
what society thinks.
Hope that helps : )

Answer 6

When I met my husband I asked him why he never disciplines his kids??? He told me they are just kids...they are only making little mistakes. He said some day they will mature. I tried to tell him there is no switch in the back of them that you flip and they will just mature. They mature from all your teaching's over the years. If you never teach them anything they are not going to know right from wrong. Now they are 10 and out of control. I tried to tame them, but it was making me a very unhappy person.

I think people think...If I yell at my kids they will hate me. I got news for them. My parents spanked me and I love them more than anything in the world. My parents didn't have to spank me too much, because I didn't want to get spanked. I had respect for them. With today's kids they are told in school that if you get spanked it is abuse and you are to tell the teacher. The kids hold this against you. So if you get mad...they say...I'll tell my teacher if you do anything to me. There are kids that are abused, but I don't think what my parents did to me was abuse.

I hate to see what my kids, kids are going to be like. It will be interesting.

Answer 7

one of the biggest problems today is that people are paying others to raise their kids for them and then feel so guilty about this, they do no disciplining and rationalize that the day care center does.

some people may be too ignorant to understand not spanking does not mean not disciplining. loving guidance and consistency is all that's needed to raise fine children and citizens.

Answer 8

Maybe because there are too many liberal do-gooders out there trying to convince everyone that discipline equals abuse? See the question before yours (from fatladyvan) for an example.

Frankly, I think it's a sad state of affairs that so many kids are undisciplined...they have no sense of law, rules, or living in a civilized society. Sigh.

Answer 9

I don't know but it makes it harder for someone to watch them. Some parents tend to believe their kids don't need discipline just a good talking too. WRONG

Answer 10

most are because they think their children will get very upset and call child abuse hot-line or something.and the parent might think the child might not love them or care for them that much.
but parents must learn that you have to discipline your child if you don't want them to do the mistake again its just showing that the parent wants best for them.